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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: stephaniec on March 30, 2016, 02:29:00 PM

Title: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: stephaniec on March 30, 2016, 02:29:00 PM
I was sick and got admitted to the hospital the last couple of days. I haven't had a legal name change yet so when I go to the hospital I go as male. The clinic I go to I go as myself  because they're an LGBT focused clinic, but not the hospital. I've haven't been so bombarded with being male named in a long time. It's not their fault because legally I go by my male name. I's was pretty funny though because of my breasts . I like my breasts a lot because they are getting so nicely shaped. All the doctors examining me kept staring at my breasts. both the male and female doctors . It was quote interesting. The way I handled it was just to tell them the clinic I go to . The clinic is a well known and actually the only one that caters to the LGBT community. How's everyone's experiences dealing with hospital visits when you haven't had you name legally changed.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: Denise on March 30, 2016, 02:35:02 PM
Interesting.  It just points out the million little details that take time to straighten out.  Then when you think you have it all done - WHAM, one more biggie.

Thanks for the story.  It seems you are/were okay with how everything went down.  You even appear to have found it a little humorous.

I hope you are better.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: Ms Grace on March 30, 2016, 02:40:25 PM
Time to get your name legally changed Stephanie!
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: stephaniec on March 30, 2016, 02:47:40 PM
yes Ms. Grace that's a definite need to.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: stephaniec on March 30, 2016, 02:48:35 PM
Quote from: pj on March 30, 2016, 02:35:02 PM
Interesting.  It just points out the million little details that take time to straighten out.  Then when you think you have it all done - WHAM, one more biggie.

Thanks for the story.  It seems you are/were okay with how everything went down.  You even appear to have found it a little humorous.

I hope you are better.
thanks, I'm feeling a lot better.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: Floritine on March 31, 2016, 04:54:25 AM
I changed my name a few days before I started my HRT and it made life so much easy, esp when going into hospital and not having to explaing why Im on female HRT and watching them put the correct gender on my id braclet made me feel great, and not having the docs or nurses refer me as M
and other documents / referalls having Ms on them.
It was one of the best decisions I made at the start making my life that much easier in a long transition....

Cheers Tracy
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: AnonyMs on March 31, 2016, 05:12:13 AM
I was in hospital overnight for a couple of days a few years ago, and I ended up sharing a room with several women. I told the doctors I was on HRT, but I'm presenting male, and look it. I could never work out if sharing like that was just normal or it was a special case.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: DanielleA on March 31, 2016, 05:46:28 AM
My family and I are well known at the hospital I go to. Mum even works there so I get the royal treatment (  I think that I am the only patient that gets hot toast at mums hospital ). There are people at the hospital that don't like what I am and it shows when they interact with me. One of these nurses even spoke to mum about how people like us should all be killed. I have said that I don't want her any were near me if I am ever admitted to hospital.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: AnonyMs on March 31, 2016, 06:53:14 AM
Quote from: DanielleA on March 31, 2016, 05:46:28 AM
One of these nurses even spoke to mum about how people like us should all be killed. I have said that I don't want her any were near me if I am ever admitted to hospital.

That sounds like something you could go to the police with. They are in a position of life and death over patients in a hospital, and if not you it could be someone else.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: Floritine on March 31, 2016, 07:15:59 AM
Quote from: AnonyMs on March 31, 2016, 05:12:13 AM
I was in hospital overnight for a couple of days a few years ago, and I ended up sharing a room with several women. I told the doctors I was on HRT, but I'm presenting male, and look it. I could never work out if sharing like that was just normal or it was a special case.
As I use to be a frequent flyer in hospital over the years they usually put you where ever they have a spare bed space and not female / male rooms on the ward and based on your medical
condition.....

Quote from: DanielleA on March 31, 2016, 05:46:28 AM
My family and I are well known at the hospital I go to. Mum even works there so I get the royal treatment (  I think that I am the only patient that gets hot toast at mums hospital ). There are people at the hospital that don't like what I am and it shows when they interact with me. One of these nurses even spoke to mum about how people like us should all be killed. I have said that I don't want her any were near me if I am ever admitted to hospital.
As for nurses some are good and do there best to help you , while on the other hand some are bad and really shouldnt be nurses cause they have certain beleifs and dont leave there crap at home..
Just the same as docs there are good ones and bad ones, so it just luck of the draw who you get...

