She said that it was weird and was basically in shock about it. I told her as we were about to have sex and that stopped us dead. She said I would make a pretty girl but she was scared what everyone would think, then a few mornings later, she said that she couldn't love me the same if I transitioned. She backtracked the next day and said it would take a long time to get used to but she loves me no matter what. I don't know where she is at on this.
I have to say that your timing was interesting!
I suppose I'm increasingly feeling how would you feel, honestly, if your partner - in your case a female, came out to you as being male?
How would you react?
When i came out to my ex she said that she had suspected for ages but was glad that i had told her . She then said " your boobs better not get bigger than mine [emoji3]" .
Good luck with your partner hon hope it all goes smooth.
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Her response seems pretty much on par with many partners. If she is exclusively hetro it makes sense she would find it difficult to be in a relationship with a woman. Many straight women love their girlfriends but have no attraction to them or desire to sleep with them. Give her some time and space, she may eventually come around.
Quote from: Cindy on March 31, 2016, 03:10:29 AM
I have to say that your timing was interesting!
I suppose I'm increasingly feeling how would you feel, honestly, if your partner - in your case a female, came out to you as being male?
How would you react?
ditto
When I came out to my wife, even still now 3 months later, it is an up and down discussion. Give her time, and maybe take her to a support group meeting with you. She is in a situation she's never been in. The important thing is keep communicating with her. She has to be given the freedom to come to her own conclusions.
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Quote from: sara.lynn on March 31, 2016, 02:12:27 PM
When I came out to my wife, even still now 3 months later, it is an up and down discussion. Give her time, and maybe take her to a support group meeting with you. She is in a situation she's never been in. The important thing is keep communicating with her. She has to be given the freedom to come to her own conclusions.
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Rough situation to be in, for both you and your wife. She has to deal with and process information which you may have been privy to for years. My wife, after finding out was all about divorce. Stopped transition but started again. Niw, 5 years later, she is willing to stay with me. Time can be a great communicator! Wishing you the best!
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Here are a few resources that might help you explain:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,197523.msg1756901.html#msg1756901
You might also talk to her ... explain what it means to you ... your feelings ...
well imo she is puzzled and does not exactly know what it means ... and how to proceed ...
- you might explain
- you might tell that there is a biological explanation so you are really a woman
- if you are on hrt you might tell her that the male function is turned off . Some meds for hrt are also used for chemical castration.
(careful though, use condoms. There might be fertility the first few months).
- well I'd say do a few things to reassure her of your love ... flowers and a good dinner go a long way ...
*hugs*
Quote from: Cindy on March 31, 2016, 03:10:29 AM
I suppose I'm increasingly feeling how would you feel, honestly, if your partner - in your case a female, came out to you as being male?
How would you react?
The problem with that question is that us humans are rather biased creatures. We are likely to convince ourselves that we would have as much acceptance as we are looking for. If you could find a time machine and ask me a year ago, when I still assumed I was cis. I would like to think I'd give the same answer as today, but can't guarantee it.