If you have an issue with your height, how do you personally deal with it?
Would you do any of those surgeries that lengthen the leg bones or wear stuff that makes you appear taller or literally makes you taller?
Strange thing, I never considered height much before but lately I have been thinking more about it. What a difference five or six inches would make.
That's a thing?! I'm so interested in something that makes me taller!
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I have seriously looked into getting lifts or elevtor boots. being 5'1" sucks
I'm 5'5". I see plenty of guys out and about in the world that are as tall as or shorter than me. So it doesn't bother me so much anymore. Would it be nice to be taller? Sure. But it isn't a strong enough desire for me to do something about it. I pass 100% of the time as tall as I am now, so there would be no point to it for me.
I come from a family with short men in it (mother's side, all guys on that side are shorter than me) and the ones on my dad's side are all tall. Spent most of my time around the former so I know it doesn't affect too many aspects of life for them and it never colors my opinion of another person. When it comes to myself though, I have some issues with it and I'm not sure exactly why.
I know it affects the dynamics of interactions to some degree. I'm not short for the birth gender but was always inordinately picked on, which has made me respond to aggression with aggression rather than diplomacy. Could be a problem.
Ahhhh. The irony, I'm a 5'10" transwonan. I'd love to be shorter, much shorter! If its any consolation guys,
Founder of Israel...David Ben Gurion 5'0"
Engelbert Dollfuss, Austrian Chancellor from 1932-34, stood 4ft 11in in his socks
Benito Juarez, five times president of Mexico between 1867 and 1872, at 4ft 6in.
Not to intrude on a thread not meant for me, but these guys totally rocked it.
Sorry to bother you guys. I don't like being told supermodels are my height either as I'm not and never will be. Carry on, Gentlemen.
I'm 5'7" and, if I'm being honest, I absolutely hate it. I've always had issues with my height... but I'm one of those people that would transform into a 6'6" 350lb muscle-bound beast without any hesitation if I could.
That being said, I've learned to deal with it because there are no really viable alternatives; I see plenty of guys either shorter than me, the same height, or just barely taller.
I think my issues are compounded by the fact that all of the males in my family are very tall and I know I'd have been taller if I'd have started HRT sooner/been born into the correct gender. Took a while to choke that bitter pill down.
I figure if I'm going to be on the shorter side, I have to be muscular and bulky to counteract it (I'm going for a sweet Ankylosaurus body) so I've been busting my *** at the gym. I'm just a hair under 200 at 195lbs with an eventual goal of 210-215. So yeah, that's been my solution; I just focus on what can be changed to put my mind at ease.
I never gave a darn about my appearance before starting to transition so I am 5'1" and as wide as I am tall. I am focusing on losing the weight ( down 12 lbs already) and then I am going to try and tone up. 5'5" would be a blessing. But if I can get the body proportinate I don't think it will bother me as much. Still going to look into lifts tho
I'm ftm *in the head*, haven't transistion yet, so still technically living a cis-gender male life. OKAY, I noticed that being at my height 5'7 (or 5 feet, and 6.5 inches) kind of sucks, so I used to put lifts in my shoes. It's not that I hated being short, because I am okay with it, but I don't feel "elegant" or "graceful" being my height.
If I was a fully transitioned woman, trust me, I am putting on the high heels immediately because being around 5'9 is the sweet spot for me (that and I look better), and I like tall men.... so I don't even look at guys who are shorter than 6'2.
I also wish I was shorter, but not as a man, if I was a cisgender woman, I rather be 5'5. That way I could totally rock high heels. It's about the proportions.
I don't care about "being taller than the average woman", I care about looking good, and that's about it. Adriana Lima looks good and she's very tall. I am around Kate Winslet height, so I am okay (same shoe size).
Not my forum, but I feel as a "fake" cisgender man I could answer this lol.
God I feel you man. Being 5'3 it really does take a toll on your self esteem. As I've thought about it, it doesn't bother me as much. Just think just like with cis guys, height will vary. There are guys 4'11 and get hot chicks, great jobs, and have happy lives. You've just gotta present yourself in a confident way and not let people know it bothers you. Also, maybe watch what kind of clothes you wear, try to avoid huge baggy clothing, it could make you look smaller. Working out would also help to make you look overall bigger, and it would probably make you more confident.
