I think..... it is a good time for me to come out to my facebook, family, friends, relatives.
I mean i have already came out as non-binary in my new job, told my family, and a few friends. I feel its time because... I want to socially transition, I want to let people know who I truly am and I don't want to explain to every single 540 friends that I am trans..I know I will loose friends but its who I am. So here it goes.
Congratulations to my facebook family and friends. ( She's a girl).
Dear everyone:
Gender is how you feel. Sex is typically what genitals you have.
(Transexual definition: a person who emotionally and psychologically feels that they belong to the opposite sex.)
Some of my close friends know already and some of my family know already.
I am a transexual and I am non-binary.
Let me explain.
Long story short: Growing up I never really felt male, didn't like the idea of being male. Ever since I was a kid I always wanted to be a female, but I didn't know how to express it.
Its been 7 months a 4 days now since I have been on hormones, and I will continue my transition medically and eventually physically.
It is who I am, and I can lie to you, but deep down I will always feel like a female.
So how am I non-binary? Some days I feel agender (no gender) and some days I feel feminine, and some days I feel both. Its how I feel and some of you wont understand.
That is why lately I added that I was transgender/non-binary in my about me on Facebook, and the name change on facebook. It will take some time some to understand, for others they will never understand.
My new preferred name is Mika, or you can call me Mikayla. (Even tho its not my legal name yet).
I am still me, funny, goofy, silly, and knows when to be serious.
But really is gender really that important? Its not like I am harming anyone, its not like I am totally a different person.
I want you all to know coming out was very hard for me. If you have any questions please PM me. If you feel you need to delete me, then delete me. I will always be who I am.
How does that sound???
Ideas thoughts?
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Consider using the following. It' a bit clearer.
Sexual preference is who you want to go to bed with
Gender identity is who you want to go to be as
I want to go to bed with... women..
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Or I can erase the transexual part and just wish to transition to become female
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oh Dena i see what you mean.... Cuz usually people think that I am transgender I like men.
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People often don't separate the two in their mind and think when you transition to female you will automatically want men in bed. By explaining they are different and your problem is with gender identity, it will take sexual preference out of the picture. After all, this is called gender dysphoria which is a discomfort with our gender identity. The first line is a bit awkward and could use something a bit more targeted.
which first line? shes a gir? or the... gender is.....
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Gender is how you feel. Sex is typically what genitals you have.
so change that line to.. sexual preference is who.... Gender identity is who....
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In a first read I don't see anything strange, and what Dena says it's a good point. I only want to wish you good luck with it :)
It makes a lot of sence, because when I first came out.. That's what everyone assumed... That I liked males (sexually). Be besides from all that it sounds good? what I wrote?
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I think you've explained it very well, and it sounds friendly and open too.
It went very well. A lot of people supported me. Not really a lot of family members, but definitely a lot of people from my co-workers and people who I used to work with.
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People still ask question...they ask if I am serious. But... I tell them as it is. I knew when I was a kid... and its who I am.
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I also want to thank everyone in the forum too for making this possible. I needed the social transition. I'll give my friends a rest and answer any questions. Hopefully starting next month I can start telling people to call me Mika. And then from he to she.
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So happy for you, some may don't support you but now you can be who you are in front of them. My best wishes ^^
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Mika,
I suggest you start telling people you have a new name and want to be referred to as "she/her" as immediately as possible. Some people don't get used to it right away, and need a long period of time to adjust to the changes. The sooner you speak up, the better the result will be.
Also, I see you list your gender as Q. Seeing your gender as Q did not make it clear to me that you prefer "she/her" and I was thinking you prefered something neutral like "they/them". You may not want to refer to yourself as Q but rather F. It's your choice, but these things can lead to confusion.