'ello. I have been lurking for a bit and decided to take the plunge and actually engage rather than lurk.
I am a semi-out transguy. I've always dressed pretty masculine, but I never really wanted to actually acknowledge what I have known for years... But here I am at 26 (almost 27) and finally really working through it. I am married to my wonderful partner and she knows, and she is fine with it. I have been slowly coming out to my chosen family and my work... But my blood family isn't really told anything..Ever.
I am also in therapy with an awesome therapist. He is legit amazing. He has never batted an eye about my queer or trans status and actively works with me to move my feet forward. My doctor isn't bad either, she's not always completely knowledgeable but she's not a dick. She's accepting and helping me stay healthy. We haven't moved toward any medical transitioning yet.. but I would like to in the next year. I'm shocked I found professionals like this where I live because I am legit a blue dot in a sea of red.
And now I am rambling so I'm going to just cut it off here.
ramble on,
Im glad to meet ya and hope the next few months provide some clarity with doc on steps moving forward. gratz on being your awesome self :) and welcome to the forums.
Welcome! I am also new here. I'm a bit older than you but finally got a name for what I've known all my life when I was 27 years old.
Heh, I had been lingering around because I had been given a homework assignment from my therapist to look into online support from other people like me. After roaming around on the internet, this seemed to be the best place for me to settle in. It's a scary thing to do some days.
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gryffin, word. I am always interested to hear other peoples experiences with therapists
that suprises me as sometimes online communities give false advice or info not out of maliciousness just because of human error. I'm glad to see you active and hope you find awesome support etc here
My therapist is awesome. I refer to him as my old white dude...Cause he is. I had tried therapy before for other mental health things.. and both of those times I ended up worse. Never thought I would have a male therapist but I gave him a try when a co-worker recommended him to me. So glad I did.
And it is interesting in some ways that he wanted me to also have online support, but I think part of that is because the amount of people nearby who are like me..Is hella tiny. We are lucky to have any out and about queer folk in general.
werd ... sounds like you are a west coaster and I can understand the ignorance one gets when being the token trans person in town. It's a ->-bleeped-<-ty role and let me know if ya ever need to vent that experience. I have had to do that before
Cool therapist, giving you homework. This is a good start on your homework. The hardest part is done, the introduction. [emoji6]
It is important to find the right therapist. If there is no trust there is no therapy. Glad you found him.
I live in a rather big city. I know one cross dresser. We are not friends. But we know each other. It is not easy in a big town either before you come out of the closet.
I'm actually an East Coaster. In a rural area. I went to a pretty sweet liberal arts college here in the area I grew up in. I'm still in the area and I'm working in a domestic violence program. Thankfully my work is really liberal, usually clueless on anything queer/trans, but liberal.
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oh wonderful work. I am a human rights advocate up in VT. I need to add DV and rape crisis training to my resume soon. Have a friend helping with that
I'm a bit lower than you. I'm in PA. I'm mainly a legal advocate, which is mostly protection from abuse paperwork.
My program is just DV, and we are unsure if we are ever going to be a dual program again.
But being me is interesting at times working in the courthouse and with law enforcement.
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Gryffin,
Welcome to the site.
I am glad to see you jumping right in and interacting. Hope you find what you are looking for here. I think your therapist will be good with our site. It is pretty safe. Although we are a day late welcoming you it is pretty strongly moderated here.
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Once again, welcome to Susan's. Look around, ask questions and join in.
With warmth,
Joanna
Hi Gryffin :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Hello Gryffin
How are you?
Gosh I miss the coast
Stay cool
Have fun
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I'm.. I'm doing alright today. It's a rough Friday and there are a lot of femme pronouns flying around.
But it's also Friday and I'm looking forward to the weekend.
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Do you need to hit people with a foam battle maul call "cluebringer?"
Hugs.
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Yes actually. There are days I want to. I do a lot of work in our courthouse and I at least have the deputies to a point where they don't call me ma'am because I tend to tell at them.. a lot.
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I know it can be difficult but keep at it. Some people will get quickly and some will be jerks about it.
No matter what they can't take the fact you are a man away.
When I came out at with the company I was with was dealing with two other women taking them to the human rights court.
They laid the law down fast and hard that I was not to be gossip, or made fun of.
People fell in line pretty quick and the few hold outs kept their noses clean.
I don't know what the legal or what HR will say but don't be afraid to keep a note of the jerks who are doing it for spite
Gryffin be strong you will overcome.
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Oh I have a list of the couple that give me difficulties. I don't bother mentioning it for the most part because I am living in a sea of rural red... But there is a deputy who I have known since I was 18. He used to work at the college I went to and he is the sweetest man. I've kind of told him and he's actually one of the guys who helps out when the other folk are more difficult. I had to laugh the other day because I was joking with the two working the courthouse door. Ones older and then there is this young guy who I haven't seen much. I was ragging on the older guy and told him I liked the younger one cause he has never called me ma'am. The young one told me that one of the other deputies made sure he knew to never do it. I felt really good, because I might not be living completely out... They are at least acknowledging some small things.
My work.. they know, but at the same time keep it insulated. I'm cool with gender neutral pronouns being used in the community... But we hired some new people about a month and a half ago... And they just completely avoided any pronouns in regards to me at first..So I stomped all over that and they looked.. almost annoyed about it. If these people are going to work here, they can't be bigots and they are going to find out eventually..
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It sounds like you have a good head for this.
Keep flying.
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I understand where you are coming from to a point. I am from central pa and the level of ignorance is staggering. It's not all bigotry, just lack of knowledge. Things are changing as time moves on, but likely this will be one of the later places to get the message.
Luckily resources do exist in the state, even in the middle of the T. From most you get indifference about being trans. However, as I continue my transition, I find my desire to keep living in such a backwards are diminishing.
I'm in the part of Central PA that had a representative come out of the closet as just good old gay and the whole district had a fit and voted in a moron just because he was straight.
I really like where I am, because I have built a support system of my own choosing.. but at the same time the whole ignorance is draining.
I'm going to be having a chat with my doctor the next time I see her to see what steps we can work on.
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