2017 Is just a day a head. I was wondering what are your goals for 2017?
Whether it is about transitioning, being a better person, family, or just simply looking for a partner.
For me for the most part, 2016 was a busy year for me, finishing college, working 2 jobs in the summer, started hrt, looking for a new endo, my treach shave, and my break up.
I can very happily say. Now I feel like it was a bit of a stressful year, and now I feel like a huge load has been lifted from me.
As for my goals, I guess.. I can now start focusing on my career goals, continue my hrt and keep telling myself its who I am. Relationship wise I don't know....My goals main goals is my career, and to hopefully come out little by little.
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Continued transition. My guess is that by June/July I'll not be able to be Dan even if I wanted to.
It might be time to look in to FFS.
Continue the transition. Get a trachea shave. Schedule my GCS, FFS. Continue expanding my social activities, maybe even (eeep!) dating.
Edit: I keep thinking about this. Damn you, Internet! Putting ideas in my head...
* get my identity papers in order. Court date in 2 weeks!
* Finalize the divorce. Lots of fiddly details here...
* Travel! Heck, I'd jump on the first cruise out of a nearby port, to anywhere, just for a change of pace. It would be nice to have someone else take care of me for a few weeks.
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Go running 3-5 days a week.
Try to enjoy my trip abroad for bottom surgery even though it's mostly a medical trip.
Take a real vacation sometime later in the year after I'm all healed up.
Get rid of all non-student loan related debt by the end of the year.
Make a decision on whether or not I want to go back for a third degree.
There isn't a lot left to do
I have to get in better shape, that's a no-choice thing; but since I actually have some hormones in my body it feels close, try achieving anything when low on all of them... you can't
Cutting out processed crap from my diet - I already eat better than everyone I know but I still consider it a vice that needs breaking; the other one is to like drinking water... lifelong habit, I hate drinking plain water
Read more - I already gotta read at least 7 more novels this year for school which puts me off reading anything in spare time when you are forced to read stuff you don't want to, but I feel a need to
Sleep more - totally not been getting enough
Hopefully they'll now be able to fast track me for surgery this year
Maybe buy a new car
Some new clothes are in order
Care less about the small stuff
Becomming a better bhuddist and learning to lessen my ego. Giving back to society as part of my merits deeds in thanks for the wonderful life I have.
Lose more weight
Improve my fitness
Go full time in April
Become an Activist
Liz
Try and help as many people as I can.
Never regret the past and anticipate the future with joy and hope.
See 2018 - and beyond
Let's see...
- Heal up after my GRS a few weeks ago. I want to improve my fitness and health once I'm able to get back to my usual level of activity. I suspect that will be in a month for most things but a bit more for more active and strenuous pursuits.
- Go on dates. This is different from "get into a relationship" but if that happens as a result of going on dates and/or cafe brunches then so be it! I need to learn to be less picky and pedantic about selecting prospective people to match up with, especially when basing that decision on their dating profile.
- Be great at my work. I've been dealt an awesome and unique opportunity at work...sure some aspects of it are less than ideal but I need to find a way to make that work because the payoff, not just for me and my organisation but for tens of thousands of people living with a treatable viral illness, will be massive.
- Rule at comics/cartooning. I've been working on a particular drawing/story telling project for over ten years. I want this to be the year where it breaks through and finds its audience and starts to bring in a decent supplemental income.
- Be daring. There's a lot that I haven't done over the many years of my life, and it's hard to know how much of that I can ascribe to my gender issues/dysphoria/etc and how much of it is fear and lame excuses...but with the dysphoria all but dealt with it's time to put the fear and excuses aside and be, at the very least, a bit more adventurous. For example, I have never been overseas...time for that to change, even if it is to relatively "safe" destinations. Also, despite once owning a car and still renewing my drivers license, I haven't driven in almost 18 years...time to get behind the wheel again...!
That'll do for now... ;)
Make a few more steps towards transition without my life falling apart. I've done the easy bits.
1. Get through the next few months for medical stuff. I'm 54, so the guts have to get examined from the other end, and I'm having a new knee installed in March.
2. Not get too crazy. I finally have an appointment for TG counseling, ...in July. See the age above, and know that a few more months will make me crazy.
