let me introduce myself. i am straight women and i would like some advice on how to date a transgender guy (F2M).
Let me explain my story so you might get a clearer picture of my situation.
I recently join a new company and its been 6months now. Because of the nature of my job i have to deal with vendors. One particular
vendor is where i met A. A was nice and gentle guy, i kind of like him and thought he is really cute!. My work collegues use to make
fun of me as i was always happy to see him when we have functions. Me and A used to text each other on work purpose. Sometimes, we also
text about simple things like what are the plans for the weekend so on. My likeness for A begin to grow and when ever we had function i would
engage their service. And then suddenly he stop replying my text and started sending some one else to manage our functions. i was upset at this and my
collegues hinted that maybe he does not see me romantically just professionally.
One collegue pointed out that A might be a transgender. i was angry with them as i could not believe it. This collegue then when to find out and then told me that it is indeed true.
i was really shocked by this news! Took me some time to recover. Then i saw him again, and immediately i felt happy again that a huge burden that been lifted off my chest. That day i tot that
it didn't matter that he was a transgender guy as i enjoyed his company. Then one day, A's work collegue mentioned in passing that A was on leave and unable to come as he is visiting his partner.
i was really sad!...and my thinking was that am i that unattractive that A does not see me that way....so basically i am not sure what to do and need help.
welcome to the site.
I really can't give you advice on this matter as I am in the opposite sandbox as A. I can tell you that if you want to find out about it, you have to talk to the person themselves. Hinting or being covert is all well and good but it is not nailing down the issue of if they are interested in you or are otherwise spoken for.
Not sure why you would think you are ugly if A is seeing someone else? That is not a logical but emotional reaction. There are many people around. True, not all are nice or do you have a connection to. However, it is rare when there is only one choice in love.
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With warmth,
Joanna
Hi Joanna50,
Thank you for your reply and advice, much appreciated.
I must admit that i have not read the rules yet, and will go through them.
thank you.
Regards