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For people who were married when you started your transition, were you able to stay married throughout your transition?

I didn't vote because there isn't a category for those of us trying while transitioning.  Me and SO are trying, but it took her 5 years to get to this point. :( :o ;)

Five months from coming out, 1 week on Spiro.  So far still together.  We are becoming more friends than lovers.  There are the occasional benefits but greatly reduced.

She is not comfortable seeing me in skirts and dresses, so I don't.  I suspect I'll end up in the other bedroom when the estradiol kicks in.

Yes. Being with someone who's as open-minded and honest as I am allows us to be who we feel we are.

Actually I moved out of the house to my own place this past Sunday. 11 months after I came out to my wife. We tried many different avenues of staying together but we couldn't find one that seemed to work. We are not divorcing till later this year to give it time to see if we can get back together and live as friends. We are still the best of friends and text frequently throughout the day. This has been a multi year process and has worn her down to nothing emotionally. We didn't have a name for it for a long time and once we did it seemed to continue downward faster. Considering everything, she has been amazingly supportive but we had to get apart so we can heal. I also had a hard time letting my full female side out while in husband/father mode. The story continues to be written.

So far so good. As long as I keep researching the subject and explaining the intricacies of the situation to her she is good. We both rely on each other as we are both disabled. My children have also stood by me. I have physically changed somewhat. But like they said. You have always been Dad. You will always be Dad with a different name. I can live with that.

I'd love to answer a resounding YES, which does cover to this day. Next week, next year, next 10 years. Those are up for grabs in any relationship. You have to work for it ... while enjoying each other as well, of course. Otherwise what's the point :P

Mine has so far.  It's been 7 months since I came out to her and she has stayed by my side.  She is getting more comfortable with everything.  At first the little things freaked her out but she is getting used to it.  Oh god, I've corrupted her. :)

Nope.  I knew from day one it was over.  I was delusional in thinking otherwise.

Time to move on.  We both have happily I think.

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I'm not sure how to answer.  I'm not through transitioning.  I talked to my wife about it 8 months ago and she has been with me giving me support.  We just signed for a big loan together, so I believe we are fine.

Yes.  Within two minutes of coming out to her, she said the magic words: "Whatever you decide to do, I will support you."   Wow!  If anything, we are closer together.

She found it odd to become a lesbian through no choice of her own, but she has fun with it.

Yes here, we have been together now for over 35 years, I've medically / socially transitioned since 2010 and we are still together doing what we've always done, supporting each other and our family. It's not always been easy, and the relationship has evolved...we are more like sisters today. Love, honesty, and devotion to each other are unyielding.....

Cynthia -

I was never married. Before transitioning I was a complete screw up on a personal level.