I have been training at the same gym for 7 years as a men . Today i made my comeback as Elodie ( havent been training for 6-7 month, one of the employee i talked a few time as a men started talking to me and said : Hi girl, is it the first time you come here? ( with a smile) i replied hmm we saw each other a few time ::) then she said :do you know about the dressing code? I said that i do but i thought what i was wearing was okay. Then she said that i can wear tank top but longer.
Oh well.. she totally did not recognize me :-X :D
my look at the gym :
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Then 2 random shot :P
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(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FrmbBVpB.jpg&hash=4f28eb5cc15dcf168dda4d05133abafa210a6287)
Share one of your funny experience when you told yourself : This is it, i totally pass not as trans but as woman :-*
Good one girl.
A couple months ago I ran into a sheriff's deputy that I worked with closely for 7 years. I walked up and said hi. He said "do I know you?" I told him that we had worked together for a number of years and he asked me to remind him of my name. When I told him that my name was Jessie but that when we worked together it was [insert dead name here]. His eyes got very big and he said he had no idea. He said that he was trying to figure out when he worked with someone who had such great boobs. LOL
Haha I love this story!! I have three stories:
1) I went to a birthday party of a friend of mine. The birthday boy's friend hadn't seen me in a year. When she "introduced" herself to me, I told her we knew each other already. She texted my friend later that night and said she was really confused at the party :P
2) I'd go to a neighbourhood grocery store regularly for about 6 months. Then, for a couple of months, I went to a different (slightly cheaper) place. When I went back to my old local grocery store, the clerk asked "So are you new to the neighbourhood?" (he's a chatty guy). When I told my friend that he was probably just really weirded out by the changes and was pretending to not recognize me, this same friend told me my change had been quite drastic during that time and he wasn't surprised to hear this story.
3) I gave an academic presentation recently. After the presentation, I was asked by an audience member if I have a brother who's also doing a PhD in a "very similar area." Haha, this one shocked me the most!!
FYI, these three stories aren't so much about me "passing" as they are about me having changed. I went from a very masculine-looking man to a trans woman (also from a buzzcut with thick facial hair to long hair and no facial hair), so I think that's why people don't recognize me! Everyone I know tells me I pass, but I don't often believe it - I recently wrote a really whiny post about this, so I'll leave it at that :P haha
Quote from: archlord on June 07, 2016, 07:31:09 PM
I have been training at the same gym for 7 years as a men . Today i made my comeback as Elodie ( havent been training for 6-7 month, one of the employee i talked a few time as a men started talking to me and said : Hi girl, is it the first time you come here? ( with a smile) i replied hmm we saw each other a few time ::) then she said :do you know about the dressing code? I said that i do but i thought what i was wearing was okay. Then she said that i can wear tank top but longer.
Oh well.. she totally did not recognize me :-X :D
my look at the gym :
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FgH6Z3Oj.jpg&hash=35d9a425c84982ef451dd816fd5fc0491ea337c8)
Then 2 random shot :P
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FKwKJ442.jpg&hash=96b77f64eb1639061c2be32246f8268a1512a7c1)
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FrmbBVpB.jpg&hash=4f28eb5cc15dcf168dda4d05133abafa210a6287)
Share one of your funny experience when you told yourself : This is it, i totally pass not as trans but as woman :-*
My God girl, you look amazing. What does your workout regimen look like?
Loves 💋❤️💋
I was riding the train with my boyfriend, Joe, in San Francisco when this guy started up a conversation with Joe about our service dog, Tula. Before he exited the train, this guy said to Joe, 'you have a beautiful daughter.' He was talking about me!! I'm 47 and Joe is 55. To be honest, that really boosted my confidence. As a 47 y/o transwomen who only recently started her transition a little more than two years ago while spending over two years in a hospital battling avascular necrosis-- a complication of Hiv that destroyed my hip and shoulder joints and left me confined to a wheelchair-- as well as hepatitis c, which I was cured of, being called my boyfriend's daughter is quite nice. It, for lack of a better phrase, made me feel good. I hope i'm not being superficial. To be honest, if I had my choice, I would have been born a woman and be able to have baby. I've wanted to be a mom since I was 12. And I loathe being a man. Anyway, sorry for my pity party. But I just had to get that out. Take care. Love, steph
There was this man I once wanted so badly, but he live in riches and I didn't own anything as glamourous as the women he hang out with. I went to the pawn shop, and I dropped the little gold I did own on the table top. I look up, since being in a rural city, I saw a few weird African tribal masks. There were a few Voodoo candles lit at the far corner. An older lady rushed in, and she screamed, "You bastaaaardd, you get far far away from him!"