Also, there are some AWESOME height increasing shoes that look just like normal shoes but can give you up to 5.5 inches in height.
http://www.increasingshoes.com/onlineorder.asp?SearchHEIGHT=3
There is a silver lining I guess... The taller and more intimidating you look the more likely it can be that other guys pick a fight with you. I've seen it happen so many times, especially on the club circuit where people are drinking and operating on the "reptile brain". All the bigger guys I knew there got the most trouble, people went for them the most as if they were "legit" targets because of their size.
(Ofc because of their size they usually handled it pretty easily)
I'm 5'5 (and 3/4 to be exact ;) ) and I must admit it does very slightly still bother me. It's probably just because I already look young for my age and being my height obviously doesn't help; that plus I don't like how some guys have to look down on me if we're talking. But it helps when I remind myself I've seen plenty of men in public my height or just an inch or so taller. I've considered; not seriously though; surgery to make me taller. But it seems a very painful operation to only add an inch or two to my height. And as a friend has pointed out maybe it would then maybe make me look out of proportion as my torso would look too short in comparison to my legs :D.
But yeah I don't think guys hassle you about your height. Just act tougher than you are and you'll fit in. Me being on T and having a muscular/chunky build helps.
There seems to be a thing mocking shorter guys who compensate by trying to bulk up or act tougher.
I dunno, maybe that's where some of my social problems come from. I don't try to act tough or look especially larger than I am. I just get real serious when someone messes with me (I do mean like seriously screwing with me, not just joking around) and it tends to freak people out. I guess they don't expect someone with my demeanor to have that sort of side to them. Maybe there is something to be said for 'displaying' your personality more openly, as it might give people more of a clue to leave you alone.
But it's happened enough times for me to know something's up. Either that or not being someone else's doormat is just what earns you this kinda hassle in life.
I live in Scotland where all the men are rather short. The tallest being around 5 foot 8 and the average around 5 foot 5. They totally rock it though, usually with being stocky with lush beards!
I know its not all about attraction, but women don't care about height as much as you would think. I'm intersex and all my female friends are Cis and whenever we have girly chats about men, we really don't ask for much. Sure height, good looks, e.t.c are nice, but all we really ask, is that you turn up for a date, freshly washed and in clean clothes. That's it! Also (in my friend group at least) we prefer a tummy over 6 pack abs any day! Xxx
Quote from: Moomin on January 28, 2017, 04:48:10 AM
I live in Scotland where all the men are rather short. The tallest being around 5 foot 8 and the average around 5 foot 5. They totally rock it though, usually with being stocky with lush beards!
I know its not all about attraction, but women don't care about height as much as you would think. I'm intersex and all my female friends are Cis and whenever we have girly chats about men, we really don't ask for much. Sure height, good looks, e.t.c are nice, but all we really ask, is that you turn up for a date, freshly washed and in clean clothes. That's it! Also (in my friend group at least) we prefer a tummy over 6 pack abs any day! Xxx
Awesome, I'm moving to Scotland lol. I'm 5'5" and I'd be right on average there. Although going around town here I find that occasionally I'm taller than cis-seeming men, so there's that. I'm also finding that having worked on my posture with working out, etc, I'm coming across as taller than I am. Maybe also the floofy hair adds another inch or so, depending on wind. :)
Yay more trans people in Scotland! :) I'm in Glasgow myself and I love it here! I've noticed a lot of guys wear biker boots that have a bit of a heel. Doesn't look like they are "trying" to look taller, but gives a good couple of inches. At 5 foot 5 you''ll be absolutely set! X
Quote from: Moomin on January 29, 2017, 07:13:55 AM
Yay more trans people in Scotland! :) I'm in Glasgow myself and I love it here! I've noticed a lot of guys wear biker boots that have a bit of a heel. Doesn't look like they are "trying" to look taller, but gives a good couple of inches. At 5 foot 5 you''ll be absolutely set! X
Can cosign this. I wear boots most of the time for two reasons: slight added lift, and boots in general IMO make your feet look bigger.
I wear biker style or tac boots most of the time, they usually add 1.5 to 2 inches in height, but that wasn't the reason I started wearing them years back. It was for protection while working in the club, moving heavy stuff, dealing with crowds, etc. I've been wearing boots for so long I can't stand shoes that leave your ankles unprotected/unsupported. (In that profession they required some of us to wear something with steel toe caps lol)
Brilliant. :) I do love boots. And Scotland.
Biker boots would be great. Can I get away with them in the office? I was thinking of something like a Chelsea boot. I've got a couple pairs of brogues. I'm into the boot suggestion though, for height and comfort!
