I've decided to post this because i had a realization last night after speaking with a friend and it came to me the reason why i don't like to date often is because i feel like i'm a lie (about me being a guy) after having this i completely managed to overwhelm myself and got scared because i don't know if that's a normal feeling.
And i don't like it because i'm not a girl so why would that even happen? i just wanted to sort things out by getting maybe more then a couple replies so i can figure it out.
I didn't even consider dating anyone until I was 21. And then only because they were actually a good friend and gender didn't matter all that much to them.
How could I be someone's girlfriend? The simple answer was I couldn't and wouldn't.
Normal.
Quote from: T.K.G.W. on June 29, 2016, 05:42:06 PM
I didn't even consider dating anyone until I was 21. And then only because they were actually a good friend and gender didn't matter all that much to them.
How could I be someone's girlfriend? The simple answer was I couldn't and wouldn't.
Normal.
Dateing doesn't bother me it's just the i feel like a lie and trying to figure out why that is.
Hi Midnightstar,
This is what I have come up with and for myself. I am not implying this is about you.
Feelings are normal; however, they are not real. We change every second of ever day and it happens slowly. We have feelings of permanence, which is not real. Resistance to change causes the feeling of pain. Allowing change to be welcomed reduces pain and suffering. Doing something new and different is scary, if it is the right direction then bravery is being scared and doing anyway. Feeling fake is not real, it is a way our minds resist change.
Rachel
Quote from: Rachel Lynn on June 29, 2016, 06:32:31 PM
Hi Midnightstar,
This is what I have come up with and for myself. I am not implying this is about you.
Feelings are normal; however, they are not real. We change every second of ever day and it happens slowly. We have feelings of permanence, which is not real. Resistance to change causes the feeling of pain. Allowing change to be welcomed reduces pain and suffering. Doing something new and different is scary, if it is the right direction then bravery is being scared and doing anyway. Feeling fake is not real, it is a way our minds resist change.
Rachel
thank you rachel that helped