The secret life of a transgender airman
http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-36429860
BBC/By Joel Gunter BBC News 55 minutes ago 06/14/2016
"Transgender people are banned from serving in the US armed forces, yet an estimated 12,800 do, the vast majority in secret. Jane, a senior airman, has hidden her gender identity from the military for 25 years. She hopes a policy review announced last year will allow her finally to be herself."
Yep, been there....not nice at all.