So my Grandfather has full custody (also a past pedophile) of me now since my mom is off doing drugs and I moved out of my dads cause his wife was making lies about me and always hating me and ruining my stuff. I came out to my Grandfather last week cause he kept yelling at me "IF YOU DON'T ACT GOOD I'M GOING TO SEND YOU TO A GIRLS HOME!!" I got tired of him saying that to me so I calmly responded "Well,What if I don't want to go to a GIRLS home?" then he replied with a strange tone "What then?! A Boys Home?!?" I smirked and said "I'd rather that then girls." then he replied "YOUR A GIRL! GOD INTENDED TO MAKE YOU A GIRL!!!!! YOUR CONFUSED! YOU WILL ALWAYS BE A GIRL FOREVER!!!!!!" I got so depressed after that night. Well a few weeks before that I went to a doctor to get a check up and the they said my Testosterone is higher than Estrogen. I told her though I want to be a boy though I want to go on Estrogen Blockers or even more Testosterone. But she ignored it and said its just a phase and got gave my Grandfather and mom a person to go to get them leveled out. Well my mom understands me and agrees on not doing it. But my dad made my Grandfather my legal guardian now.. And he wants to set up and appointment and make me go badly since I said I wanted to be a boy. He thinks its all a phase and its cause of the hormone imbalance. There is no way possible a imbalance will want to make you become the opposite gender. Plus I have a lot of dumb woman aspects more then men. What can I do to not make this happen? I don't want Estrogen! :'(
Peter,
I do not know what country you are in, but in the US if your grandfather was convicted of child molestation he would not be allowed to have legal custody of a child. Also there is no such thing as a past pedophile.
Again I do not know what country or state you live in but you could petition the court to become an emancipated minor. Another option is to get in contact with child protective services, not the ideal option but it could get you out of there and in contact with people that can help you.
Call your local child protective services/department of family and childrens services, and/or your local legal aid foundation.
I do not know where you live, but in this instance Google is your best friend. Research who to call and make the necessary calls.
This is probably not the best idea and depends on your patience. If you want to wait until you are an adult, then you could try just avoiding the doctors all together. If they are trying to make you take estrogen (depending on how it would be given to you / if were responsible for taking it yourself), you could just get the doses and not take them. :P A waste of money in that aspect but it beats getting more estrogen in your body.
If you don't want to wait and want to deal with this head on though, then I do agree with calling child protective services and looking into becoming an emancipated minor. Good luck and keep posting.
I would go to the doctor's appointment and explain the issue to them. In an ideal world, they would understand transgender healthcare and either refuse to work with you all together, or only if they can treat you as a trans patient. Since your grandfather probably will not allow you to pursue any kind of HRT or blockers, the goal would be for them to refuse to treat you. Consider pulling up the WPATH website and having the Standards of Care PDF saved in your email, and offer to forward it to the doctor you see if they need reference material on how transgender patients should be treated.
In the mean time, call Child Protective Services and let them know about your situation. At the very least, they should stop in to investigate and may assign you a case worker that you could contact directly. At most, they may remove you from your grandfather's custody.
I would do this ASAP, and I would mention to the doctor when you see them that you have reported your grandfather to Child Protective Services. Most doctors will not want to be seen as complicit in any kind of child abuse, so this should encourage them toward the "I'm not treating this kid" route.
I would do your very best to stay calm and well reasoned with everyone you speak to. Do not get upset or overreact if you hit a roadblock. You will not be taken as seriously if you do.
Are there other relatives that you could stay with? A friend's family maybe? I would also consider reaching out to PFLAG in your area and seeing what advice they have. They may know LGBTQ-friendly families in the foster care system that would be willing to take you in if that's where you end up.
Quote from: FTMax on July 05, 2016, 08:35:27 AM
I would go to the doctor's appointment and explain the issue to them. In an ideal world, they would understand transgender healthcare and either refuse to work with you all together, or only if they can treat you as a trans patient. Since your grandfather probably will not allow you to pursue any kind of HRT or blockers, the goal would be for them to refuse to treat you. Consider pulling up the WPATH website and having the Standards of Care PDF saved in your email, and offer to forward it to the doctor you see if they need reference material on how transgender patients should be treated.
In the mean time, call Child Protective Services and let them know about your situation. At the very least, they should stop in to investigate and may assign you a case worker that you could contact directly. At most, they may remove you from your grandfather's custody.
I would do this ASAP, and I would mention to the doctor when you see them that you have reported your grandfather to Child Protective Services. Most doctors will not want to be seen as complicit in any kind of child abuse, so this should encourage them toward the "I'm not treating this kid" route.
I would do your very best to stay calm and well reasoned with everyone you speak to. Do not get upset or overreact if you hit a roadblock. You will not be taken as seriously if you do.
Are there other relatives that you could stay with? A friend's family maybe? I would also consider reaching out to PFLAG in your area and seeing what advice they have. They may know LGBTQ-friendly families in the foster care system that would be willing to take you in if that's where you end up.
In the case of my old endocrinologist, he wasn't even willing to look at any of my transgender resources that prove that Testosterone has nothing to do with DVT, predisposed or not. So I am hoping this one Peter saw will not do the same. If possible, I would find another.
I think Peter should contact Child Protective Services. They honestly can set up a better living situation, as I am currently in the process of that myself right now. Thing is, where ever you go through them, you might want to mention your trans identity so like if you go to a group home or something, you can make everyone aware of your gender preferences. It sounds like to me that is so important to you as it is for me also.
Yes, you need to get away from you grandfather.
Quote from: Stevie on July 04, 2016, 09:42:08 PM
Peter,
I do not know what country you are in, but in the US if your grandfather was convicted of child molestation he would not be allowed to have legal custody of a child. Also there is no such thing as a past pedophile.
Again I do not know what country or state you live in but you could petition the court to become an emancipated minor. Another option is to get in contact with child protective services, not the ideal option but it could get you out of there and in contact with people that can help you.
They (mom and Aunt) never told the law