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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: supergirl23 on May 13, 2016, 06:55:44 PM

Title: My friend is getting married.
Post by: supergirl23 on May 13, 2016, 06:55:44 PM
Hey everyone,
My friend is getting married tomorrow and she was the first person I came out to. Am I still going to be able to talk with her? Since I haven't started my transition yet would it be appropriate to do things together still? Like go out to lunch?


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Title: Re: My friend is getting married.
Post by: Dena on May 13, 2016, 07:07:48 PM
It depends on what everybody is comfortable with. There is nothing wrong with it but jealously changes the rules between former couples. If your friend and her husband are comfortable with you, then plan on going out together. If they are not, you are best not creating friction in the relationship. It has nothing to do with trans as this is a common problem in CIS couples. 
Title: Re: My friend is getting married.
Post by: supergirl23 on May 13, 2016, 07:20:21 PM
What if I don't really know her husband personally?


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Title: Re: My friend is getting married.
Post by: Dena on May 13, 2016, 07:27:37 PM
Your friend will know what her husband will accept. Just ask if she is available to visit with you and if so, enjoy yourself.
Title: Re: My friend is getting married.
Post by: Nicole on May 14, 2016, 04:55:22 AM
Your friendship is with her and not him.

Unless he's a controlling a-hole there shouldn't be a reason why you 2 shouldn't be friends for ever more