This month marks my one year tranniversary and it became a huge day of firsts for me...
Did go out in general public in a dress for the first time!
Got called Miss and Madam for the first time!
First time in a public Ladies room!
Left a bar and did get a "Good night Ladies"!
Got checked out on a traffic light by the guy in the car next to me!
(not today but earlier this week the first piece of mail arrived for Sarah)
While I have changed to mostly female cloth a while ago in pubic it has been mostly Jeans or cloth which could go both ways. Today I just jumped in with a nice colorful summer dress, sandals and everything. It was just such a relief finally just going out the way I want. I have done it in my back yard and in controlled environments but never in general public. So happy!
Besides that - it has been a wild ride for the past year. After some serious depression in 2016, I noticed that I start feeling better the second I wear female cloth. One thing lead to another, I ended up in this forum and and all the sudden knew what was wrong all these years. Came out to my wife a few days later.
Started Therapy in September and HRT in January.
HRT has so much changed my life, years of fog clogging my brain is gone, I am more attentive and finally have got my long lost energy and happiness back. Only days after starting, people noticed subtle changes and made comments about it.
What else has happened in a year?
I am out to some key customers I work with and to a good part of people at work. Some of the work systems already show my preferred name and I am starting to use Sarah as email signature. Got great responses the one time I had to ask for special treatment (no travel layovers in countries posing a danger) - was not a problem at all.
Things for my wife are still a bit hard, however she is trying so much to understand and is generally supportive. A nice girl sweater for christmas was one of the most important gifts she has ever given to me - outside of our daughter.
So far all reactions have been amazing. Even people where I was very scared to be rejected: Down to many hugs and tears. I know I still have a long road ahead. Family lives a few thousand miles away and I only see them every two year, so that is still ahead. And I am dreadfully aware that one day I will get a negative reaction.
Personality changes have been incredible. Down to the style and language I now use at work and in e-mails. Again something many people start noticing. I have so much focus again. All the new emotions. Never had that many tears in my eyes than in the past 8 weeks. Mostly cute things make me break out in tears (a coworker got some super nice congratulations for her 20 years of service with the company and I just broke down in tears reading the announcement... My daughter kissing me goodbye...)
Body starts changing, face and skin look different and I am finally filling an A Cup.
Very happy girl right now !
Still a very long road ahead. Hair needs to get longer and I finally need a long term solution for my facial hair. Need to come out to more people and finally starting to live 100% as myself. I will get there. I have taken a lot of steps slow so my wife can better adjust to the changes. Need to figure out name change (as dual citizen I have to change it in two countries) and need to start saving for surgery.
What is the plan for the next year? get rid of my facial hair, find a good voice trainer and hopefully be full time by the end of year 2.
Hi Sarah,
What a wonderful year and a wonderful story you have. I enjoyed reading of your joy with life now. I could related to quite a bit of it though our circumstances be quite a bit different.
I wish you another fabulous year ahead.
Hugs,
Laurie
Congratulations! You sound very brave and focused, to me.
Sarah - thanks you for sharing this - it helps to hear stories of others successes
Takes care
Steph
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Yays for all the firsts and all the little steps (and big ones)!
Hugs, Devlyn
Congratulations and happy tranniversary.
You've been a busy girl Sarah, all these little steps seemed to have added up to a giant leap!
Peace and love and all that good stuff,
Sadie
This is awesome, I'm so happy for you Sarah. What's really cool is how different everyone's path is yet the one thing we all seem to have in common is finding peace in our lives and in ourselves. Sounds like you've made incredible progress this last year so congratulations and happy tranniversary!!!
Sarah, so inspiring to see how you're making a success! Good luck as you keep moving forward.
Randy
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Sarah I share your excitement as earlier this week I revealed myself to the first person I felt comfortable enough to do so. My therapist had me come to this weeks voice lesson en femme. I can't fully explain the inner glee of finally sharing with another. It is encouraging. I may expand to dressing for group therapy sessions downtown, until I can ease into going full time.
Congrats Sarah on checking those boxes! Good for you! As a fellow A cup (now A+), it's so exciting to see breast growth. As far as voice, it's not that hard to find your inner female voice. It's just practice. Facial hair is a stubborn project. HRT does not usually effect that, though can effect other body hair. Best wishes! :icon_chick:
Sarah, that was such an uplifting post. Reading all your firsts brought me a couple of tears of happiness for you. :)
Congrats girl!
Thanks all... I added coming out to most neighbors to my accomplishments (live on a cul-de-sac). Yeah! All are very accepting and I can finally stop changing every time I go outside...
Quote from: sarah1972 on May 21, 2017, 05:31:59 PM
Thanks all... I added coming out to most neighbors to my accomplishments (live on a cul-de-sac). Yeah! All are very accepting and I can finally stop changing every time I go outside...
Wow .. that's huge. I get exactly what you say about changing every time you go outside. A couple of my neighbors know I'm trans and are cool/tolerant. But there are rental houses that keep changing all around me. Just got a new neighbor next door to me, who is from Kentucky, is older, and drives a crapstastic pick-up truck. So, I still change when going outside for my own safety. My transition is not complete. And by complete I don't mean GRS. I mean how I appear. I need more time with HRT to get my skin a bit softer, continue to redistribute fat to my breasts, butt and thighs. It's a process, not a race. I'm patient.
I am in the same boat. Need a lot more things to change. Hair is growing slowly and when looking closely you can see some A cups peeking out. Thighs are starting to change. Sometimes being patient is hard but I try...
Something's are a bit harder, my back yard is adjunct to a shopping mall parking lot, so I can easily be seen. Somehow that does not bother me as mich as one of the neighbors, so I wanted to give them a heads up. We are a very tightly knit street, so it is for the better they all know.
Quote from: Sinclair on May 22, 2017, 09:46:17 PM
My transition is not complete. And by complete I don't mean GRS. I mean how I appear. I need more time with HRT to get my skin a bit softer, continue to redistribute fat to my breasts, butt and thighs. It's a process, not a race. I'm patient.
So... to top off a crazy few days, I have decided to come out at work today! Some of my closest coworkers already knew and this morning I did send out an email to about 200 people... got several great responses but also heard that a few are struggling. It was expected that this would be the outcome and I was well prepared for it.
Working with HR on changing the remainder of our internal systems along with the corporate address book later this week.
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Quote from: sarah1972 on May 23, 2017, 06:57:10 PM
So... to top off a crazy few days, I have decided to come out at work today! Some of my closest coworkers already knew and this morning I did send out an email to about 200 people... got several great responses but also heard that a few are struggling. It was expected that this would be the outcome and I was well prepared for it.
Working with HR on changing the remainder of our internal systems along with the corporate address book later this week.
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Congrats on another BIG step Sarah. It sounds as though it went pretty well for you and I am happy with you that it did. Keep on moving on girl!
Hugs,
Laurie