I just laughed at the old croon, and said, "I didn't know you were a teen idol". The pawn shop owner then declined my gold, saying it wasn't real.
"But there is something I want from you."
"Sorry, I am not in that business"
"I'm not talking about that." I was walking out of the store, "Wait, wait, I want your beauty. Here is $5000 in cash". He wanted to make a mold of my face, no, my beauty, and I had 4 months to redeem my beauty if I change my mind.
I just laugh it off. It didn't make sense, and just walked out of the pawn shop.
When a random nurse who wheeled me into the FFS surgery theather said to me:
Miss, why do you want to feminize your face? you look good. Only transpeople do such surgeries.
Ahm... right. ;D :o ::) well... let me tell you a little secret then.... :angel: :-\ ::)
So awkward.
Damn, those picture from main post are from 5 month ago :O I need to update this :laugh:
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(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FMowKm69.jpg&hash=7ac1d968ee4a17e1ef314a389605629cd0c677b7)(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2Fnh67rR1.jpg&hash=d46964fdc04deeaf2df7e26388f482608fd372c5)
Ill share another little story : I went to hospital 7 week ago because i had complication post FFS. I went at sorting center emergency , the person there said that he needs my id. I give him my RAMQ card and hospital card.. He looks at me strangely and says : i need your own IDS!. Then i said... hmm those are mine , i am trans. .Then he said : ohh ... okay hmm ohh.
After, i went to see the receptionist then she said : Hi lady, please give me your IDS. Then she embarassly said OHH hmm sorry Mr . (after seeing my man ids) Then i said to her : Noo you got it right, im transitionning .
:laugh: :laugh:
When people ask why such a lovely young woman has never had children, that is usually a sign. I usually just tell them I have never been able to have kids, and leave it as that.
Oh my gosh! That's not fair, Archlord! Not only are you a beautiful woman, you were a really good looking guy, too!
With kindness,
Terri
Quote from: Maybebaby56 on November 21, 2016, 05:41:07 PM
Oh my gosh! That's not fair, Archlord! Not only are you a beautiful woman, you were a really good looking guy, too!
With kindness,
Terri
Yea, double no fair!!! 😡😡
Psst... what's your secret??? I really need help with the "diet" department. Really more about portioning, setting a meal schedule, and workout routine.
You look gorgeous, I hope I look half as good as you some day.
Loves 💋❤️💋
Quote from: Alora on November 21, 2016, 05:54:08 PM
Psst... what's your secret??? I really need help with the "diet" department. Really more about portioning, setting a meal schedule, and workout routine.
Honestly, i have lost most of it before transition, it was easier. From end of may 2015 to begining of october 2015 i lost around 30 lbs of muscle mass.. Then when i started hormones, i gained 30 lbs back due to estrogen and not eating correctly. The muscle mass continued to go down with T blockers while fat level was increasing. I was supposed to begin to diet again to make me go down from 176lbs to 130lbs but i decided to stop due to SRS comming very fast. I had already lost 8 lbs in 2 week. I will begin dieting again after surgery and i will share journey.
You know... when the guy you're going to bed with asks, with some worried consternation, what you do for birth control.
My first visit to a OBGYN was asked if I had a hysterectomy. I replied with, see page two of the forms you asked me to fill out. Now that is confirmation.
