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Im a young male and i need help! I love the feel of womens clothes and the look of them on me, when ever i see women i find attractive my deepest desires are to wear what they are or to be them/look like them. My friends know nothing of this and i like it that way my family besides my mom is clueless to it, except mom as i said who was kind enough to give me some of her clothes But they are ya know just kind of boring mom clothes. She really only knows the tip of the iceberg, i dont know what to think or what to do please help me!

Welcome to Susan's Place. At some point a gender therapist would be a good idea. I can help you some in your self discovery. There are a number of possible things you could be and you can read about them in our WIKI  (https://www.susans.org/wiki/Transgender). I have one more link to  "the transition channel"  (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfO3B57E6NpIn-KsVjvmLLw) that will explain transsexualism a bit more. After you have reviewed the links, come back and tell me what you think as I can answer many of your questions. Good luck in your search and we are here to help you with your questions.

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Only you can know yourself on that level.  But that's ok.  Just trust your own judgement and do what you feel will make you happy.  Like you, I always look at women and get jealous of their clothes and bodies.  But that doesn't necessarily mean that you and I should do the same things.  So I can't tell you what specifically to do.  But I can tell you this, if your mom is supportive enough to give you clothes, that's a good sign.  I think it may be a good idea to talk to her more, and try to go to a therapist to talk it out, and to buy more lady clothes that are just for you.  Maybe even try other things like makeup, and with each thing you try, you can learn which things feel right for you.  Ultimately, the only thing that matters is being yourself, so try and not stress about it.  Hope that helps. :)

Both suggestions are really good.

I encourage keeping your Mom in the loop. I would also encourage you to seek therapy. I think it is a little early to make and absolute decision. You need to explore and figure it out.

Good Luck and don't be afraid to keep asking questions.

With warmth,

Joanna