So i was at the place i go to for my endro last night not to see my endro but to see someone else because i have poison ivy on my face and around my eye yay for poison ivy. :(
Anyways i felt really uncomfortable because they assumed i was female and i thought once away from my mother and in the room they'd see on the computer or something i'm transgender at least, but they didn't.
I'm confused because this is where i go to see my endro so shouldn't they know? Is there something about this i'm not understanding or catching onto because i'm confused as to why they wouldn't have known.
Sense, i had to address something during random conversation and it made me realize what they thought and also triggered my dysphoria/past traumas.
You'd be surprised how little some healthcare folks read into patient files if they don't think there's a need. When I went in for my hysto, it was very spotty as far as who knew what and when they knew it. My doctor and the resident under her had the most complete picture from the get-go. The anesthesiologist made a point to stop by a few hours in advance of surgery to talk to me and get the full picture, but her intern only stopped by to ask anesthesia-related questions. The nurse that brought me back basically relayed all the necessary information to the other nurses, but when I woke up I was in a different unit and one of the nurses there referred to me as 'she' before she saw what I looked like.
It really seems to depend on the place though. The transparency at my primary care doctor's office where I get my HRT done is excellent. Everybody knows exactly how I identify and has never made any mistakes with pronouns or names before I had it changed, even the folks working the front desk.
Quote from: FTMax on June 02, 2016, 09:36:04 AM
You'd be surprised how little some healthcare folks read into patient files if they don't think there's a need. When I went in for my hysto, it was very spotty as far as who knew what and when they knew it. My doctor and the resident under her had the most complete picture from the get-go. The anesthesiologist made a point to stop by a few hours in advance of surgery to talk to me and get the full picture, but her intern only stopped by to ask anesthesia-related questions. The nurse that brought me back basically relayed all the necessary information to the other nurses, but when I woke up I was in a different unit and one of the nurses there referred to me as 'she' before she saw what I looked like.
It really seems to depend on the place though. The transparency at my primary care doctor's office where I get my HRT done is excellent. Everybody knows exactly how I identify and has never made any mistakes with pronouns or names before I had it changed, even the folks working the front desk.
thats what sort of shocked me because my primary care doctor know what to call me they make mistakes but knows to correct it. I'd think my endro would have made things known but i guess not, it makes me uncomfortable honestly. Is there anything i can do to make it known and make them be aware of how to approach me? Even without my maker changed. To make it worse i'm even moving to this area eventually, and that upsets me.
It is a bit tougher if they are not used to working with transgender clients, but not impossible. Start by speaking to your healthcare provider directly and explain the issue -
"When I came in last Friday, the doctor I saw used female pronouns to refer to me. I thought that my medical records with you reflected that I am transgender and use male pronouns. Would you be able to check my file for me and make sure that is the case? Can you speak with the staff and make sure this won't happen again?"
Quote from: FTMax on June 02, 2016, 03:09:08 PM
It is a bit tougher if they are not used to working with transgender clients, but not impossible. Start by speaking to your healthcare provider directly and explain the issue -
"When I came in last Friday, the doctor I saw used female pronouns to refer to me. I thought that my medical records with you reflected that I am transgender and use male pronouns. Would you be able to check my file for me and make sure that is the case? Can you speak with the staff and make sure this won't happen again?"
Thanks max, good to know i can at least do something or give it my best shot.