So now that I am putting off transition for only two more months, aside from working on my voice. What are some other things I can work on. And what are some things I should do as a guy that I won't be able to do after my transition?
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facial hair. Easier to deal with in guy mode especially if you need electro. Hugs
Mariah
I had one of those. I didn't get through it, but I don't feel like anything was too important. There were alot of pictures involved, and I wore shorts for the last time before shaving my legs, because once you start really self feminizing, you can't pass for cis-male as well... Much happier with my body and lifestyle now though, so no problems...
If you like swimming, I suggest you get plenty of that in, with swimshorts and no shirt, because once you start shaving all that, you might get a few odd looks, and once you start HRT you'll want to wear that shirt...
Most importantly, take pictures and notes, and pay close attention to what it's like to be male. It's a life-experience that only trans-women have access to, and you might want to remember it later. Also, knowing your male body well will help you 1) make decisions on what to do with it and 2) help with dysphoria and euphoria later by making changes more apparent to you.
There are different opinion a on this but I'm wearing androgenous clothes in public, occasionally with heels (mostly covered by boot cut pants). Basically I'm doing things that will help make transition less traumatic for me and those around me. Voice and clothes are the two big ones.
About electro, the clinic I called said that most of their transwomen clients have been on hormones for a while to reduce the need.
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The mind reels at the possibilities of what to do :o
Buy clothes. Ones that pass as male at first - jeans, tennis shoes, etc - and then others. Because you don't really think about it, but what are you going to wear? I have an entire guy wardrobe since I've spent my whole life as one, but not a lot of female clothes. It's amazing to me that I'm like, oh crap, what do I wear this with? Gotta go shop!
Quote from: Karlie Ann on November 02, 2016, 09:21:59 PMBuy clothes. Ones that pass as male at first - jeans, tennis shoes, etc - and then others. Because you don't really think about it, but what are you going to wear? I have an entire guy wardrobe since I've spent my whole life as one, but not a lot of female clothes. It's amazing to me that I'm like, oh crap, what do I wear this with? Gotta go shop!
Goodwill is your friend.
You should try buying a few dresses and things for cheap at stores like Goodwill, then get things that work interchangably with them. I have white and black leggings, several colors of panties, a few types of accessories, a variety makeup kit from the dollar store, and a pair of black shoes and white converse sneakers. They combine in a few different ways, so I can have multiple outfits without having to buy new pieces for all of it.
As to girl stuff you can do , I'll second Mariah's comment about getting rid of any facial hair. Other things that come to mind if you aren't already doing some..... start practicing make up skills. It does take some time to figure out what works best for you and to get comfortable with applying everything and finding "your look". Practice painting your nails. I'm finding out there is a certain skill to that which seems so simple.
I can't wrap my brain around you second question about "a guy bucket list" After 59 years of pretending to be a guy, I've done about all the guy stuff I can stand. Nothing out there this old broad couldn't do as my real self if I really want to. Jessica.
Guess I'm cynical:
"Tell people stuff and have them listen to you." >:-)
She meant you should grow facial hair because you won't be able to after you've started medically transitioning...
Interesting idea but don't have the slightest notion as to anything particularly noteworthy about being a guy I miss or wish I did before apart from find out I was me sooner. Although I did have 3 wonderful kids but you'll need more than a couple of months for that ;)
For transition prep though defo facial hair removal as it takes so long and can be soul destroying having to let it grow for electrolysis until it becomes unnoticeable. A guy can be seen as clean shaven but a lady with stubble is a tough sell. It's been about 60 hours so far and after a week of growth nobody notices anything except me but what I see still makes me feel less me until Gillian removes it all. Soonest started soonest finished. Take as big a session as you can afford and/or tolerate for a decent headstart. When I started I Iiterally slept for 3 straight hours while she worked on me as it didn't hurt at all but as my nervous system repaired itself it gradually became pure torture before I got used to feeling pain and managing my reactions. Now I occasionally drift off for a bit but I'm mostly conscious as it is uncomfortable.
Swimming was a good call as I kinda got caught out with that one as I ummmm "suddenly" had breasts which ruled out topless and my nethers even when invisibly tucked were still like a time bomb for me dreading a wardrobe malfunction. Still got those bloody bits but my confidence has increased enough to swim and play now but my inability to take kids swimming was the catalyst.
If you've got any heavy work to do now's the time as I did lose my unnatural strength fast once I started hormones. That said there are always plenty of happy volunteers to help a damsel in distress so not as big a drawback as you might think. Others keep their strength through luck or just continuing to use it I gave mine up on purpose though.
Stock up on money and save any holiday allocations for transitiony stuff.
Quotewhat are some things I should do as a guy that I won't be able to do after my transition?
pee on things...lots of things.
Quote from: jentay1367 on November 07, 2016, 09:30:56 PM
pee on things...lots of things.
LOL
only thing i think of is to throw away just about everything i have accumulated from a life that i never wanted.