Plus boots just look great! I love biker boots on guys! You can definitely get away with the more chelsea looking biker boots in the office. My brother wears the more "workman" steel toecap boots everywhere. My friend Alistair is Cis and 5"2, he wears the cool New Rock boots, which have huge metal heels and they look aces! Not so much for the office though lol.
I'm 5"8 myself and my girlfriend is 5"7, Its fun when we both wear heels and "loom" over Glasgow :)
Good luck and I hope you love Scotland as much as I do! If your near Glasgow, there are loads of cool LGBT meetups. The board game and coffee/cake nights are awesome! X
I'm 5'6 and my height doesn't bother me at all. One of the dudes I work with is 5'3-5'4, super skinny (wears the same shoe size as me) and is a professional skateboarder. So height don't matter it's all about how you carry yourself :)
Honestly the only thing that bothers me is my hand size but that's about it.
It only really bugs me if there's a guy that is really tall and makes me seem so short in comparison. Then when people post height topics it can be triggering because I don't think about height on a daily basis.
I don't think anyone likes standing next to someone who makes them feel they're at the bottom of a well ;D
I'm 5'4 and couldnt' care less. I wouldn't want to be super tall. Carry yourself with confidence!
I'm 5'3" if I'm generous and it used to bother me a lot. I seriously considered one of those leg lengthening surgeries but I'm allergic to most pain meds and so I wasn't going to prioritize it. Now that I've been on testosterone for a while and I pass more regularly, it doesn't bother me as much. I definitely think about it a lot less. Sure I'd love to be taller, but I'm fine where I am too. I tend to comfort myself because of my foot size- I have the average male foot size even though I'm significantly shorter than average. I not only got large feet for an AFAB person of my height, but large feet if I were a cisguy my height too. I find that comforting (plus I can make the "you know what they say about big feet" jokes).
Ultimately I think my discomfort with my height was just made worse by my not passing. I blamed my not passing on my height. So now that I DO pass, I don't hold that grudge anymore.
I wouldn't care so much if it were not for the strange fact people love to start crap with me. I think it'll happen more frequently in the future.
If people felt it fine to threaten or threaten to beat up what looked like a girl, they aren't going to think twice if it looks like a boy.
I'm 5'8" which is decent but I always wanted to be taller. I used to fantasize about being 6"... but just like growing a penis, it didn't happen.
That said, I am in my 30s and another 4" of height isn't going to magically appear and I'm not going to hurt myself for added height.
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I'm 5'4 and used to be much more self-conscious about my height when I didn't pass, even though the height alone wasn't hindering my passing. Way before I even knew what trans meant I always wanted to be taller, as I was usually the shortest in my class. It didn't help that most of my classmates were a year or two older.
I didn't know the leg lengthening surgeries were a thing, but I personally wouldn't consider it now. There's plenty of cis men who are around the same height as me anyway, and it hasn't caused me any problems besides probably making me look extremely nonthreatening.
I am 5'7 (very grateful I'm not any shorter) and I go through stages at times where I hate my height and wish to be taller. I came to realise that it's not "being short" which bothers me.. it's the reason WHY I'm short :icon_anger:
I'm 5'2
I've never really thought about it much tbh
I just walk with confidence that
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5'8 and I'm good with it. Of course 6'2 would be nice but what can ya do? As long as I am as tall or taller than most women, which I am, I'm OK.
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I've worn platform shoes before ;D! Yeah that made a huge lift in my confidence (and helped with passing). I've also considered shoe lifts. That's a possibility! Funnily I just heard that my dad's uncle used to wear those!!! I didn't even know!
I've also half-seriously considered that leg-chopping operation!!! But only half-seriously.
Usually I'm just fine with it... Like I'm used to being this short. It helps when I see guys around my height every day so...!
But I do have a thing for platform shoes though ;)
Yeah I am one of those crazy ones that plans on getting the surgery when I can afford it. I'm 5'4 and it's always been a dream of mine to hit 5'7 - the surgery you're referring to is called Cosmetic Limb Lengthening and it's seen as a bit radical by some but I'm set on it (have been since I was a 16 or so) It's an intense surgery though so it needs to be done with a reputable Dr. that can make it as safe as possible - if you choose to go that route. Personally I've never really wanted to be "tall" just wanted to be average instead of pint or "fun" sized.
