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Activism and Politics => Discrimination => Hate => Topic started by: Blackwaters427 on November 04, 2016, 05:06:18 PM

Title: Ah my first harassment. :/
Post by: Blackwaters427 on November 04, 2016, 05:06:18 PM
I knew transitioning was going to bring out some bigots. I haven't gotten this much verbal abuse since I was in military school. But I guess there's really no way to fully prepare for it. Just kinda depressed about it. They were my girlfriend's cousin and her husband.

How do you normally handle it when people give you flak and call you slurs and threaten you?
Title: Re: Ah my first harassment. :/
Post by: Paige on November 04, 2016, 11:01:37 PM
Quote from: Blackwaters427 on November 04, 2016, 05:06:18 PM
I knew transitioning was going to bring out some bigots. I haven't gotten this much verbal abuse since I was in military school. But I guess there's really no way to fully prepare for it. Just kinda depressed about it. They were my girlfriend's cousin and her husband.

How do you normally handle it when people give you flak and call you slurs and threaten you?

Not knowing these people I can't say for sure, but there's some crazy people out there.  It's probably best to avoid the confrontation and leave if it's possible.  Can you avoid these people in the future? 

What would you gain by standing up to them?  I'm sure it's not going to change their view and it might just anger them into harming you.  I think you want to play it safe.

Title: Re: Ah my first harassment. :/
Post by: Blackwaters427 on November 05, 2016, 12:08:56 PM
Quote from: Paige on November 04, 2016, 11:01:37 PM
Not knowing these people I can't say for sure, but there's some crazy people out there.  It's probably best to avoid the confrontation and leave if it's possible.  Can you avoid these people in the future? 

What would you gain by standing up to them?  I'm sure it's not going to change their view and it might just anger them into harming you.  I think you want to play it safe.

That's probably the most wise course of action. We don't have to see them anymore, as long as they don't come to my house. That's what I'm afraid of. They've hung out here before so they know where we live.
Title: Re: Ah my first harassment. :/
Post by: Paige on November 05, 2016, 04:12:09 PM
Quote from: Blackwaters427 on November 05, 2016, 12:08:56 PM
That's probably the most wise course of action. We don't have to see them anymore, as long as they don't come to my house. That's what I'm afraid of. They've hung out here before so they know where we live.

Not sure what to suggest.  Do you really feel they might show up some day?  How crazy do you think these people are?  Does your girlfriend know if they have a past history of violence?