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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: AshleyUSMC on February 19, 2017, 04:31:30 AM

Title: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: AshleyUSMC on February 19, 2017, 04:31:30 AM
Hey everyone its Ashley! Im 24 years young and I'm currently seeing a gender therapist. I am also in the Marine Corps. I have came to a conclusion that I am a MTF trans, I really want to start my transition, however my command doesnt even know that they have a transgender in their ranks. Does anyone have any expierence with transitioning in the military (specifically the marine corps if possible) ? If so what do you recommend me doing? I honestly feel like i hit a wall in my life and i dont think i can wait 2.5 more years to start HRT.

Love,

Ashley
Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: V M on February 19, 2017, 06:34:41 PM
Hi Ashley  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's Place  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Also, I've posted a copy of your post in the Roll call! (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,96755.msg1949800.html#msg1949800) topic in hopes someone will soon be along with some advice

Here are some links to the site rules and stuff that we offer to all new members to help them along

Please be sure to review:


Things that you should read


Hugs

V M
Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: Artesia on February 19, 2017, 06:46:07 PM
Well....as far as I can tell this year is supposed to start the regulations that allow transgender service members to transition while on active duty.  Unfortunately I don't know when they begin, and in what branches it is being instituted.  I am also fairly certain that certain MoS's will not allow certain genders to serve in that capacity, but this may be going away.

As to your specific command, I would suggest going to your Squad Leader, LT, or Cpt. and talk with them about your situation.  Maybe involve a chaplain, and possibly your therapist.  Do you use a Military Therapist?  According to the last regulation I read on the subject, they can't discharge you or hold this against you, but they could make you choose between transitioning and service.

Again the regulations are supposed to be changing/have changed to allow it, I just don't know when they were to start.
Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: TechGirl on February 19, 2017, 06:56:04 PM
I'd recommend starting with your local mental health provider to secure a diagnosis. Military already started supporting transition in October 2016.  Sometime this summer, new accession of Transgender begin.

Think this should help you as well:  http://www.marines.mil/News/Messages/Messages-Display/Article/972482/dod-transgender-service-implementation-handbook/

I've been on hrt since December 2016, been on active duty for some time.  Also recently "officially" came out to my brothers & sisters in my CPO Mess, as well as the Sailors in my office. Seems they already knew.... Go figure!



Navy Chief [emoji5]
Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: TechGirl on February 19, 2017, 07:01:13 PM
Quote from: AshleyUSMC on February 19, 2017, 04:31:30 AM
Hey everyone its Ashley! Im 24 years young and I'm currently seeing a gender therapist. I am also in the Marine Corps. I have came to a conclusion that I am a MTF trans, I really want to start my transition, however my command doesnt even know that they have a transgender in their ranks. Does anyone have any expierence with transitioning in the military (specifically the marine corps if possible) ? If so what do you recommend me doing? I honestly feel like i hit a wall in my life and i dont think i can wait 2.5 more years to start HRT.

Love,

Ashley
Forgot to mention, if you are on Facebook, I can put you in contact with a group that can help. It's comprised solely of military trans people, helping each other.
Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: V M on February 19, 2017, 07:36:15 PM
Quote from: JeanetteLW on February 19, 2017, 07:11:03 PM
   This should help

https://www.defense.gov/News/Special-Reports/0616_transgender-policy

Hugs,
    Jeanette
Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: AshleyUSMC on February 19, 2017, 09:29:11 PM
Quote from: TechGirl on February 19, 2017, 07:01:13 PM
Forgot to mention, if you are on Facebook, I can put you in contact with a group that can help. It's comprised solely of military trans people, helping each other.

That would be wonderful! Whats the group called?
Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: TechGirl on February 19, 2017, 09:31:09 PM
Quote from: AshleyUSMC on February 19, 2017, 09:29:11 PM
That would be wonderful! Whats the group called?
Pm me your user ID and I'll put you in touch. It is a "secret" group and you have to be admitted by your service lead.
Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: Dena on February 19, 2017, 10:17:46 PM
Ashley will be unable to PM until she reaches 15 quality posts.
Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: AshleyUSMC on February 20, 2017, 04:48:44 AM
Quote from: Dena on February 19, 2017, 10:17:46 PM
Ashley will be unable to PM until she reaches 15 quality posts.

i will work on that! :)
Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: kat69 on February 20, 2017, 06:06:16 AM
I can't speak for the USMC or even the US military, but I've found nothing except support after coming out in the Canadian Armed Forces.  There will always be hiccups...sure there are guides and policies, but not everyone knows they exist and how to apply/interpret them.  Even the reality that transitioning to womanhood has the negative effect of not being able to serve in certain occupations is difficult as you've been living with the "male privilege" for a long time.

What I found was beneficial was that even though I am sure there are some around me that don't like transgender people let alone any LGBTQ people, you are actually protected from harassment and discrimination due to you being transgender by laws and regulations.  Sure...some might push the limits, but there are severe penalties for those in the military and government not upholding the rights of others, even if they don't agree.  I definitely feel safer around my fellow service members than in the general public.

Good luck!
Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: AshleyUSMC on February 20, 2017, 07:15:31 AM
Thank you everyone for taking the time with answering my questions!

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Title: Re: Coming out as trans in the Marine Corps
Post by: TechGirl on February 20, 2017, 12:30:28 PM
Ashley, start here: 

http://www.spartapride.org/contact_us
https://m.facebook.com/SPARTATrans/?ref=page_internal&mt_nav=1