I was loaned out (I work for the state of Oregon) to another agency, the person who arranged this know I was post-op but kept it a secret. One of the days there I was introduced to a manager who worked at my agency roughly five years ago and the person who got me there said, "I would like you to met Karen who is on loan to us from Department of Revenue", she said hello and said how long have you been there? I told her over twenty years. She then asked, what division, I said property tax. She said I don't remember you and stared at me. At that point I grabbed paper and pen, wrote down my old name. She reads it, looks at me, looks at the paper again then up again with wide eyes and said "no way" then gave me a hug. The others standing there were puzzled to what was going on but were never told. Another confirmation.
Darn those gym dress codes! I hate them lol Anyways, I went to an eye doctor the other day and of course they are really close to your face and to what I consider the most intimate part of the face, your eyes. So after examining me for about 10 mins with face to face contact, he asks if I plan on having kids because it must be hard and dangerous with my condition. I was thinking uhhh did he tie my meds together with trans care????? I looked at him with a blank look for like what felt like forever and then he said "Yeah you know, your heart condition. It takes a lot to deliver a child and puts a lot of strain on a womens body." I felt myself begin to breathe again lmao and was like oh yeah it could be hard, but I still want them lol
When you meet one of the bosses from your old (pre-transition) job in a restaurant and he stares you in the face with glassy eyes.... Not recognizing you, turning around and walking away.
When you meet this guy and he asks you whether you're aware there's a guy running around the same city who looks just like you. Told him I was my own cousin :D
When you don't get stares (EVER) in the bathrooms
When you're in a discussion with a friend about wanting children and she asks you whether you feel like getting getting pregnant within the next year or so
When you're having yet another heated gossip session about men...
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AND, sadly, on the negative side
!!!!! [TRIGGER WARNING] !!!!!
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When you're starting to get harassed by guys alone at night, walking the last 500 meters home
When you're at a party and the faintest look of yours crosses this bloodhound ->-bleeped-<-s' searching eyes, and he immediately comes sit next to you, putting his hand on your back and moving it towards your ass without asking
... When the same guy doesn't understand the word "NO" ... and tells you you're so nice and you shouldn't be so insecure
... When another guy (at another party) steers the conversation towards your boyfriend (always say you have one!)
... When that guy doesn't listen when you steer the discussion back to the previous topic instead, and goes sitting so close you can smell his breath (yuck)
... When you walk away, have conversation with a friend, and he finds you an hour later, as you're a bit drunk and about to go
... When the ->-bleeped-<- actually ignores your "NO" again, grabs you, wraps his arms around you and starts kissing your face and neck, saying you must be his because you're so beautiful...
[ED: Some form of self moderation here, don't want to hurt anybody with my experiences]
Quote from: elineq on November 30, 2016, 11:41:06 AM
When you meet one of the bosses from your old (pre-transition) job in a restaurant and he stares you in the face with glassy eyes.... Not recognizing you, turning around and walking away.
When you meet this guy and he asks you whether you're aware there's a guy running around the same city who looks just like you. Told him I was my own cousin :D
When you don't get stares (EVER) in the bathrooms
When you're in a discussion with a friend about wanting children and she asks you whether you feel like getting getting pregnant within the next year or so
When you're having yet another heated gossip session about men...
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AND, sadly, on the negative side
!!!!! [TRIGGER WARNING] !!!!!
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When you're starting to get harassed by guys alone at night, walking the last 500 meters home
When you're at a party and the faintest look of yours crosses this bloodhound ->-bleeped-<-s' searching eyes, and he immediately comes sit next to you, putting his hand on your back and moving it towards your ass without asking
... When the same guy doesn't understand the word "NO" ... and tells you you're so nice and you shouldn't be so insecure
... When another guy (at another party) steers the conversation towards your boyfriend (always say you have one!)
... When that guy doesn't listen when you steer the discussion back to the previous topic instead, and goes sitting so close you can smell his breath (yuck)
... When you walk away, have conversation with a friend, and he finds you an hour later, as you're a bit drunk and about to go
... When the ->-bleeped-<- actually ignores your "NO" again, grabs you, wraps his arms around you and starts kissing your face and neck, saying you must be his because you're so beautiful...