3. Clean the house. My mom is moving in mid-January, to my house. DW and I have some work to do.
4. Not get too crazy. Once I come out, mom will be well ensconced in my house. It may get crazy.
5. Still not getting crazy. Everyone who lives here has interesting conditions. Me. My DW, who is uncomfortable in her skin. My son #1, who is on the autistic spectrum. My son #2, who is on the lazy spectrum. My daughter, who doesn't live here anymore, but is giving her BF the most serious grief a stomach bug can render.
6. Maybe this year will be better than the last!
Quote from: warlockmaker on December 31, 2016, 12:55:39 AM
Becomming a better bhuddist and learning to lessen my ego. Giving back to society as part of my merits deeds in thanks for the wonderful life I have.
My wife is Thai and a devout Buddhist which I do intend to take up this year, while I linger on the UK GIC waiting list.
I also intend to stop the ecig tomorrow, stop drinking all together even though I have cut this to one blow out a month this last year.
Start building my female wardrobe (I have already started building a nice make up box), loose 16kg with regular exercise and smaller portions, currently I do none and I am at least 12kg over weight.
Start looking for a new career/ job, being a PC technician does not pay well where I am and I suspect issues may arise when I finally transition.
Happy new year all! xxx
p.s. - lots of make up practice and find a good wig! (almost forgot) and be more understanding to my amazing wife.
- I really need to start researching surgeons for my top surgery as I will likely have my first appointment at the GIC in May.
- Excercise a bit more.
-Attend a training session to volunteer for Diversity Role Models. They were booked up in Jan so I'll have to wait until March now.
-Finish my barbering course and hopefully have my social anxiety under control enough so I can get a job at a barbers in central London.
- And I guess maybe have my consultation booked for top surgery but this is probably not totally realistic considering how slow the NHS is.
Start HRT.
Go full-time.
Change my ID (foreign birth certificate is going to be a doozy).
It is going to be an interesting year.
Change my name. Get a legal divorce. GO BACK TO SCHOOL! >:-) KonMari my "stuff" -- who needs it? Reconnect with friends. Fix my facebook so I can actually use it and not be afraid of my feed any more. Eat healthy. Take more walks. Take care of myself.
Hmmm..
In 2017 I hope to:
1. go to the beach whenever I can
2. drink cold coconut milk on the beach whenever I can
3. live in the tropics
4. jam on my keyboard while my Asian Fairy-bluebird sings along
5. eat plenty of fresh produce
6. ride my motorbike to get around
7. Take plenty of photos of exotic birds and wildlife
8. Hike in the mountains
9. see lots of exotic scenery
See? I'm doing it all already!
I do have goals, but I read that telling others your goals lessens motivation
Me at Mu Ko Similan National Marine Park, Thailand
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimg.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fv203%2FRachelbirder%2Frachel%2520coming%2520out%2520of%2520water.jpg&hash=fc41d2ff9ddb3da1e8a8de2ad3bfd8b3f1c4c725)
This seems like a good place to de-lurk.
38 Non-binary amab. "Hi!"
1. find a gender therapist and start going. Starting that on Monday. Found one I think I'll like but I'm scared of doctors to start with so... Just need to do it.
2. Expand my public expression. I got a start on that this week. I'm at work in a gypsy skirt and leggings today.
3. Quit smoking partly for cost. Partly a promise to my daughter. Partly in case I do end up on hrt.
4. Finish getting in shape. I've dropped 10 or so inches off my waist the past couple years but still have a tummy. Need to start proper exercise.
Ummm so hi again!
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Oh yes, I forgot to add legal name change and re-ordering all my documents again. Can't wait for the fun of that, but at least it will mean I have valid ID once again... everything has expired
in the middle half of 2016 I was a real a*****e to a lot of people. I attribute it stopping E. But that's no excuse. My goal for 2017 is to
1) smile more
2) apologize less/thank more ("sorry I'm late" vs "thanks for waiting")
3) be more positive
4) lose the ego.
Transition Stuff
1. Start Therapy (Appointment scheduled for mid January)
2. Lose another 40Lbs (already down 60Lbs.)
3. Start HRT
4. Start Electrolysis
Non-transition
1. Start writing again (stopped due to massive depression)
2. Spend more time out having fun with my son (I bought unlimited season passes to a local theme park)
So much to look forward to in this next year. It's exciting and terrifying.
My goals are to manage my mental illness, quit smoking, read more, hang out more, write more fanfic, be a better person and of course start my medical transition (start t and all that jazz), be more happy within myself.
