I am now just 1 month 8 days from being made right. It occurs to me that I should actually plan out my last standing pee. I haven't done that for years (not counting some after surgery times where I had no choice).
In Jenny Boylan's book, She's not There she went on a hike and did her 'last stand' on a mountain.
In my case I am considering going out on the water, and standing on the end of a boat.
While I am very happy to cross that line to never see it again but, it feels like I should have a send off, so to speak.
For the girls who are approaching SRS, have you planned such a thing?
For the girls that went through it, did you have a standing send off?
BTW, I would not thought of this except for Jenny Boylan's book.
I have GCS in November. At home there is a toilet and at work I go in an all gender bathroom with a toilet. At the gym I go in the co-ed bathroom and there is a toilet. At Mazzoni my primary care and at the therapy center there is a toilet. So sitting is just natural.
I will not go into a guys locker room at the gym and at work I am not allowed in a men's room. At work it is 90% woman, about 12,600 and there are more single toilet bathrooms than multiple person bathrooms. I can not imaging going next to a guy in a urinal. Urinals smell and there is splash back.
I read Jenny's book too. I do not think I will make a special trip someplace to pee. My luck the wind would kick up and I would get it all over me :)
The last time I can remember well was when I was working as a chauffeur and received an emergency page for an airporter, dang, I thought I was done for the day
But we were always on call and I just happened to be the one who responded and the client was an elderly couple I was familiar with who had requested me
So anyway I put on my grey suit and go pick up the car and head out to the airport, well, the quickest way to that particular airport involved going over a small but dangerous mtn. pass which I had learned to navigate rather well
I realized I had to go tinkle pretty bad so at the top of the mtn. pass where it levels out for a bit I pulled over and ran out into the field to do business
Feeling rather relieved I began to take in the nature around me including a river flowing below
But I had to get on with things and pick up the client and his wife, glad I did because he not only gave his usual generous tip but also doubled it ;D
Uhmmm...probably right before they roll me out for surgery.
I sit a lot. However, I'm in wilderness quite often and it really is convenient. Not convenient enough to make me even think of keeping it. But if it's still there, why not take advantage of it?
Jen
Actually I only pee standing when it's very urgent and I need to find any corner in the street to do so. If in a toilet, I used get down to my knees to avoid any possibility of spillage, which has been an historical pet peeve of mine :) But since some time ago I always sit on the toilet. The last standing one was not more than a couple of weeks ago. Since it's still a long time until I'll be righted, I expect there will be some more.
It's been over a year now. I decided not to stand and pee when I started my new job, and I've never looked back.
L
Every single time i badly need to pee and the "facilities" are absolutely disgusting that you don't know what you might catch.
A bus shelter
The last time was about a year ago in a supremely nasty porta-potty. There were absolutely no other options, and even though I didn't want to, I made an exception for that one case.
Thinking back; it must have been at work in 1997. I again got a nasty wet spot on the front of my trousers after tucking that thing back in. I then decided to sit and found it to be much nicer. Never stood again.
Technically, about 6 days post-op, in the recovery residence's bathroom. ;) One of the great ironies of life was that the catheter required us to stand up.
(With my original equipment, I'm honestly not sure, but I think it was probably a revolting porta-potty at the Dyke March in Boston.)
This morning when I was taking a shower...lol
That is the only place I stand up to be and has been for long time due to my body. It happens I have absolutely no control over it once the water starts running. Hugs
Mariah
Quote from: warlockmaker on July 30, 2016, 11:32:59 AM
This morning when I was taking a shower...lol
Not 100% sure but it would have been fall of 1979 before going full time and the location would have been my apartment bathroom. I made the decision that RLE should be RLE in every way and that meant no more standing.
When I was down at the farm a couple of months ago. When you're down at the creek or in a pasture on the backside of the farm, it's not really convenient to ride back to the house in the golf cart or the Polaris. So the pasture or the woods serves as an outdoor toilet. Hey, it's good enough for the cows!
Quote from: warlockmaker on July 30, 2016, 11:32:59 AM
This morning when I was taking a shower...lol
Oh that's true, I had forgotten about this. It's a daily for me, actually.
It has been years for me - i think the last place was a campground lavatory in about 2005 or so. I simply refuse to and will go out of my way not to. Just one of my quirks i guess.
I'm a dedicated territory marker, I like peeing on things! :laugh:
Hugs, Devlyn
Quote from: warlockmaker on July 30, 2016, 11:32:59 AM
This morning when I was taking a shower...lol
Since my wife uses a cane and doesn't stand well for long periods, we have a shower chair. I can even sit in the shower. ;D
I didn't count the shower but I should have. To be fair, I expect that to stay true even after surgery. I will probably squat a wee bit though.
