Facing the Truth About Deep Stealth
http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2016/5/26/facing-truth-about-deep-stealth
The Advocate/BY AMANDA KERRI MAY 26 2016 5:43 AM EDT
"Ever since trans people started becoming more visible, I've been getting a lot more people at work talking to me about trans issues — people I've worked with for years who have never said anything about it before. The worst is when they lean in and talk to me in those hushed tones. You can see them take a quick look around and lean in. All you can think is, Oh, God.
When someone I normally don't work with called me "sir" the other day, they apologized for 10 minutes even though I kept telling them it was OK. "I just want to respect you!" Good, then stop apologizing after I tell you it's OK the first five times — heaping ashes on your head and taking a pilgrimage to Lourdes is unnecessary."