Let me start by saying that I identify as genderfluid and lesbian, I've been on HRT for 8+ months, and frankly, I like my penis. I feel like I am quite literally the only person that feels this way.
To get to the reason why you clicked on this to start reading this: tucking. I don't want to ask how to do it (I know how, and do it reasonably well); i want to ask if I actually need to do it. Like i said above, I like my penis and so i ask, why do I have to hide it? Why do I have to desperately smooth out my junkular region?
I currently go to a university and I am quite literally in the most accepting place I've known. Still, when I want to wear like really short shorts, what would happen if I didn't tuck? Can I do that? I volunteer at an LGBTQ+ center, I help all around at other LGBTQ+ friendly things, and yet i still feel like i have to hide a part of myself because of overarching societal binaristic norms. I feel like whenever I tuck, I try and hide a part of me, and it feels like I'm body shaming myself.
Anyways, yeah, that's my rant. If anyone feels the same or has anything to contribute: please do.
You don't have to do anything but you might find that other people in public will have opinions about that regardless of how "accepting" they may be. If you're prepared to weather their scrutiny and possible vehement interjections then do as you please.
Nicole, I totally agree with you. If you are not concerned about what has become known as "passing", then the decision whether to tuck is an intensely personal one, on which no one need weigh in except you.
Good for you but all that tucking stuff is sure a pain in the butt for me. I'll be glad when all that extra stuff is just gone so my panties fit better.......life is more simple......
I like my penis, too. I don't tuck, but my lover commented on how tight my panties were, and I told him it was to keep the bulge under control. He said "I think trans women should show their bulges with pride". Totally won me over with that! Some of us are exotic hybrids, myself included. If that shoe fits you, wear it!
Hugs, Devlyn
Thank you all so much for commenting! I appreciate all of the help and advice you gave!
Maybe one day this summer I won't tuck and see how it goes.
Quote from: NicoleAshley on May 31, 2016, 09:09:17 AM
Thank you all so much for commenting! I appreciate all of the help and advice you gave!
Maybe one day this summer I won't tuck and see how it goes.
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I must confess that i have never had the need or desire to tuck and thus it has been hard for me to understand why it very important to others, but i understand it is very important to some. I understand the concept of it and have played around a bit with it to look at the difference.
Maybe it is because my parts down there are pretty small to begin with, i wear skinny jeans, skirts and even swimsuits all of the time without thinking about it. (in fact my size sort of made it difficult to tuck anyways) To my knowledge, nobody has ever stared at me down there and certainly never mentioned anything.
I also do have some body dysphoria (particularly to body hair before hormones), but was never dysphoric about my penis. Mentally i pretty much think of it as a clitoris, i hope that does not sound flippant or too strange.
It is mostly about the look for me. Just don't like the bulge in a dress. However it seems like I am not very good at it - it does feel uncomfortable quickly and for whatever reason I cannot sit lady-like when tucking... Maybe I am still doing something wrong.
Unfortunately it is pretty visible in most situations. Just found some skater dresses where it does not show up as much.
I'm very small when soft and all I have to do is push it into a cavity I have,sorta like a turtle going into it's shell,and pull my ballsack up and it makes me flat,been doing this since I was a teen and found I had a cavity I can push it into..I also learned too love me penis for I love women and love the feel of penetration..
I suffer from really intense genital dysphoria but I stopped tucking years ago. I find it to be annoying honestly, I even wear thongs sometimes but I can get away with it no problem because my testes shrunk so much over the years that it just looks like I have puffy labias when I wear pants lol like camel toe-ish
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Quote from: NicoleAshley on May 31, 2016, 02:07:42 AM
junkular region
Awesome.
As to the topic at hand, I was just complaining to a friend yesterday about tucking. I've never been a fan of my parts down there, and tucking causes a permanent awareness of what's going on in my pants that I really hate.
I think it's awesome there are trans women who are comfortable with their...junkular region...but not me. The continuous size changes depending on mood, temperature, and stimulus (bouncy bus rides in middle school? anyone?) and the stupid ridiculous sensitivity of it make it so it's always been impossible for me to be comfortable for more than like 5 minutes at a time. I think I'd not mind it so much if it were detachable and I could stow it in a drawer when I don't have a use for it. Which is pretty much always.
Kinda bums me out though, because it technically works (or worked, before HRT) really freaking well, and it gives me a feeling of fixing what ain't broke, in the sense my body has always worked awesomely, and attempting to transition has basically put me in an active war with what my body is/is trying to do. This body would've worked out really well, if I were a guy.
Well, the good thing about clothing is that you can vary it according to the occasion. In fact, I believe the wearing of clothing is really more a social ritual than a practical thing, except in more extreme environmental conditions. So if you feel it's acceptable to not tuck, wear your bulge with pride, I suppose. You can always wear a more tucky garment for an occasion in which it might feel preferable.
Personally, I've really never worried a lot about tucking, nor do I often wear clothing that's very tight down there, anyway. It may be different for some people, but for me, the tucking thing isn't much of an issue, anyway.