Knowing I have seen a few gg's at 5'10" or above. I'm 5'10". Wished I was 5'8", but I make do at 5'10". 5'10" is the absolute maximum I'm comfortable with, so I'm good :)
i'm 5'2" give or take and my height used to bother me. however now that i pass and what ever, i don't really care. i don't think my height has hindered my ability to pass but then again, i have a beard and had top surgery and a deep voice so if someone misgendered me, i'd look at them like they're crazy. the only people who get on me about my height are other guys but i know guys my height too and we don't seem to care when people mention it. i don't feel short though and i feel like if you complain about your height, etc. it's a turn off for most people and more people will make fun of you for it because they know it gets to you. i know girls who won't date short guys for the fact that they complain about their height and aren't confident. my height hasn't stopped me from doing what i want to do, etc. so i don't care about my height. it doesn't stop me from getting women, it doesn't stop me from my career, and it doesn't stop me from being happy. i know some people look at me and think i can't do what others can but then i just prove them wrong.
I'm only 5'1" (I feel like I should be around 5'7", considering the heights of the men in my family), and around 80% of people my age are taller than me and it makes me super dysphoric. Doesn't help that society says that a 'short' man is 5'10" or shorter. Like. No, that's tall.
BUT, I also see a lot of cis guys my age or older who are my height or shorter than me, just out and about, and it reminds me that my height does not, in any way, make me less of a man than anyone else.
I've also considered getting those shoe inserts that make you a couple inches taller. :laugh:
well at 5'5" and partly Scottish descent, at least now I can claim it's normal for my genetics.. good to know. I'm not super bothered by my height usually, but I get tired of seeing people act like 6' is the minimum "man height", even so that's well above average here. women especially tend to do this. it's kinda the same issue with genital size, people having a really inflated idea of what's actually normal. all that said, I love the feeling of being tall when I have higher shoes on, especially being able to reach stuff better and not feel like I'm being looked down at/on all the time. I'm bookmarking that shoe website.
Yeah, being 5'6" ish is usually more like 5'7" or 5'8" depending on if I'm wearing regular shoes or some types of walking or combat style boots. I forget when I'm around most people I'm generally wearing something that by default just happens to make me taller. For a lot of guys the extra height is in the legs rather than the torso so when everyone's sitting around chilling out we all look roughly the same anyway.
I'm adverse to the idea of getting any sort of shoes or things that deliberately make me taller, but most do a bit anyway. I guess I do not want to get used to the feeling and then feel obligated to keep doing it or something.
I've never really been bothered by my height, which is been 5'6". I like that I can more easily hide in a crowd with my height, sit comfortably in a car, rarely ever have to worry about low ceilings even in old houses, that I don't as easily come off as intimidating to other people, that people are more likely to be protective of me than picking a fight, etc. I've simply noticed that this is a very practical and safe height to be at, even though I can't quite reach the top shelf. Not that often I need to anyway.
Only thing I can think of that might be on a negative note is that had I been straight, I probably would have been insecure about women not liking a guy who is their height or shorter. Not that I think that's true though. But I'm gay so having a partner who's a lot taller than me isn't an issue for either of us, cause of same gender and gay cis couples are gonna be one shorter/one taller in most cases as well.
I don't have a boyfriend now, but my lover is 6'6" and we probably look a bit odd together out in public, not only cause he's a foot taller than me (I reach up to his chest) but also significantly older, but that doesn't bother neither him nor me.
I'm 5'5 and of asian descent. My father is about one foot shorter than me, sadly I'm not growing anymore though.
But if I had the money, I would get leg lengthening surgery asap.
I'm 5'4 and honestly it doesn't bother me at all. There are plenty of shorter cis men out there. Carry yourself with confidence. Chin up!
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Hi I'm 5 ft. Does not bother me.
I have the reverse problem, I am 6' and like to wear heels. I am a tall girl now, but who cares anyway!
I think there are more short guys around than tall girls. But that is what we have to live with!
Doesn't bother me, I refer to myself as a hobbit lol. I'm 5'2 heh. I'm used to being short.
You're the same height as my (also transgender) partner! At 5'7&1/3" or 171cm, I'm used to reaching for things for him when he can't quite get them himself.
Ironically enough, I'm the shortest of my siblings. Even my sisters all tower over me.
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Apparently Paul Simon is 5'2 so i'm in fair company lol.
I had a cis male friend at university who was 5'3" as well. He was DELIGHTED to learn I was shorter than he was. hahahaha.