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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: PeterSteele on July 25, 2016, 01:47:08 PM

Title: Family Issue
Post by: PeterSteele on July 25, 2016, 01:47:08 PM
I'm moving back with my dad this (7/28/2016) thursday and he still hasn't left his wife thats evil and mean cause he wants her to take care of me (take me to doctor appointments and other bs)cause I'm screwed up in the head. Also he wants me to stop wearing boy clothes and wear female clothes he said no dresses but hes gonna make me wear like skinny jeans and girly shirts. Also since I love wearing dark clothing he doesn't want me to. Then hes thinking about sending me away to some place like a Girls Home (Be the worst gender dysphoria) Then here's the worst thing he wants... I have imbalanced hormones I have more Testosterone (YAYAYA) Then Estrogen. But my dad screeams at me every day over the phone and texting saying "YOU WILL NEVER BE A BOY" He also thinks cause the imbalance thats why I want to be boy. Which is ignorant but he's gonna shove that ->-bleeped-<- and force me to take it if I don't then hes sending me away and calling CPS (Child Protective Services) Estrogen is gonna make me stop growing in height  higher voice curvey body and large tits and frequent periods  and other ->-bleeped-<- I don't need or want  and gonna make transitioning and depression worse.



I don't know what to do. I tell Doctors and Counselors about it and they just skip over the problem or think its just a simple phase. My Step Mom HATES me and will do anything to make me leave. My dad is on her side since I've been acting up lately. My Grandfather agrees and even told my dad to take me to a Girls Home and he laughs that I'll be stuck with all girls and how I'm not accepted and never will be a boy. My mom does accept but she lives with her dad (My Grandfather the unaccepting one) and has no job also I'm living with her but now my dad is taking me and I doubt he'd let me live back with her. The rest of the family hates me,pedophiles,drug addicts,un accepting,ect.

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Title: Re: Family Issue
Post by: Elis on July 25, 2016, 03:12:27 PM
Please call CPS and explain the situation; this is child abuse plain and simple. Also get help from a transgender charity if possible.
Title: Re: Family Issue
Post by: Hughie on July 25, 2016, 08:48:53 PM
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. :(  I'd like to second what Elis has said--this is abuse, plain and simple. Call CPS. If there is a transgender help line or charity in your area, they would also be good places to get some advice what to do.

I've had some troubles with family too, but not the extreme you're having--it's unfair to bully and threaten you, and you definitely need some support.
Title: Re: Family Issue
Post by: PeterSteele on July 26, 2016, 08:57:51 AM
Quote from: Elis on July 25, 2016, 03:12:27 PM
Please call CPS and explain the situation; this is child abuse plain and simple. Also get help from a transgender charity if possible.
I told CPS before about my Gender Problems and they just ignored it and went on about other stuff. Even ignored the fact that my Step Mom was being rude to me.
Title: Re: Family Issue
Post by: Elis on July 26, 2016, 01:21:24 PM
Then contact a transgender charity and see if they can help you get help with CPS. Please try.
Title: Re: Family Issue
Post by: PeterSteele on July 27, 2016, 05:44:35 PM
Quote from: Elis on July 26, 2016, 01:21:24 PM
Then contact a transgender charity and see if they can help you get help with CPS. Please try.
I'm soo shy and afraid of what might happen..
Title: Re: Family Issue
Post by: Elis on July 27, 2016, 07:01:58 PM
I understand; it took me 21 years to stand up to my emotionally abusive dad. I couldn't imagine doing it at your age. But your parents are literally killing you with how they act. I really don't want you to be harmed. Maybe send an email to a transgender charity first explaining your situation. Then you can feel that person out before talking to them directly. And when CPS do get involved you'll have a person from the charity with you to talk to your parents about leaving. Good luck :)
Title: Re: Family Issue
Post by: PeterSteele on July 29, 2016, 03:23:23 PM
Quote from: Elis on July 27, 2016, 07:01:58 PM
I understand; it took me 21 years to stand up to my emotionally abusive dad. I couldn't imagine doing it at your age. But your parents are literally killing you with how they act. I really don't want you to be harmed. Maybe send an email to a transgender charity first explaining your situation. Then you can feel that person out before talking to them directly. And when CPS do get involved you'll have a person from the charity with you to talk to your parents about leaving. Good luck :)
Thank You. I didn't get online till now. And I'm already moved in back at the house and I'm getting forced to buy female clothes next weekend for School. Also they plan on sending me to a girls home once I mess up they got 3 already.. And they plan on forcing Estrogen pill down my throat once I get it from the Endo..If I don't take it I'm gonna go to a girls home and my dad plans on running away and possibly killing himself once he drops me off.
Title: Re: Family Issue
Post by: Michelle_P on July 29, 2016, 04:23:18 PM
Quote from: PeterSteele on July 29, 2016, 03:23:23 PM
And they plan on forcing Estrogen pill down my throat once I get it from the Endo..If I don't take it I'm gonna go to a girls home and my dad plans on running away and possibly killing himself once he drops me off.

Please, please tell the endocrinologist that you feel you are a transgender male and do not want estrogen.  Prescribing E for you, in a situation were you don't want it and would be forced to tie it is wildly unethical for a doctor who has been informed of your gender identity.

I'm so sorry that you are in this situation.
Title: Re: Family Issue
Post by: PeterSteele on July 29, 2016, 05:19:31 PM
Quote from: Michelle_P on July 29, 2016, 04:23:18 PM
Please, please tell the endocrinologist that you feel you are a transgender male and do not want estrogen.  Prescribing E for you, in a situation were you don't want it and would be forced to tie it is wildly unethical for a doctor who has been informed of your gender identity.

I'm so sorry that you are in this situation.
Hopefully it works and they will listen.
Thank you for caring this really helped.
Title: Re: Family Issue
Post by: Hughie on July 29, 2016, 09:03:05 PM
Hi Peter,

I'm sorry things are so rough for you right now. :(

Have you tried the trans lifeline? They have a toll free number in the US and may be able to help hook you up with charities in your area - I think you're in the US? They're in Canada too. Please reach out to this or another charity. Tell your doctor you're trans and not to give you the estrogen. As well as call children's services. Good luck, this is an unfair situation to be in and you need support.

http://www.translifeline.org/
Title: Re: Family Issue
Post by: PeterSteele on July 29, 2016, 11:12:21 PM
Quote from: Hughie on July 29, 2016, 09:03:05 PM
Hi Peter,

I'm sorry things are so rough for you right now. :(

Have you tried the trans lifeline? They have a toll free number in the US and may be able to help hook you up with charities in your area - I think you're in the US? They're in Canada too. Please reach out to this or another charity. Tell your doctor you're trans and not to give you the estrogen. As well as call children's services. Good luck, this is an unfair situation to be in and you need support.

http://www.translifeline.org/

Thank you so much for caring.  I'll try and do so. (I'm shy)