A couple of days ago I was at Walmart during the daytime. I am not supper passable but I can easily pass for woman during the night time. I have been to this Walmart few time even during the day time without any problem.
On this particular day, I was standing in line to check and there was black woman and her teenage son behind me. Soon they started laughing and the woman said to his son, "That is man, not a woman". Soon I hear laughter and they were making rude comment behind my back. Older lady working the counter was very understanding, she made me feel at ease and even complimented me on my nails.
As I was leaving, I heard the teenage boy shout and say, "Look that is man not woman".
What I learned from this story is that not everyone treat us the same. Matter of fact I went back to the same Walmart dressed as woman and thanked the woman who checked me out for understanding,
Anna
Some people are jerks, and for some reason need to loudly proclaim to the world that they are jerks. The counter lady obviously recognized that.
By the way, what the counter lady did here was a classic way to intervene in harassment. Engage the target in conversation, cutting the harasser out. They get to stand there on the side, making noise and pointedly being ignored, which really does make them look foolish. If they are persistent, inviting the target to walk to another area can help, that is "Say, we have this product on the other side of the counter area you might like", or "Hey, lets grab a cup of tea and chat."
I feel for you bianne. But guess what, here in India, being transgender equals to being destitute. Indian transgenders are involved only in sex work and begging. So you still have a better playing ground for your transition. I am an Indian and I am going to transition nevertheless.
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Quote from: Saira128 on November 22, 2016, 11:54:27 PM
I feel for you bianne. But guess what, here in India, being transgender equals to being destitute. Indian transgenders are involved only in sex work and begging. So you still have a better playing ground for your transition. I am an Indian and I am going to transition nevertheless.
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That is not exactly true. Many have minimal skills but we have at least one member who works in an office. You are best to get as much education as possible you you will have a better life when and after you transition.
I am actually well educated. I am studying medicine. I was just referring to the general conditions in my country India where transgenders are ostracized. India has a very high population of transgenders known as the "Hijra population". But on the other hand, there are some well educated, well respected trans women too. I was just saying that the proportion of the successful transwomen in India is very less compared to a lot of developed western countries.
Thank you.
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Quote from: biannne on November 22, 2016, 11:38:41 PM
A couple of days ago I was at Walmart during the daytime. I am not supper passable but I can easily pass for woman during the night time. I have been to this Walmart few time even during the day time without any problem.
On this particular day, I was standing in line to check and there was black woman and her teenage son behind me. Soon they started laughing and the woman said to his son, "That is man, not a woman". Soon I hear laughter and they were making rude comment behind my back. Older lady working the counter was very understanding, she made me feel at ease and even complimented me on my nails.
As I was leaving, I heard the teenage boy shout and say, "Look that is man not woman".
What I learned from this story is that not everyone treat us the same. Matter of fact I went back to the same Walmart dressed as woman and thanked the woman who checked me out for understanding,
Anna
Yes. That can happen. You will learn how to avoid it. It has been the same for me. Everybody here was once a rookie driver.
barbie~~
Could it be that maybe those who are the most vocal with their hate and ridicule have the most to fear, maybe internally conflicted and scared they may themselves be not as hard and fast to the binary as they portray. People who are intelligent, humane and confident in their own sexuality and place in the world don't tend to be the problem.
Liz
I am sorry for your experience at Walmart. Its crazy how rude people can be that shop at that store. I cannot relate when it comes to going out and about in public dressed as a woman and can only imagine what it would be like and I am not sure how I would respond to that situation, my smart ass response would be that I would turn around and look at the kid and say something like 'Don't be jealous because you aren't as pretty as me' lol, but most likely I would just try my best and ignore it. People are just ignorant and foolish and you just have to ignore the BS from people.
I sometimes go to Walmart and buy female clothes and when I first did it I was so nervous and would be walking through the female clothes and look at other woman and they would look at me confused on what I was doing but then would think most likely I will not see that person again so I would walk around like I knew what I am doing which most times I do anyway.
I used to get so nervous at check out but now I don't and they can go ahead and judge me all they want. Lately I have been doing all my femme shopping online and its just easier because I know my sizes for everything and it way more fun for me for some reason.