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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Therapy => Topic started by: Veryconfusedperson on April 25, 2017, 06:47:54 PM

Title: Feelings
Post by: Veryconfusedperson on April 25, 2017, 06:47:54 PM
This is slightly odd and confusing to me. So for awhile I wanted to me a girl and also just always felt sad, tired, alone, and etc feelings. But like 2 weeks ago I just kinda stop feeling everything. Like this is really concerning to me and as much as this sounds weird I just rather be feeling those old feeling then just nothing. Stuff that should effect me really don't anymore. Around the same time I stop feeling stuff my best friend/only friend and I stop being friends because I accidentally started to like them and now I have no one but yet stuff just not effecting me the way it should. Just almost everything means nothing to me and and I've been just going off of how should be feeling. Like I should feel concerned about my grades and I'm only doing my school work because i know I should. So I'm just mainly wondering what I should do? I can't exactly go to a therapist and I haven't came out to anyone.
Title: Re: Feelings
Post by: Dena on April 25, 2017, 07:55:42 PM
You need to see a therapist or your schooling and life will go down hill. If your school has a therapist available, use the one at school. If your not comfortable coming out to your parents. Just say you are depressed and need to see a therapist. Be honest with your therapist even if they aren't a gender therapist. Normally what is said in therapy isn't going to get back to your parents unless you allow it.

Far to many of us battled with this feeling for years and it destroys your future life. My grades could have been better and that would have opened up many other options for me in life. Don't make the same mistake I did.
Title: Re: Feelings
Post by: Veryconfusedperson on April 25, 2017, 08:05:32 PM
Ok, I do have a counselor at my school, if I talked to him would anything get back to my parents?  I really don't want stuff getting back to my parents because they expect me to go the furthest with the least problems out of my siblings and I really don't want to fail their expectations.  I am 18 if that counts for anything.


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Title: Re: Feelings
Post by: Rayna on April 25, 2017, 08:10:14 PM
Yes!  18 should mean you're a full adult in almost all places.  Ask the therapist, but generally they are obligated to preserve your confidence, only subject to a court order (or if you might harm yourself or others).
Title: Re: Feelings
Post by: Veryconfusedperson on April 25, 2017, 08:23:05 PM
Ok, I'm just now super nervous now  because I have a hard time talking to people in person. Internet is easy because I can hide behind my screen. But I know I need to talk to them


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Title: Re: Feelings
Post by: Rayna on April 25, 2017, 08:29:13 PM
I understand your being nervous.  It's natural, and most people who go to a therapist feel that way.  The therapist is used to it, and knows how to break the ice.  I've been to several therapists at different times over the years, and always had a hard time letting go and speaking up.  But we always found a way, and I felt better having done it.  I often wound up crying too, which as a male violates so many taboos (I've seen both female and male therapists).  But it was freeing, and there's always a tissue box nearby (I learned to grab it and put it next to me before I sat down LOL).  You'll feel better afterward...or if you have a bad personality disconnect with the therapist (and it does happen) you should be able to find another.
Title: Re: Feelings
Post by: Veryconfusedperson on April 25, 2017, 08:30:43 PM
Ok, thank you :)


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