I really can not remember. When I went full time, I found sitting to pee easier, as I tucked 24/7. I actually got used to it and that's what i did. I always did say to myself that I would have a final stand before surgery, but I remember on surgery day I was booked in first off the block. I recall getting up early, out of bed and before I took any notice i was sitting down doing my morning pee, so that was the end of that. I have done the odd pee in the shower (very rare), but standing with a penis possibly as long as 12 or more years.
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Quote from: Dena on July 30, 2016, 12:34:25 PM
I made the decision that RLE should be RLE in every way and that meant no more standing.
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Dena, I'm with you on your point. If one is really, truly transitioning, then one ought to be complete in every manner. Certainly you will attract attention in a women's restroom if your feet point the 'wrong' way.
Make the habit of wiping the seat before you sit wherever you go; that takes only a few moments.
Otherwise, my circumstance was different. My 'pre-op' anatomy was better sitting than standing, so I preferred sitting. My dad fought with me - forcing me to stand whenever he was around. I could not wait for that to end.
With that, my 'last stand' was probably around 1978 or 1979. There was no point standing, dear ol' dad's stern glance was no longer around to force me, I refused to join along when other guys went as a group, I waited for when the coast was clear at public men's restrooms when presenting as male.
I went through the process of mixing up locations beyond my usual work area wherever I worked as 'male'; I could not let others question why no one saw me stand.
Humour has it at one of my excursions at work during my male fail period. A co-worker entered the men's room, saw me washing my hands, and apologised for mistakenly entering the women's facility.
It is cleaner to sit (than stand) if your body forces a go while still carrying your bladder bag and catheter; your body is telling you that you are ready to remove that tube. Use the bidet when you finish.
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Quote from: Sharon Anne McC on August 04, 2016, 06:45:30 PM
My 'pre-op' anatomy was better sitting than standing, so I preferred sitting.
That was my thing to and resulted in my sitting long before transition all the time. When I didn't, I always got myself and clothing. Hugs
Mariah
I stood to pee for the first time in several years last Wednesday at my therapist's office LOL
a) Partly because of this topic and I was curious if I could still do it
b) The toilet was just too disgusting to sit on and I wasn't able to wait until I got home
I am happy report that I still have good aim and was able to catch the driblets with a tissue ;D
Potty topics almost always make me laugh :D
Middle of the day, on a fire hydrant, an hour before GCS. :D
I haven't stood to pee since I was 5, and only do so nowadays in emergencies XD
It will be some men's restroom in the near future that (thankfully) will fade from memory. It will be like asking me the last time I was in a McDonald's play place, except more gross lol. I cannot stand to sit in men's restrooms because they're so filthy
I think it will be "in the Wheaties of the nay sayers"... >:-)
Quote from: Harley Quinn on August 07, 2016, 11:12:12 PM
I think it will be "in the Wheaties of the nay sayers"... >:-)
Nice!
I bet that would piss them off :-)
I pondered this one a lot as I also knew of what Jenny had done in her book.
I knew it would be hard to beat - especially in a suburban setting.
It was the middle of the night, early 7/21/16 (the day of my vaginoplasty) and I had a bay view from the bottom level of a $4M house in Greenbrae CA before heading to CPMC for surgery in 3 hours. It was 2am, the window to the bathroom was open directly in front of the toilet, the light in the bathroom was off and the cars were buzzing by on 101 in the background below me. I saw the lights in the bay in the distance, the distant bay bridge, San Quentin, the local harbor lights, and I pondered my 47.5 years with the wrong parts between my legs - as I finished up.
It was so incredibly profound that about 10 days later - I opened that same window at night and took a 30 second video of the scene unfolding below so I can replay it after the memory fades in time...
Yeah, it beat the heck out of a damn tree Jenny Boylan. But I still love you sister. ;) ;) ;)
Standing to pee is a "break glass in case of emergency" type thing for me; however, I wouldn't do it if other women were present, but a few weeks ago I was using a single occupant women's restroom, and someone decided to poop all over the toilet seat, so Crash!
Back in the late 80's, when I was still transitioning. I did it for the last time then, I think. :rolleyes: Even back then it seemed wrong to go standing up.
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All of you that pee in the shower are gross, ewwww. LOL
I sit whenever it I can, at home, at work. I do stand at sporting events and other public restrooms at times. The men's lines are sooo much shorter at sporting events, and if I have been drinking the shorter the line the better!!
As a post op - my current #1 science project is improving on the "go girl" design through re-engineering the device.
I think I almost have the proper modifications complete so that I can pee standing if I really needed to.
I wouldn't be doing it in a woman's washroom as others have mentioned and would probably only use it when caught outside in a park or someplace similar.
Mission accomplished. Last pee has been completed and now I have have a little over a week remaining before GCS.