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Title: Guilty... Someone paid for my lunch
Post by: Wild Flower on December 15, 2016, 12:46:36 PM
Today. I was at the restaurant, and I wasn't able to pay for my meal with my debit card. A coworker I didn't see decided to pay for it... I feel sick to my stomach and then I went to get money to pay her back... She decline and I still hated the fact she paid for it...

Any advice?
Title: Re: Guilty... Someone paid for my lunch
Post by: Alora on December 15, 2016, 01:17:05 PM
Quote from: Wild Flower on December 15, 2016, 12:46:36 PM
Today. I was at the restaurant, and I wasn't able to pay for my meal with my debit card. A coworker I didn't see decided to pay for it... I feel sick to my stomach and then I went to get money to pay her back... She decline and I still hated the fact she paid for it...

Any advice?
Best things I can think of... pay it forward!

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Title: Re: Guilty... Someone paid for my lunch
Post by: Emerald on December 15, 2016, 01:21:13 PM
Pay it forward!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pay_it_forward
Title: Re: Guilty... Someone paid for my lunch
Post by: Wild Flower on December 15, 2016, 03:11:10 PM
I am over it now. Damn, I almost had a mini panic attack, but I thought it over, and I offer to pay... and she decline, what can I do? Nothing. Moving on.

Title: Re: Guilty... Someone paid for my lunch
Post by: Platzhalter on December 15, 2016, 08:56:18 PM
Seconding the pay it forward idea - there's nothing wrong with receiving things if you give back to someone in some way :)
Title: Re: Guilty... Someone paid for my lunch
Post by: Saison Marguerite on December 15, 2016, 09:44:07 PM
Don't feel bad! I have done this for people and it is a bigger deal for them than it is for me. :) I don't mind doing it at all for someone now and then, they would probably feel terrible to know that you were embarrassed or guilty.
Title: Re: Guilty... Someone paid for my lunch
Post by: jentay1367 on December 16, 2016, 12:44:00 AM
She's a co-worker so maybe you can bring her a coffee or drop off some breakfast danish to her or something. At least it would show your appreciation. Mostly cuz' you took the time to care. Just as she did with you......amd got you out of a jam...yay!