Hi!
I'm 25yo MtF, as a woman full-time for the last 2 years with a bunch of half-way/on-and-off before that. Only got to start HRT in november last year (I showed up at the clinic first time 7 years ago but had a hard time being accepted) and it's made me so happy experiencing it. I feel better and more well-adjusted than ever before. I live in northern europe, I work full-time, own a house, a car and a cat.
I came here initially because I've been feeling very lonely lately but am scared of dating and incredibly bad at making friends; looking for some advice on how to date someone while still transitioning.. I'm not particularily thrilled by my appearance so far, but its still early days for me. I WAS hoping to feel a bit more finished with the rough stuff before I tried looking for a companion, but I can't shake this crushing loneliness! Of the few friends I have a lot of them moved out of town to work and study, and I'm a bit of a social addict despite being so bad at it and feel very lonely very easily.
But you all seem like such a friendly bunch, I feel like staying and maybe get to know some of you so.. If you'd like to get to know me -and have me know you- my names Mora and I'm impossibly chatty so liable to talk a hole in your head within the first few days. Thanks for having me!
Hello there, and welcome. Even though I just joined this place today.
I can relate to the feeling of loneliness, and I try my hardest to fill this void by having a few close online friends that I can rely on for a chat here and there, and support as and when I feel I need it. And so I try to echo that feeling in being friendly and willing to listen and happy to be messaged.
Even though I don't have much experience with dating anyone (nor do I personally want to), I can understand it can be hard for people to get their head around. You might find some relevant info on the forums, so happy searching.
Hey Hello back at ya!
I'm so glad you've found this place. Lots of good people who have been there.
Looking forward to getting to know your chatty self!
-- Sue
Welcome to Susan's Place. One of the things that might help you is attending social events. It could be charity work, church, dances or clubs. That will get you out into the population and while you might only find casual relationships, it's better than nothing. Unfortunately my transition was pretty much like yours currently is with work, treatment and hours in my apartment with very little to do. Part of it was lack of money as my transition pretty well burned up everything I had and part was I was pretty shy. I hope you can find others you can add to your life.
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Hi Floof :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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V M
Thank you ALL for the warm welcomes, I really appreciate it <3
Quote from: Mirath on January 28, 2017, 10:51:41 AM
Hello there, and welcome. Even though I just joined this place today.
I can relate to the feeling of loneliness, and I try my hardest to fill this void by having a few close online friends that I can rely on for a chat here and there, and support as and when I feel I need it. And so I try to echo that feeling in being friendly and willing to listen and happy to be messaged.
Even though I don't have much experience with dating anyone (nor do I personally want to), I can understand it can be hard for people to get their head around. You might find some relevant info on the forums, so happy searching.
I suppose welcome yourself! I tried to comment on your introduction about some things but it wouldn't show my message, I'm not sure what went wrong... I'm not good at this forum thing.
I also haven't been interested in dating for a good 6 years now, having been massively turned off the entire thing by my last relationship... But then this loneliness just hit me like a freight train and I can't shake it.
Quote from: Dena on January 28, 2017, 12:04:40 PM
Welcome to Susan's Place. One of the things that might help you is attending social events. It could be charity work, church, dances or clubs. That will get you out into the population and while you might only find casual relationships, it's better than nothing. Unfortunately my transition was pretty much like yours currently is with work, treatment and hours in my apartment with very little to do. Part of it was lack of money as my transition pretty well burned up everything I had and part was I was pretty shy. I hope you can find others you can add to your life.
Thank you for the advice, I appreciate it very much. I'm a bit of a lazy lump, so after work I usually buy some food on the way home and die on the couch with cat for a few hours... Then its bedtime! I should definently do as you say, its about time i pull myself together and get out there some..
Even now, its saturday evening here and I could have gone to town, but instead I sit at home scrolling through the same news sites over and over, and watching a rerun of a TV show I've already seen :embarrassed: .. I've never really liked being in bars and clubs, and I've managed to mostly avoid them so far in my life because I had friends to hang out with on the weekends and would go to home parties. But they've all become grownups and moved away, so I'm left here by myself!
Forgive me for the complaining, I could not resist. I'll check up on those rules and guidelines, thanks =3.