Cheers Tracy
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: stephaniec on March 31, 2016, 08:05:03 AM
I had a  nurse assistant  that seemed annoyed to be taking care of me , but I'm not sure if it was me or just the way she always was. She waited for me to take of the monitor stickers on my chest tough, my breasts are quite noticeable .
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: sandrauk on March 31, 2016, 08:41:03 AM
I'm not socially out so I always knew that any hospital time would be interesting with 34d's. I had a stroke 2 years ago and for the first 24+ hours was delirious.
My wife says I was cursing and ripping my clothes off  showing my boobs to all and sundry. I have a vague recollection of someone saying don't worry we get a lot of trans people. When I  recovered the doctor kept asking "do you remember anything from when you first came in" but I didn't. From his tone, it would have been embarrassing if  I had remembered.

The hospital is  300 yards from my home, so I got the doctor telling me that he went to school with my son, two of the carers told me they knew me from work, but it was never any problem. I was more worried about the other  patients than the staff but I was never asked to undress without a screen even on a same sex ward.

It did seem strange that I needed to have it checked that I could shower safely on three separate occasions by two people accompanying me (six in all), but I wasn't complaining about having two nubile young girls in the shower with me.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: KyleeKrow on March 31, 2016, 09:18:20 AM
Usually in awkward situations like that I'll open my smart mouth and turn the awkwardness around. If the doctors and nurses kept staring at my boobs I might point to my face and say, "My tits are up here!" or something along those lines. I like to be able to laugh about it.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: Ritana on March 31, 2016, 11:08:06 AM
I have recently been hospitalised, and I had to tell the two doctors who treated me I'm a post op transexual. Within minutes of them leaving the room, I had several members of staff coming to see me just to say hi (the news  was speading around). One cheeky nurse -who was not even involved in my treatment-  told me "it's the consequence of having so many surgeries", when in fact I had only told the doctors about my SRS. I was quite pissed off at this, but I didn't say anything back as I was in pain.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: mm on April 01, 2016, 09:55:49 AM
 Ritana, that is illegal according to HIPP, hospital staff have a right to know to be able to best treat you, but stall not involved in your treatment donot need to know and should not come into your room to see you.  You should file a complaint with the hospital.  I have wondered with me living as a guy and still not legally changed my name.  How would I be seen and treated in a hospital.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: stephaniec on April 01, 2016, 02:43:45 PM
I don't know the type of hospital your in , but I go to a teaching hospital associated with the University of Chicago and I always get a boat load of the staff coming in looking at me. I have some what of a unique condition and  they ask a lot of questions and I end up repeating all day long.
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: cindianna_jones on April 01, 2016, 03:05:36 PM
I had my name changed even before my divorce was finalized. I did that knowing it would open more doors. I don't know how I accomplished so much so quickly. I was so driven. But I did have a negative reaction once, long after I had my surgery. I was even married to a guy. I had a tick buried in my crotch and while the doctor was removing it, he made a comment about me being trans. I just said "yes." I later went into the same clinic with a kidney stone... the pain was excruciating. I was on the floor in agony and they would not see me. I waited for hours until my hubby threatened legal recourse. Ugh!
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: immortal gypsy on April 01, 2016, 04:49:50 PM
For me it depended on the hospital and the nurses. I kept all my medication in my bag some would glance over  and ignore the HRT in a large pile of meds, others would give me the third degree "why am I taking these, who prescribed them to me" ect, ect, ect.

Now when they go in my bag (always with my permission) when they see my HRT they think it's just the pill, (their words)
Title: Re: weird experience at the hospital
Post by: Ritana on April 01, 2016, 10:15:18 PM
Mm,


I know what you mean, and you are absolutely right! However, I am very ill at the moment. and my priority is to recover.