I have intense dysphoria around my junkular region.
Tight clothing helps reduce movement and tucking moves the sensation from the sensitive parts to the places where my brain believes they should be.
I do both to reduce dysphoria, which otherwise manifests as pain.
This is as well as the actual pain from bashing myself in the junkulars, ( I do like that word btw), when my body space doesn't match my brain map, usually in the kitchen. Let's just say countertops are merciless, but I still love cooking...
Sno
I learned to tuck from a drag queen performer decades ago and it is nice to be able to make "it" disappear sometimes. I can say that a combined 1.5 years of HRT has really helped alter things to a much more easily hideable size.
It is a pain, but it helps when in a bikini or tight shorts now that we are entering in to summer.
Quote from: RobynD on May 31, 2016, 10:27:35 AM
Maybe it is because my parts down there are pretty small to begin with, i wear skinny jeans, skirts and even swimsuits all of the time without thinking about it. (in fact my size sort of made it difficult to tuck anyways) To my knowledge, nobody has ever stared at me down there and certainly never mentioned anything.
I don't pack, so I guess I feel you? I'm not interested in people "checking out my bulge". Whatever. I'm sort of packing-curious because I keep thinking it could help with my dysphoria but in all honesty I haven't had positive results.
Quote from: NicoleAshley on May 31, 2016, 02:07:42 AM
Let me start by saying that I identify as genderfluid and lesbian, I've been on HRT for 8+ months, and frankly, I like my penis. I feel like I am quite literally the only person that feels this way.
To get to the reason why you clicked on this to start reading this: tucking. I don't want to ask how to do it (I know how, and do it reasonably well); i want to ask if I actually need to do it. Like i said above, I like my penis and so i ask, why do I have to hide it? Why do I have to desperately smooth out my junkular region?
I currently go to a university and I am quite literally in the most accepting place I've known. Still, when I want to wear like really short shorts, what would happen if I didn't tuck? Can I do that? I volunteer at an LGBTQ+ center, I help all around at other LGBTQ+ friendly things, and yet i still feel like i have to hide a part of myself because of overarching societal binaristic norms. I feel like whenever I tuck, I try and hide a part of me, and it feels like I'm body shaming myself.
Anyways, yeah, that's my rant. If anyone feels the same or has anything to contribute: please do.
If you're involved in LGBTQ+ spaces and openly identify as GQ NB I don't see why showed mixed sex characteristics should be any kind of issue. I could see it as an issue in some Lesbian-only spaces, though. Many of them aren't keen on home grown junk and some don't like the plastic issued stuff either.
Quote from: AnxietyDisord3r on June 02, 2016, 08:13:45 PM
If you're involved in LGBTQ+ spaces and openly identify as GQ NB I don't see why showed mixed sex characteristics should be any kind of issue. I could see it as an issue in some Lesbian-only spaces, though. Many of them aren't keen on home grown junk and some don't like the plastic issued stuff either.
Personally I think I'd find it really interesting. And then get embarrassed because I guarantee I'd be caught looking. I'm so not smooth.
I am not going to tuck! Why is someone looking there anyway. Are those same people going to watch me use the bathroom? Eww. People need to keep their eyes off my junk and show some damn respect.
Quote from: NicoleAshley on May 31, 2016, 02:07:42 AM
Let me start by saying that I identify as genderfluid and lesbian, I've been on HRT for 8+ months, and frankly, I like my penis. I feel like I am quite literally the only person that feels this way.
To get to the reason why you clicked on this to start reading this: tucking. I don't want to ask how to do it (I know how, and do it reasonably well); i want to ask if I actually need to do it. Like i said above, I like my penis and so i ask, why do I have to hide it? Why do I have to desperately smooth out my junkular region?
I currently go to a university and I am quite literally in the most accepting place I've known. Still, when I want to wear like really short shorts, what would happen if I didn't tuck? Can I do that? I volunteer at an LGBTQ+ center, I help all around at other LGBTQ+ friendly things, and yet i still feel like i have to hide a part of myself because of overarching societal binaristic norms. I feel like whenever I tuck, I try and hide a part of me, and it feels like I'm body shaming myself.
Anyways, yeah, that's my rant. If anyone feels the same or has anything to contribute: please do.
I'm also genderfluid and don't hate my penis. I don't tuck, but I do find some women's pants and shorts are bit too revealing due to being tighter and especially being a thinner material. I'm OK with a bulge, a full outline is a bit much though. I mostly wear women's pants and shorts that are a thicker material like jeans, and have a zipper or at least a fake zipper flap, to make the outline less noticeable.
I don't tuck either. I'm not very big so its not ever an issue, I also plan on getting SRS in the next couple of years. I would just assume this is a personal choice. :)
Since I learned about tucking I haven't stopped doing it for ages. Yes you can still feel it, but it sort of fades into the awareness of the body as a whole rather that existing as a separate entity, brushing against your leg.
I've also found it seems to diminish the frequency of erections - I suspect it might collapse part of the corpus cavernosum. I hate erections, so YAY!