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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Angélique LaCava on November 26, 2016, 03:43:08 PM

Title: Would you consider this a compliment or more backhanded
Post by: Angélique LaCava on November 26, 2016, 03:43:08 PM
I hooked up with a guy last night, this morning he texted me and told me that he's just not into it because there wasn't a natural comfort like there would be with a natural born girl then he told me that he finds me attractive, more than some chicks. Would you consider that last part a compliment?
Title: Re: Would you consider this a compliment or more backhanded
Post by: jendawn47 on November 26, 2016, 03:52:40 PM
yes he is at least telling u that u are not at the bottom of the barrel and by the look of your picture you do look very pretty

jen dawn
Title: Re: Would you consider this a compliment or more backhanded
Post by: Jean24 on November 26, 2016, 04:05:00 PM
I doubt it was meant as a compliment, more like something to save him from getting told off.

It was like saying "You're not a real woman and I can't be attracted to that. But don't get mad and yell at me because I think you are pretty."

That's what it sounds like to me anyway.
Title: Re: Would you consider this a compliment or more backhanded
Post by: TonyaW on November 26, 2016, 04:45:03 PM
I think he thinks it was a compliment.  But he's also saying you're not a real woman by the way he phrased it.
Title: Re: Would you consider this a compliment or more backhanded
Post by: Maria77 on November 27, 2016, 02:14:52 AM
He thought it was a compliment, but expressed it poorly.  His loss: you are very pretty.
Title: Re: Would you consider this a compliment or more backhanded
Post by: descending_angel on November 28, 2016, 01:07:16 AM
While badly put I would take it as a complement. While not perfect at least he made some effort to give you and explanation rather then just breaking off contact or being just horrible.
Title: Re: Would you consider this a compliment or more backhanded
Post by: Wild Flower on November 28, 2016, 06:04:03 AM
I think he wanted a one night stand but doesn't consider you dating material because you're transgender. (in my opinion)

I wouldn't say its a compliment. More sugar-coating. And not quite of a backhand comment either.

It's like saying, "You're so handsome, but you don't make enough money to support us if we wanted a family" or "I would date you when you were in your early 20s, but after the meltdown and the crazy antics I would be too embarrass to bring you to my family".
Title: Re: Would you consider this a compliment or more backhanded
Post by: Wild Flower on November 28, 2016, 06:07:50 AM
Although he did use you for a one night stand, since he never had any intention to dating you before you even kissed. I would be more upset with that if there was any intention of a relationship.
Title: Re: Would you consider this a compliment or more backhanded
Post by: jeipea on November 28, 2016, 06:15:06 AM
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on November 26, 2016, 03:43:08 PM
I hooked up with a guy last night, this morning he texted me and told me that he's just not into it because there wasn't a natural comfort like there would be with a natural born girl then he told me that he finds me attractive, more than some chicks. Would you consider that last part a compliment?
Ok I was about to say "Men can be asses" - but just the fact that you are asking this shows how much of a natural woman you are. Don't ever let anyone rate your authenticity/realness/naturalness... Much love [emoji177] [emoji177]

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Title: Re: Would you consider this a compliment or more backhanded
Post by: Denise on November 28, 2016, 09:26:14 AM
I think he was being honest.  Take the compliment as I think it was meant to be and respond with a thank you for being honest with me.

I tend to see good in people and try not to make up stuff (reading between three lines)  that's not implied strongly between the lines.  I've gotten myself in huge trouble doing that.  Also doing so will not help your psyche.

Hugs Dee



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