Maybe even travel back home during new year or smth.
- Finalize all things related to divorce
- Get fit again - start training with my daughter for vienna woman's run
- Continue (maybe finalize) beard removal
- maybe GRS, if the waiting list permits it in 2017
- Get my voice into the female range
That enough for one year I guess ;)
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That being said, happy new year from Toronto, Canada.
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Quote from: warlockmaker on December 31, 2016, 12:55:39 AM
Becomming a better bhuddist and learning to lessen my ego. Giving back to society as part of my merits deeds in thanks for the wonderful life I have.
Further control the monkey mind.
I need to get my family on board my transition.
start hrt
Finish electrolysis
Stick to my diet. (Goal weight 165)
Find a place to live (being a couch surfer sucks.)
Out myself to my family.
Keep my job for as long as I can.
No more 'Wreck it Ralph' fits. >.<
Begin hair removal for SRS.
1) Finish Hair Removal
2) Lose remaining 15 pounds or so
3) Get a surgery date for GRS for sometime near the end of 2017
:) 8) Use more emojis. Definitely. More emojis. ::) 8)
1. Make it to 2018 (age 65)
2. Celebrate the birth of my daughter's baby. The babies birthday was about 4 months ago (conception) but we will celebrate when it is delivered and three months later celebrate another birthday.
3. Reveal myself in public at the Esprit conference in May.
4. Find a pair of boots that don't cost me the leg I would put it on.
Quote from: Mikka55 on December 30, 2016, 05:54:03 PM
2017 Is just a day a head. I was wondering what are your goals for 2017?
Whether it is about transitioning, being a better person, family, or just simply looking for a partner.
For me for the most part, 2016 was a busy year for me, finishing college, working 2 jobs in the summer, started hrt, looking for a new endo, my treach shave, and my break up.
I can very happily say. Now I feel like it was a bit of a stressful year, and now I feel like a huge load has been lifted from me.
As for my goals, I guess.. I can now start focusing on my career goals, continue my hrt and keep telling myself its who I am. Relationship wise I don't know....My goals main goals is my career, and to hopefully come out little by little.
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Moving a second time and hopefully that's where it ends. Getting to actually live my life and having a chance to make things better then they are in my future
Getting a job outside of where i am now and going to where i'd be more happy.
I'm having high hopes that by the end of this year i'll be going for a g.e.d and hopefully taking science classes to gain more knowledge in that area so i can get into astrology and study psychology.
After doing this i'll probably have a second goal of transitioning going good and passing more often
I'm a little late to this party, ha!
I don't do resolutions, but I do like a good plan..
This year I need to:
1) Raise the money for facial remodeling and get to Buenos Aires to have it done.
2) Love myself more, and find a love for me, in that order.
3) Relax.
Most of the hard stuff is behind me now, so I need to just let it flow...
Save at least half of my grs cost somehow
start laser hair removal downstairs for grs :(
Quote from: Lady_Oracle on January 18, 2017, 08:28:24 PM
Save at least half of my grs cost somehow
start laser hair removal downstairs for grs :(
If you're from the US, you should consider Dr. Brassard in Montreal. Firstly, his GRS doesn't require hair removal "down there" and secondly, when you convert the cost of GRS into US$, you're getting about a 25% discount than if you had gone say five years ago.
Quote from: Nina_Ottawa on January 18, 2017, 08:37:45 PM
If you're from the US, you should consider Dr. Brassard in Montreal. Firstly, his GRS doesn't require hair removal "down there" and secondly, when you convert the cost of GRS into US$, you're getting about a 25% discount than if you had gone say five years ago.
And he has amazing results aesthetically and in sensation, plus the recovery residence has 24-hour nursing care and a chef that makes scrumptious meals 3 times a day...
But not having to deal with pubic hair removal would have been enough of a clincher for me, lol...
Quote from: Nina_Ottawa on January 18, 2017, 08:37:45 PM
If you're from the US, you should consider Dr. Brassard in Montreal. Firstly, his GRS doesn't require hair removal "down there" and secondly, when you convert the cost of GRS into US$, you're getting about a 25% discount than if you had gone say five years ago.