[ED: Some form of self moderation here, don't want to hurt anybody with my experiences]
what type of guys are you meeting? Every guy I meet at a bar just sits,talks to me,and buys me drinks,and usually if I talk to them and find them attractive I go home with them, but I've never experienced any of the physical vulgar acts your stating.
I've also been told to wait to have children because they will ruin my figure lol.
The boyfriend thing kinda happened except I actually did have a boyfriend and he was sitting right next to me when a group of guys tried talking to me all night and let's just say they caught his attention too when he heard them tell me if I was single they would bring me to their hotel room and bleep the piss out of me.
Ive had guys who had no idea I was trans and when I told them they were ok with it because they found me so beautiful. Even guys who said they weren't ok with it still ended up bleeping me that night lol. Guys can be strange sometimes, but I still never experienced any unwanted advances, granted I've never been to a party that a person has thrown such as college types, so maybe that's why I've never experienced that.
Edit: here's something to add.....
You know your passing when lesbians and straight guys hit on you at a gay bar.
Example 1:
This is what happened when I got first mammogram 4 weeks ago and the conversation went like this with the technician:
Technician: So when was your last menstrual cycle.
Me: I don't have periods since I don't have a uterus. I'm on HRT. I do get PMS at times (which I do), but no blood flow.
Technician: Oh, so when did you have an hysterectomy?
Me: I was born without a uterus (...puzzled look on her face....) I'm transgender.
Technician: Oh, OK, just want to make sure you are not pregnant.
Example 2:
On Monday my wife were driving up from TN back home to Norther NJ and we stopped at a Sheetz station for gas and bathroom break in Virginia about 40 miles north of Roanoke. There were only 2 stalls in the bathroom with one woman in front of us and my wife in front of me. There was one handicapped stall and a handicapped woman can in after us and my wife allowed her to jump in line to use the Handicap stall and she had another woman assisting her. She thanked us for allowing her to go ahead (one woman behind me wasn't happy about it, but whatever.) So then the woman assisting the handicap woman starts chatting with me and makes the comment that I'm the tallest woman she has even met. (I'm 6'5¼) Then she asked if both my parents are tall and I told her yes both are. I also told her that I belong to "The Tall Society" which is for tall women only and the founding member is 6'9". She then asked if I played basketball and I said no, but I always get that question and we both laughed. Then a stall opened up for me.
When guys go out of their way to hold doors open for you, bonus points if they hold it open in such a way as to block your ability to get by them. (Me: "Would you please let go of the door so that I can get by.")
When your friend of 18 years that you see almost every day doesn't recognize you until you are almost right next to them. (Friend: "Hey, who is this? Oh it's you!")
When your nephew says he can spot a transgender person from a mile away. And you reply with, Oh Really, because I can see quite a few changes happening but evidently he could not.
Quote from: karenpayneoregon on November 23, 2016, 09:01:47 PM
My first visit to a OBGYN was asked if I had a hysterectomy. I replied with, see page two of the forms you asked me to fill out. Now that is confirmation.
I don't know what the MD recommend now, but some years back some recommended Pap smears for post-op ... nopt because we have cervix but on the theory that if the vaginal walls turned cancerous for any reason (after all it was not tissue that was originally intended to be inside) that might pick it up... I don't bother getting it done anymore, but years back I did.
Well I got a call from my gyn's office to come back in for a retest (the GYN herself who knew did the original test) ... The test came back as "not enough cells", In that situation for a GG they just routinely retest. Well without asking the GYN they scheduled me to come in for a retest.
I went in and a nurse practioner who sees lots of vaginas did the test. Some of what she said during the test made me think she might not know, but I thought that unlikely.
Well next time I saw the GYN she said that the nurse practioner had not looked at my records and was surprised as heck when the GYN told her I was a post-op TS (and also not to order retests in the future)!
I think I can safely conclude I passed 100% to that nurse practioner! ;)