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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: ChelseaAnn on July 31, 2016, 02:14:22 AM

Title: when to tell future employer
Post by: ChelseaAnn on July 31, 2016, 02:14:22 AM
So, I have a job interview on Tuesday with a company I'd really like to be with. I am still employed, but don't plan on staying with my current job past spring of next year.
I was up front with the recruiter about starting my transition coming up in October, and he said the company is an equal opportunity employer. And that I could tell the during the interview or after a job offer. Which do you think ? I live in an at will state, so I'm not sure.
Title: Re: when to tell future employer
Post by: Ms Grace on July 31, 2016, 04:13:27 AM
I guess it depends on a number of factors. When you say transition do you mean going full time? October isn't that far away, is there any reason for that date specifically, would it be possible to push the schedule up and just go to the interview as yourself? Or maybe push the interview back? If none of that is possible maybe wait until you see if you like the job, the people, the management before you make a choice on outing yourself and transitioning there?

It's difficult to know with any workplace just how any transition will play out and the kind of support you might expect (or not) until you have a lay of the land.

What's an "at will" state?
Title: Re: when to tell future employer
Post by: ChelseaAnn on July 31, 2016, 05:20:36 AM
Sorry. I plan on starting hormones in October. Full time probably won't be until the same time next year.
An at will state allows an employer to fire you at any time without needing a reason. You see the problem...

My wife, two friends, and my wife's boss all say wait for the offer.
Title: Re: when to tell future employer
Post by: Meghan on July 31, 2016, 10:33:05 AM
If you're waiting after job offer they still could let you go for lies on the job interview. That one of the cost of transition.

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Title: Re: when to tell future employer
Post by: Deborah on July 31, 2016, 11:29:27 AM
I'm not sure why not telling someone about being trans or even about a transition a year in the future is a lie unless the ask the question directly.  And nobody is going to ask a that.

I would wait until you have been working there a while and have hopefully proved yourself to be a valuable asset.   Besides that, you aren't on HRT yet.  Once you are your timelines and immediate priorities might change.
Title: Re: when to tell future employer
Post by: ChelseaAnn on July 31, 2016, 03:13:12 PM
Well, the reason I am llooking is because I don't want to take a chance on getting fired from my current job for transitioning. I want any future employers to know before I start so they can't fire me for it (still legal most places in my State). Therefore, waiting a while and proving myself, I can do at my current job. I want my next employer to know before I start. Just a matter of telling during the interview or after an offer. My conscience says go with honesty, because I still have several months until anything starts popping up (figuring on February before ANY breast growth starts.
Title: Re: when to tell future employer
Post by: Rachel on July 31, 2016, 03:35:09 PM
I live in Pennsylvania too. Philadelphia and I think Pittsburg have trans protection in the workplace. They can still fire me for low productivity or "we are doing something different starting next month".  I work in Philadelphia. My employer has a LGBT policy and we treat 250 trans children in our Sexuality and Gender department. Diversity is in all 5 of the core pillars for the company. I have had no issues at work whatsoever.

I would make sure the prospective company has a LGBT policy. I recommend sharing with HR. I work with HR as part of my job. I made friends in HR and it helped me immensely. I shared my intentions, frailties' and needs. They helped me with my supervisor who put up road blocks for me to come out. I literally drove in front of a fast moving tractor-trailer on 76 because I was so frustrated and needed to come out. HR, my boss and I meet after the incident and I forced the issue about coming out. I had gantt charts with procedures, dated and costs.  I also had my previous 3 years history on the chart. When the meeting was over HR went to legal and firmed the "deal". That day my boss e-mailed the CEO now COO (head of diversity) the situation and future events to unfold.

I have worked with the company 26 years and I do not kid myself, the moment I become a liability I am out. I worked hard to develop relationships, credibility and value. I am well liked as a male or female.