i read an article online that made me mad once.... it was 2 parents of kids who want to cross-dress and such so i check it out and it said that if your child is still in age enough to change and its known [like when i was 8 or even younger i knew what i wanted and who i was] then encourage them to do things that a male would do and 2 compliment them in every guyish feature about them.... i dont know lol.... and it just made me mad, why would you change this greatness?
but i think this is denile of some sort....
im young, i do not know, i havent told my parents, ive told my friend, but not my parents, so dont trust me....
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I can tell you right now, that this strategy would fail miserably. Especially if they are transsexual. In fact, it may make them resent the parents. That's like starving a glutton to make them lose weight.
Melissa
Quote from: melissa_girl on February 01, 2006, 05:09:46 PM
I can tell you right now, that this strategy would fail miserably. Especially if they are transsexual. In fact, it may make them resent the parents. That's like starving a glutton to make them lose weight.
Melissa
Very true Melissa.
Steph
The article you read made you mad and angry ... It doesn't surprise me ...I would have to agree it definitly wouldn't work. Sometimes I wonder where whom ever it is that think such things up where do they come up with the basis for these ideas. Tori follow your heart Hun that's being true to yourself. If you can't expect your heart to lead you honestly who can you trust dear. Follow your Heart.
Smiles,
Peggiann
Compliment "guyish" features or actions to get them to not be TG? Gee, that's like saying to a gay son, "Look at that pretty girl over there. You and her would make such a lovely couple." Yeah, that's gonna work.
Teri Anne
That's what the shrinks told my parents in the sixties which is how I got enrolled in Littile League baseball, football, basketball and the Boy Scouts. I hated them all, I was never any good and I didn't want to be. I never got past tenderfoot and was raped on a camping trip. Gee, thanks a lot! What I did learn was to bury the little girl deep deep down inside so they would just leave me alone and stop trying to cure me. As you can tell the cure worked real good. :icon_female:
Cassie
How do you think I ended up in Little League (for one season only) and Cub Scouts (again for one year only).
My PARENTS forced me to join these groups, hoping it would make me identify with the boys there. IT DIDN'T WORK. I hated every minute I was in these groups, I dispised my parents for forcing me to be there.
Those were just a couple of things my parents forced on me due to "doctors" advise. But then don't get me started on that issue, my parents are deceased and I can't change what happened during my youth.
Sarah L.
I had picked up a book, years ago, that detailed how gender identity problems were addressed way back when (or for those who have been around for awhile, the 60s and early 70s). Shrinks would have the most masculine boy in school take the femme kid in under his wing. Forced into sports, etc, etc. It made me feel good that I kept my mouth shut while I was growing up.
My parents pushed me into cub scouts and I stuck with it through Weblos and then Boy Scouts. However, my BS days were very few.
They also wanted me to do sports. Tee Ball was ok but I hated Farm League. That lasted one season. They had also pushed me to try out soccer. Soccer I took to and absolutely loved. However, that meant no more stealth shaving of the legs.
No team sports for me. I couldn't get into the if-the-ref-ain't-looking-it's-all-fair-play attitude you'd find on the scrimmage line or under the net.
I joined a summer springboard diving team and was pretty good at it (first and only time I was coaches' pet!), but my stepfather (who often said he wanted to 'make a man out of me',) started putting so many restrictions on my being able to participate ("Before you can go, you have to complete the collections on your paper route..." and I had 60~90 subscribers,) that I ended up missing some important competitions -- after all, diving (and gymnastics and such,) are '->-bleeped-<-gy' sports...
Haz
Maybe this man should watch the Olypic Games sometime, they're not ->-bleeped-<-gy sports at all, but require you to be strong, and fit, whether you're male, or female...
I was a child of the fifties. I went through the whole sports bit, not because I was forced to but because it was there. I did boy scouts also. The only thing that they proved to me was that I didn't have the right stuff. The right male attitude, why it took me years to realize what it was. I wasn't male, just because I had a male body, it didn't make me male. I was really female, my moods, my emotions, my outlook on life. That's all.
Quote from: michelle on March 12, 2006, 09:53:28 PM
I was a child of the fifties. I went through the whole sports bit, not because I was forced to but because it was there. I did boy scouts also. The only thing that they proved to me was that I didn't have the right stuff. The right male attitude, why it took me years to realize what it was. I wasn't male, just because I had a male body, it didn't make me male. I was really female, my moods, my emotions, my outlook on life. That's all.
I think that says it so very well.