So really just a small vent post.
Sunday I was at my grandparents for my grandpas birthday. My one cousin and his family lives just up the road but had not seen me since letting my hair grow out some or my earings. So I notice when they got there my one cousin seemed to avoid even looking at me. His wife later came and sat right next to me while some of us were talking around the dining room table. Now a couple of times my uncle had a really puzzled look. I was wearing plain but pretty fem boot cut jeans.
Anyway it bothered me that my one cousin (the older of the two) seemed to be avoiding me. My other cousin and his girlfriend got there and was just normal to me. Actually it seemed a bit different that his girlfriend who I have only ever met a couple of times sat next to me also at one point when there were plenty of open seats. Being that we don't really know each other and her guy wasn't around it seemed out of character.
Turns out later my wife tells me my stepson had told my younger cousin. They work together. I'm sure if he knew his girlfriend knew as well. I wonder if she sat next to me because she saw me as one of the girls? That would be cool to think so. I suspect that since my younger cousin knew he likely told his older brother some time ago.
I don't think my uncle quite knew what was going on with me.
Well everyone else there already knew aside from my grandpa himself. I'm not planning on trying to explain any of this to him if it doesn't become nessecary. My grandma I talked to some time ago. My mom and both younger brother and older brother with his partner/fiancée already knew.
Hi Josie,
Well girl, it sounds like you had a successful outing as yourself. Why let your thoughts that you are thinking your cousin is reacting to you interfere with the success of how you know others actually feel? You are worrying about things you do not know for sure and hey, when it comes down to it if your cousins chooses to be indifferent to you, that would be his issue and not yours. The same would actually be true of the acceptance you think the other ladies have towards you. It does no good either way. it become relevant when you actually know how someone feels.
As far as what you described goes I would call it a success and stop fretting about it.
Hugs,
Jeanette