Hi people just interested why/the reason behind your new genders name, mine for instance is because I had a thing about CSI,s Sara cycidal (probably spelt wrong) although my birth name is male/female but was never happy with it.
Hey there!
The name I've chosen is April.
April has always been my favorite month of the year, not only because I celebrate my birthday on April 10th but also because it is associated with Spring.
I believe that the person I am building now can relate to the meaning of Spring itself: the reborn of the diverse forms of life.
Cheers.
Fair question.
My first choice was one I had used as an alias online several and was for a Jeanette I had a crush on in high school. Yes, I can remember that far back still. I became comfortable with Jeanette.
In an effort to retain my given name initials Jeanette needed to be moved to a middle name and I had to come up with a "L" first name. I chose Laura as I like it. A few of my friends said they didn't care for laura for various reasons and one of them suggested Laurie. I liked it also as it sounds less formal than Laura and more fun. Several have told me they also like it so Laurie it is. Laurie Jeanette Wxxxxxxx.
Now all I need to do is become as comfortable with Laurie as I was with Jeanette.
Hugs,
Laurie
It's Gaelic, sometimes unisex but usually male, but I always liked it for men as it sounds unusual to me (although it's not a rare name by any stretch). It's also a one-syllable name meaning difficult to shorten so people will tend to use it as is. I just like the way it looks and sounds.
My birth names were Keith Lawrence. I picked Kathy Lauren because they sound similar. Yep, no imagination at all! ::) After I'd used them for a while online, I realized that I liked them better than anything else I could think of. I wasn't sure whether Kathy was short for Katherine or Kathleen. My wife said she liked Kathleen, so that's it.
I just sent off my legal name change application in the mail today.
I have always just loved the name Jennifer. It shared the same first initial with my legal male name, so I liked that. My middle initial is A, and I thought about going with Allison, but decided not to. My father once told me that if I had been born female my name would have been Rachael Ann. I love the name Rachael also, so I just combined the two and my middle name is now RachaelAnn.
I wanted something that didn't sound too masculine as that wouldn't suit my personality and I also wanted something that wasn't too common and couldn't be shortened. A lot of androgynous sounding names just sound really silly so I picked one that I mostly liked and simply grew into it. I don't think it's possible to find a name that 100% feels right and suits you completely.
I started out as Stevie, but a lovely trans lady I met kept calling my Sadie by mistake. It just felt right to me so Sadie was born and I couldn't be happier.
Peace and love and all that good stuff,
Sadie
My first pick was Melanie, because I think the name sounds so soft and pretty. I went by that for maybe a year. But it never felt right, because I don't feel soft and pretty, I feel pretty plain.
So I went in search again, went through dozens, even got some opinions from friends. And then I went with "Allison", because it seemed kind of plain to me. Even though none of my friends had anything to say about it.
I've had it for at least a year and a half, and it feels comfortable and fits me. I'm nobody special, and it lets me feel like nobody special, I'm just another girl.
My middle name shows no imagination at all, it's just the feminine version of my old middle name. But I like the way my first and middle names go together: "Allison Michelle <lastname>", so while I almost never used my old middle name, now I always sign with all three names. (It's also useful if I'm in a group with another Allison -- I say, "oh, but I'm the only Allison Michelle.")
But when I look at my monthly train ticket, and see the giant "F" and the "Allison M. <lastname>" printed on it, I can't help feeling like, "look! That's me!"
Well my given name is one of those that easily can go either way. Change a y to an i and it becomes the female version. So I considered doing that. Figured it would be easier for people to accept and deal with. However, then I realized it also made it easy for people to not accept or deal with my changes. Plus I really wanted a clean break from that person. In many ways I'll always be the same person, but I don't want my name to remind me every day about the long term acting job I put on.
I did talk to my mom and found out what my name would have been if I was born in a girl's body. She had two names picked out but I didn't really care for either. I was looking for names that would be age appropriate as well. I did research on each name idea I had to determine if it was prevalent in the year I was born. Finally, I wanted a name with a meaning behind it that connected with me. So I also researched the etymology of each idea I had.
The story of how I came up with Alyssa is actually kind of lame (I've shared it here before I believe). I was in New York City on a business trip. It was a week that was filled with an unusually high level of dysphoria. I was in a cab in queens on my way to Laguardia to head home feeling very depressed and actually started crying a couple times. As we sat in traffic, I looked over and saw some very artistic and pretty graffiti on fence. In the graffiti was the name Alyssa. Looking at the art, I suddenly felt better. The name clicked with me as a name I had always liked and suddenly now it just felt natural to me. So after I got home I researched and found it was age appropriate, I also found out that the name references a plant that was meant to prevent mental disorders. Much the same way that my becoming Alyssa will prevent me from having mental disorders :)
So there you have it.
I figure I'll just go with the feminine version of my current name. :eusa_shhh:
Quote from: Geeker on May 04, 2017, 02:58:15 PM
I figure I'll just go with the feminine version of my current name. :eusa_shhh:
Always an option, but I decided it wasn't going to work for me. My family was angry that I was changing my name, so I knew I needed to make a clean separation from my old name or risk an endless litany of "I forgot." They still "forget" but they can't blame a slip of the tongue.
At the time, I also saw advantage in an androgynous name for those times when I'd rather just say my name and not have to go through my life's story.
Finally, I came from a conservatively religious family that believed in rebirth. In choosing a name which meant exactly that, I was declaring that I really was starting over.
So, in the words of the Prophet Mick:
Pleased to meet you...hope you guessed my name
I went with Benjamin Michael. My original first name was irredeemable . . . completely fluffy and girlie. I've never liked it. The whole thing had to go, including the first initial. I like "Ben" as a name. It's just a good, solid, practical name, it's age-appropriate, and no one in my close family/friend circle uses it. And it's a Star Wars name, which is always awesome.
Michael would have been my first name if I'd been born in a male body. I like it . . . it's just a little too common for my first name, though. I'd end up with a nickname, like "Mike who used to be [deadname]." Not what I had in mind.
I choosed Nicholas, simply because it's male form of my birth name.
I chose Maksim as it sounds similar to my birth name when pronounced in an American way, plus I wanted to acknowledge my Russian roots. I only go by Max though, makes it easier for everyone involved!
So in short, I don't have any special reason why I chose that name. It just sounded nice and was easy to say for both my American family and friends and my Russian family and friends!