Thanks for the advice but I've looked into him and everything. The cost alone is awesome but I've decided on a different surgeon for now for a few specific reasons. I definitely do need hair removal down there even if it's not required. I'd rather not risk it since there's not much I can do about the hair once postop. And as hairy as I'am its not a chance I'm willing to take :-\
I realized that I still have quite a few goals for 2017, so I'd like to share even though its already the new year.
1. Save up money for FFS: I realized that my gender dysphoria is mostly centered around my facial area. Its very bad, up to the point where I can't really look into the mirror, so this year I really want to do something about it.
2. Exercise more: I've been on HRT for the past 7 months and I have gained a lot of weight recently, in areas where I don't like. So now that my body is changing to the way I like, I'm gonna take advantage and gain a smaller waist and a bigger butt.
I guess everything is mostly appearance based, but my appearance has always bothered me since forever, so these goals are steps for my happiness. :angel:
I gave up junk food especially chocolate, clearly Light Side temptations. Haven't thought about them since.
And someone just gave me a £40 voucher for a store that sells liquor and cake.
WHY
My goals are to find happiness and kickstart on my drawing and writing. I've already started to give up smoking[emoji108][emoji108]
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Quote from: Kylo on January 19, 2017, 11:50:29 AM
I gave up junk food especially chocolate, clearly Light Side temptations. Haven't thought about them since.
And someone just gave me a £40 voucher for a store that sells liquor and cake.
WHY
That voucher sounds just up my alley [emoji6]
Seriously though good luck!
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I've held off on posting a reply to this thread mostly because I don't really know the answer for me. I'm not one that makes yearly goals or resolutions but there are some things I'm working on that I would love to see get accomplished this year. So here they are in no particular order:
- Lose 10-15 lbs (I'm still up 10 from where I was 2 years ago when I got to my lowest adult weight)
- Come to an answer on HRT and whether I intend to pursue it
- Be happier in general. I'm realizing through therapy and talking with people how angry I have been when I was still repressing
- Find a faith community that will accept me as Trans - I think I completed this one!!!
I should add some more to my list;
-Stop reaching out to people. It's a waste of time anyway, if they don't want to approach you, stop chasing after them.
-Internalize myself further.
Quote from: ghostbees on January 19, 2017, 12:27:15 PM
That voucher sounds just up my alley [emoji6]
Seriously though good luck!
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Someone took it off me... Crisis averted.
A new year brings so many possibilities!
So Far:
- Weeks away from finishing my university degree!
- Possibility of some work at my old job whilst looking for a graduate position.
- Began a whole new beauty regime!
- Slowly coming to terms with my female identity, and reducing the doubts I am having.
Goals for 2017:
- See a therapist. I have tracked one down that I want to see, but financial constraints are making it somewhat difficult to see them currently.
- Make some decisions, including transition, HRT, "coming out".
- Job. Find a graduate job in Marketing.
I hope this year brings everyone lots of joy, happiness, progress and success!
Love,
Karlee.x
Figure out exactly what I am, how to make the best of the long term outcomes.
-Complete my degree
-Get some manner of full time employment
-Get my GIC referral and get onto the waiting list
-Get at least one day full-time presentation, including time out in public.
Might as well, thread's here.
What I've done so far is to start taking better care of myself, which includes a beauty regimen, losing weight, continuing to grow my hair out despite the haters.
What I want to do,
finally make an appointment to a transgender psychologist (the message is already in her voicemail)
Start HRT
Swap my antioil products for moisturizing after the HRT hopefully makes my skin less oily.
Buy clothes that match my gender identity.
Makeup, gonna need it.
Shave the beard I've been hiding behind. (Start permanent hair removal on that)
Come out everywhere so I can wear what I want. (Risky at work, everywhere else should be fine)
Reach target weight of 180, and continue down to a healthy female weight.
Tough list, and fast, but I'd rather just rip the band-aid off if I can muster the courage.
To be able to re-gain control of my life and have ''him'' disappear forever :)
* Finish transitioning at work (done!)
* Change my name in the remaining nooks and crannies where my deadname is still hiding out.
* Get things moving towards SRS for late 2017 or early 2018
* Change name and gender on birth certificate. This may be a bit complicated.
* Finish healing the effects of my childhood. (Mainly emotional flashbacks.)
Live another year. (Not a given)
Road trip to Maine. It's the only state I have not been in.
Come out to family friends. It's going to start soon.
Continue to make progress at becoming me.
Hugs,
Jeanette