I'm sure I will be hated from jealousy here, but I have an issue I am trying to work on and it has me feeling like a mess..
I pass. Like, really really well. And it happened very suddenly.
I came out about two years ago. My mom was and is a super accepting hippy, my dad took awhile to get the concept but has never been opposed. Most of my extended family is fine with me, except the ones that act cordially and try very hard to avoid me.
I had the hardest time getting HRT, and in the meantime, I transitioned my voice. Somehow it ended up at a range that did not set off any alarm bells, yet gets me ma'am'ed on the phone every single time. Then I started on HRT, had low hopes. My facial hair is ridiculously fine and light, and invisible. My bone structure is apparently amazing. I was getting sirred, then one day I had a couple of teenagers acting awkwardly to me and by the end of the week, I was getting boyfail so intensely that they turned every day into a horrifying "It's Pat" disaster until I showed up at work en femme. HR was fine with this. ID changed effortlessly. Last week, a cis friend of mine commented that she KNEW I was trans, and she could not clock me.
I have a supportive husband who is also transitioning. We get read a lesbian couple all the time, which is the opposite of what we expected.
Go ahead, throw something at me, I would have been tempted to.
I still feel like I am missing something, like, wait, that's it? I'm a girl everywhere now? I feel like there is something missing. I feel like I have to do something more so I can get some boost of pinkness that I feel like I am missing. Like I am suddenly just flailing around confusedly expecting something to happen. It's... Bugging me. Is there anything I can do to cope? What is WRONG with me? What can I do when I am feeling maddeningly not girly enough?
If I were to take a guess, it would be therapy. Any transition be it quick or difficult often leaves issues from the past that we still need to deal with. These issues don't interfere with the transition process and the transition still remains the best option but they get in the way of a comfortable and happy new life. If you haven't been seeing a therapist, I suggest you spend a little time with one and I think it will be worth every cent you spend on it.