This is a weird topic. But, today I was thinking, if I dress in a "Victorian Aristocrat" way I would be inspired to do my job, and put myself in a mindset that I am a "witch/demon slayer". Okay, I know that's a weird concept, but it be pretty much telling myself I am in a RPG game, and my job is to use my "wizardry skills" to solve the problems. I relate to witches strongly, and it makes me feel more feminine in that sense. Someone once said that escapism helps with being transgender and not transitioning, and I think it could help me.
It's like being gothic, a lifestyle, except not gothic. I don't want to compare it to Wicca cause that's a religion.
I would get a job that has a flexible but professional image. So my clothing wouldn't be so outrageous that people are distracted. And when I get home, I make my room look like a wizard/witch layer, so I feel motivated to study the totems/spell books to get ahead in my job/life.
I hope I didn't lose you guys. My mind went there. lol
Clothing (examples)
http://shrinestore.com/store/catalog/images/559400_10153270906250237_1201852196_n.jpg
http://shrinestore.com/store/catalog/images/527742_10152657883475237_338240873_n.jpg
Room fashion (kind of)
http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2014/10/20/1413811250428_wps_84_Georgian_House_Georgian_H.jpg
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anyone relate to this???
Whatever makes life more fun and gives relief from dysphoria, I suppose.
I'm a partial transmale, so don't have to worry much about my presentation, since women often wear men's styles. But whenever I have to wear something feminine above my comfort level, I pretend I'm a Thai man, Japanese Samurai warrior, or Thai Muslim man since all of them wear or wore skirts and/or robes.
They also wear beautiful handcrafted jewelry, so when I wear jewelry for work, that's the kind I choose.
Even with the androgynous, barely feminine clothing I do wear to work, I always design and make the clothes myself, to keep the dysphoric reaction as low as possible. My body reacts to jewelry that seems too feminine with actual physical PAIN.
Go for it! I love victorian style but would just not dare dressing in it for my job. I even stopped dressing gothic when I started this job, something I was doing all the time when I was still at university as a student. I like it if people dare and manage to dress in interesting ways and not the norm... I am just too much of a coward to do this myself anymore - maybe I would for a club or party, but not in daily life anymore. I guess I get old.
I am not sure however how this relates to anything with "trans" though, but if it helps you with that as well, even better