Just curious whether or not your current partner knows.
Yes, my husband does know about my past. He has known from day one. Hugs
Mariah
My wife has known from day one. We met about 18 months after I went full time. That was 13 years ago.
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I'm single as a Pringle, but all my past boyfriends knew because I tell them almost right after they ask me out.
My wife of 6 years knows, and she's completely on board. The recent news surprised her a little, and it took her a couple of days to process it, but know she's my biggest ally.
Later, she confessed that she always thought I kissed like a woman. Lol! Not that that is a bad thing...
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My wife was the first person I told. Having her support made all the rest so much easier.
Yes. He is my Love.
No current partner, so yeah, he doesn't know. LOL. Whoever is.
just a joke. I wish it was easier with men.
No current partner either
Yes. Not having had my surgery yet, it is the only way to be. Accidental and unexpected intimacy happen all too frequently. Not that I have gone out with that many men in the last 2 1/2 years. ;D There have been a few though.
My wife has been a great supporter and facilitator. I love to go clothes shopping together. As long as I remain just a cross dresser however. For now she has her limits.
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Wife has known before we were married 23+ years ago, but it's been up and down. What started out as cross dressing isn't and there's a lack of understanding or tolerance for change. As some say, there are limits. Some days when the dysphoria is bad, I could walk in front of a bus and not care. Like someone here has said, it's like being stuck between a rock and a hard place.
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Quote from: KathyLauren on May 08, 2017, 04:23:31 PM
My wife was the first person I told. Having her support made all the rest so much easier.
Ditto Kathy Lauren. I'm not sure I would have made it to this point without her.
Quote from: Mariah on May 08, 2017, 03:16:37 PM
Yes, my husband does know about my past. He has known from day one. Hugs
Mariah
Same. My hubs knew when he first met me. It's never really an issue between us.
Hell to the yeah my partner knows. :eusa_dance:
My husband knew before we ever met in person because I told him, though it was really a non-issue with him. My other partner (we are polyamorous) found out from his other partner, my roommate, so we never had to have that conversation prior to becoming involved. Funnily enough I DID just have to disclose to somebody new yesterday, who I had told I was trans (he is part of our same social group and probably knew anyway) but had not had the discussion about operative status with yet. We have started becoming intimate and I wanted him to know the whole story before things went any further, but again it was a non-issue and his only response was that he liked me for me and just wanted ME to be comfortable with what we did. So I've been pretty lucky in this regard.
None of my partners have known since I had SRS. And my narrative remains closed.
Yes, my wife knows, and is now my biggest supporter!
My wife has known since the end of November 2016, and even before that I made her aware of my crossdressing and what I previously identified as gender fluidity. I sort of opened up to her in stages as I came to accept myself as a transwoman.
My man is aware I am post op transsexual and he is fine with it. HE told me, he sees me as all woman, as I dress, act and look physically like a woman. I actually told me, he would like to meet the doc that gave me the best vagina he ever had the pleasure of experiencing (lol). I had the added worry, as when I told him, we had already slept together (not the same night)
I don't advertise this fact with people in general, Only one of my close female friends knows that I was born a man.
Well, my most recent partner, my spouse of 39 years, knows as of a year ago. The divorce will be finalized next month.
Some people simply cannot accept this truth about ourselves. Many can.
My wife of 30 years has known almost since the beginning. Well as much as we understood back then. We thought we could get through this and never realized what a struggle dysphoria is. We're up and down now. I'm on low dose E. If I transition we're through.
Take care,
Paige :)
My wife has known since we began dating 25 years ago. At first I identified it as crossdressing although I knew deep inside it has always been something else. Throughout our relationship we have had some stumbles over the years trying to come to terms and get in sync with the truth. However, now that it's all out in the open and medical transition has started we are in the best place we've ever been. She's my rock and biggest supporter!!! I feel sorry for anyone that treats me with disrespect while she's around :)
Yes she knows. Apparently I had been dating a closet lesbian this whole time. ;D
My spouse is married with me since 25 years, and she knows since the 1st day. I am full time now for 2 years but in the last year thing are going very wrong and I think our relationship is soon over. last try with a counselor this Friday.
Last week she told me, I should go back being a man. Today she told me that it was terrible the time I was depressed, smoking too much, drinking too much and going to bed in a nightgown. I did something about it and now she constantly harasses me in all I do, everything is wrong. We have an open marriage since one year, all the problems started then.
Quote from: Colleen_definitely on May 09, 2017, 11:56:18 AM
Yes she knows. Apparently I had been dating a closet lesbian this whole time. ;D
+1 Since my transition has started my wife has acknowledged the same to friends and family. Makes this much easier :)
I have two current partners; my wife of many years. She knows and has been supportive in general. Nevertheless it has been hard on us on many levels. We continue to strive for unity and a deeper friendship. She has trouble calling me by my chosen name, she has trouble introducing me as her wife. I cannot blame her for these sorts of things.
The second is a boyfriend i have been with about 5 months. He is very supportive, one of the kindest and most affirming people i have ever met. No hidden agendas, progressive and helpful to everyone.
My wife has known since we started dating. Recently we both decided that I should start hormones and she is very supportive. She does sometimes stress-out that after hormones I won't be attracted to her though.
Yes, my wife is fully aware. But, I still live every day life as a man and only dress like a woman kind of conservatively around her at home. Even though I would love to go full time. She is straight and loves my manly self. So it is a struggle to not want to be the manly person that she loves so much, but loving her and not wanting to rock her world in that way.
I currently do not have a partner but everyone I've slept with since I've been in transition has known.
Quote from: Colleen_definitely on May 09, 2017, 11:56:18 AM
Yes she knows. Apparently I had been dating a closet lesbian this whole time. ;D
+1 to that.
When I told my wife she was initially not sure about the logistics of it but quickly became my biggest supporter.
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Quote from: stephaniec on May 08, 2017, 03:12:20 PM
Just curious whether or not your current partner knows.
Yeah, and he loves it. Lol.
She knows, she is also MtF, we met on a local transgender website.
She who is my partner of 25 years has known for going on 5 years explicitly that I am trans when I came out to her and has been very supportive. Prior to that she used to encourage me to be in touch with my female side. She was originally attracted to my long legs. Maybe she knew something intuitively. Who knows? She and I both see the same therapist. This worked out to be such a great thing. Our therapist always knows both sides of the story.
She also has a chronic incurable disease that gets progressively worse over time. We both worry about the future relative to each others "thing". I'm careful not to make any action that would heap stress on her. That's one of the reasons my transition is a slow moving, albeit ever progressing, event. It's ok though. In fact, in a rather paradoxical way, I realized that my compromising some of my needs or delaying gratification for the sake of others is an innate female trait that I've always had. Strange way to self validate but we get it where we can...