Trans kids never significantly differ from cis kids of thier gender
http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2017/04/25/trans-kids-never-significantly-differ-from-cis-kids-of-their-gender/
Pink News/by Josh Jackkman 04/25/2017
Going against the grain a little, I didnt really recognize gender early on. Played with boy toys because it was what I was exposed to. People would have not known I was trans, but rather just a gentle boy who was passive and submissive. Everything went to pieces when hormones came into the play group later on. Oh well.
Kind of had to lie to my therapists because they were trying to pigeon hole me into agreeing I was part of the steriotypical trans youth background. It kind of disturbed me, because I know what I am, but once again I was being questioned until I went with the flow.. or else..
This is really interesting and further evidence that treating kids well and allowing them a safe social environment to express themselves is a really healthy thing (obvious to us i know).
I was a mixed bag as kid, i knew i was different than all the other boys but i was also gregarious, outgoing and rough and tumble. I was very sensitive and had so many romantic ideas etc. People saw me as different from my mom and siblings, to friends.
Of course. :)
Quote from: RobynD on May 26, 2017, 01:23:10 PM
This is really interesting and further evidence that treating kids well and allowing them a safe social environment to express themselves is a really healthy thing (obvious to us i know).
I was a mixed bag as kid, i knew i was different than all the other boys but i was also gregarious, outgoing and rough and tumble. I was very sensitive and had so many romantic ideas etc. People saw me as different from my mom and siblings, to friends.
Things are quite different from when I was a kid. Back then, boys were boys and girls were girls and that was all there was to it. A boy showing feminine traits was called a "sissy" and might be forced to "be a man". So, I was terrified that someone would find out I wanted to wear some of the things my sisters did. These days, even toddlers are identified as being trans and are provided the help they need. Big difference!!!
I don't know how to feel about this article, honestly. I like that people are accepting these kids for who they are, and there is evidence that shows they're similar to their "true" gender, but many trans kids change their mind at puberty. I changed my mind at puberty about being cis. I was different as a child, but I'd never have said I was trans. When you hit puberty, your idea of gender changes. Or at least, I know mine changed.
That's why no permanent changes until they're old enough. In the mean time, let them be as they feel.
AnneK
yeah, I went off on a tangent a bit there. Sorry, i forgot laws were in place for this sort of thing :eusa_doh:
At age 4 I had a meltdown at the kindergarten during some activity where they separated the boys and girls because as far as I was concerned I a girl and of course in the early 60's some kind hearted soul argued with me...I became so distraught my mother had to pick me up early. I knew I was in big trouble because I was sent to the "naughty corner" until my mother picked me up, when my mother picked me up I don't know what I said about it but she has never said anything to me about it since that day, and claims when I asked her a few years ago that she can't remember.
Quote from: undautri on June 15, 2017, 04:58:49 AM
I don't know how to feel about this article, honestly. I like that people are accepting these kids for who they are, and there is evidence that shows they're similar to their "true" gender, but many trans kids change their mind at puberty. I changed my mind at puberty about being cis. I was different as a child, but I'd never have said I was trans. When you hit puberty, your idea of gender changes. Or at least, I know mine changed.
Yeah I stand with you on this. At most maybe give a kid hormone blockers. As much as I went through a lot of issues and such growing up, transitioning is really hard mentally and physically. I don't know that I would have wanted to try to take this ok at 16.
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I have always been a boy. Most of my friends are men and I bond easier with men at work. I recognize myself in this study. Too bad I did not know what transgender was until I was almost 30 years old.
There were signs for me all along. I had to fight to be allowed to join the girls for needlework class rather than the boys, who had to do woodwork. The fight had to go to the local authority (this was 1971). I spent playtime with the girls not the boys.
Later, I tried to fit in, and have spent a lifetime doing so, so as not to be outed.
Now, my biggest struggle is still with my own internalized transphobia, and my terror of being seen for who I am. I have not the first clue of how to overcome this. Maybe little by little.
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QuoteI had to fight to be allowed to join the girls for needlework class rather than the boys, who had to do woodwork.
Way back when I was in high school, there were a couple of girls who managed to get into shop class, instead of home economics. I don't know what happened, but they didn't last long in shop.