Poll
Question:
How much does fear of loneliness affect your transition
Option 1: not one bit
votes: 15
Option 2: a little
votes: 3
Option 3: more than a little
votes: 5
Option 4: alot
votes: 7
Option 5: obsessively so
votes: 4
Option 6: other
votes: 1
If anything for myself it pushed me into transition because I was so alone and the only way I could go was up.
It wasn't a concern what so ever. Hugs
Mariah
Transition may cost me my family, and the networks of folks I know through my wife, and through my hobby (they are a conservative bunch).
I really have to weigh the loneliness, isolation, and grief of loss against the benefit of knowing I can go full time and start the clock for FFS and GCS.
If I remain, I can continue on HRT for a while, and complete electrolysis without losing anyone, at the expense of being very much part-time. There is always the chance that things could change for the better in my current situation, though, and I could keep at least part of my family.
Situation is that I've been out to my wife and the adult daughter that lives with us for 5 months now, but the wife is adamant about not seeing me unless I am cross-dressed as male, and she has convinced the daughter to insist on this as well. I can be myself when out of the house for therapy and treatments, or when nobody else is home. It's a chilly environment at best for this 62 year old.
Quite a bit. I have zero friends and I only associate with a few family members. I will not and can not move forward until I build a better foundation for myself. If I were to alienate the few people I still talk to, I would be left with zero reasons to continue existing. That is not something I can allow.
There is nothing to fear, but being forced to revert back. I have lived alone during my transition, and it didn't stop me one bit. I made a few friends along the way, and even played match maker for a couple.
It's basically decided entirely by that fear. It's very simple, if any aspect of my transition would make my wife leave, it will never happen. Before I met her, I was more miserable than I would want to remember. And without her now, it would be infinitely worse, so I'm not risking it. But so far she's been really accepting. If it was just my blood relatives, though, I'd get over it. ;D
The first time I tried to transition at age 22-24 I think that was a significant fear. I had friends who were, for the early 1990s, quite supportive... even so I dreaded ultimately being rejected and alone. It wasn't a major reason for me stopping transition but it was one of a plethora of issues at that time.
This time, if it was a concern it never amounted to much. I now have more friends than I ever did prior to deciding to start transition.
When I was younger I had a fear of being alone but as I aged that fear is gone. I have always been happy to be alone and that helped.
Heather
Learn to love yourself ....in my decision to transition I was all prepared to be alone....but the reverse happened ....I have more friends now.
Fear of losing my wife was one of the biggest things preventing me from coming out to her for many months. Being in the closet for so long, I felt alienated from the men's world, but not accepted in the women's world, so my wife was my main connection to friends.
Now that I am out to her and starting my transition soon (I hope), this fear has receded considerably. I now see the potential for more social opportunities to open up.
Not at all. I'm not currently in a relationship, and I won't get into one with a person who is unwilling to accept me being a trans woman.
Unfortunately it affects it too much...
No idea. I have so many fears I can't separate them out.