Hey everyone,
I was just wondering if you or your partner made your first time losing your virginity (lol if you see it as that like i do) special? like was it after a special occasion/date? I would like it to be special and not just do it to say i've done it.
I'm 3 months post op now and i don't intend to have sex just yet because i think around 5-6 months may be an appropriate time but ontop of that im just scared a lil bit because don't want it to hurt or for anything to go wrong lol like can sex cause a fistula or other problems to form? Also how long did you wait to have sex? did it hurt the first time? did you have any problems occur afterwards? Hope some people can give some insight into their experiences. :-* :-* :-*
I had 3 friends having srs at the same time. One had sex after 5 months, the other after 8 months and last was me after a year. I remember talking about dilators and the biggest one looked huge. It would be Dr Chett #4, PAI #3. We used to laugh at how we could ever insert it. One girl hung it on her wall with a hunk of a man pic. To give her encouragement.
If you can take the max size dilator, without pain, then you are ready.
Haha well i don't think i am ready just yet maybe soon but still havent got to my biggest dilator yet, tbh it scares me lol. But i have to do it and im thinking to wait around 5-6 months or just whenever i feel comfortable. I want to do it and be comfortable while doing it bcz if it wasn't i'd think i'd lose interest pretty quick and freak out. I am pretty keen to try sex bcz i always hated pre-op sex not only did it hurt but it just didn't feel right and made me upset bcz it didnt feel natural but yeah (tmi).
Do you have any suggestions on using the bigger dilators? like more lube? technique? etc.
Thanks heaps for sharing your experience ;D
I'm a week away from 6 months post. Finally feel like I'm ready. I still think it may take a couple minutes of warm up with one of the dilators or maybe just fingers. I guess I'm a little apprehensive about how its going to go the first time, but I am very much looking forward to it!
Any suggestions on how to "loosen up"?
Not yet... It's been two or three weeks since I graduated to Soul Source #4 (chett #4 is not enough for the european standard)... but I'm not even sure why I have dilated to 38mm. After SRS I have gone full lesbian. Not even the slightest doubt. I don't really need that depth unless we go all strap-on.
In any case, asexual now, still feeling pretty uncomfortable with my body after the post-op weight gain. Not really worried about sex anymore.
14 months after my SRS I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, he took me out to dinner beforehand to make it special, I was very nervous and didn't know what to expect, I asked him beforehand to take it slow and be gentle with me and in fairness he was, it did hurt the first few times, I also worried about being able to satisfy him as a woman, it took me 14 months before I was ready for him, but he gave me confidence and said it was well worth the wait.
I lost my virginity about 6 months post op. The night was not that special.. It was hookup at a wedding.. I was a bridesmaid and i hooked up with one of grooms friends. But the hook-up turned into something special.. as now I am engaged to the guy.
About about 3 or 4 months post op I started to experiment a bit with my fingers and with a vibrator (Friend got it for me as SRS present - she said every girl must own one). My first orgasm came with the vibrator.
Hey everyone i completely forgot i started this thread lol.
Quote from: Charley on May 24, 2017, 07:41:47 AM
Any suggestions on how to "loosen up"?
I am looking on suggestions how to do this im thinking i would probs have to dilate or play a bit first. It's surprising how much some foreplay can relax you and loosen things up tbh. ;D
Quote from: apsharas on May 26, 2017, 02:24:48 PM
In any case, asexual now, still feeling pretty uncomfortable with my body after the post-op weight gain. Not really worried about sex anymore.
Yeah i've experienced weight gain post op too and it sux big time, im just starting to get back into keto diet and intermittent fasting. :)
Quote from: pretty pauline on May 27, 2017, 06:52:40 AM
14 months after my SRS I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, he took me out to dinner beforehand to make it special, I was very nervous and didn't know what to expect, I asked him beforehand to take it slow and be gentle with me and in fairness he was, it did hurt the first few times, I also worried about being able to satisfy him as a woman, it took me 14 months before I was ready for him, but he gave me confidence and said it was well worth the wait.
Yeah i'd like my first time to be special and i'd assumethe first couple of times will be slow until things get easier. ;) :)
Quote from: noleen111 on June 01, 2017, 10:22:16 AM
About about 3 or 4 months post op I started to experiment a bit with my fingers and with a vibrator (Friend got it for me as SRS present - she said every girl must own one). My first orgasm came with the vibrator.
Yeah I want a bunny rabbit 1 lol at least i think thats what they are called lol Can't wait to get one. ;D
Hugs x
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I haven't lost mine, but I know I would have at 19 with a guy I was falling in love with. But I wasn't comfortable at all so it never got to that point and finished rather badly, unfortunately. I will have SRS by 1st September and I really hope to find a guy who cherishes me and I can go to bed with, feeling safe. I know I wouldn't feel comfortable with a hookup.
My first time (a little more than 10 weeks postop) was just a casual hookup, someone I met at a bar where a band was playing. He totally asked me afterwards if I was a virgin. "No," I lied.
As far as being ready, I kept a small bottle of home-made lube and an applicator (one of those plastic tubes that comes with Monistat) in my purse, and dilated vigorously before going out. It never hurt... but I was definitely sore the next morning -- like I'd been hollowed out. :)
Quote from: Sophia Sage on June 09, 2017, 06:41:06 PM
My first time (a little more than 10 weeks postop) was just a casual hookup, someone I met at a bar where a band was playing. He totally asked me afterwards if I was a virgin. "No," I lied.
As far as being ready, I kept a small bottle of home-made lube and an applicator (one of those plastic tubes that comes with Monistat) in my purse, and dilated vigorously before going out. It never hurt... but I was definitely sore the next morning -- like I'd been hollowed out. :)
hahaha but it was a good experience right? Had you reached your largest dilator by that time? I feel like i am ready but i have been slack with my dilation (which is why i have waited) so have gotten that together now and will be 4 months post op in 9 days. You didn't bleed afterwards or anything? :)
Quote from: bubbles21 on June 10, 2017, 12:01:05 AM
You didn't bleed afterwards or anything? :)
I had some bleeding the first time, then a small amount of bleeding a few times till things settle down, it got better over time as I got used to my boyfriend, but every guy is different as I discovered, my boyfriend became my ex boyfriend and I dated other men.
Then I dated a boyfriend who is now my husband, a very masculine strong guy and well endowed but very gentle and patient with me , I had small amount of bleeding and soreness the first few times till I got used to him, I discovered lube, lots of lube, it's a girl's best friend in these situations. From his side of things I am ''nice and tight'' he likes the tightness of my vagina.
It's was an anxious time for me, getting use to my new equipment and basically getting used to being a woman in a relationship.
Quote from: pretty pauline on June 13, 2017, 08:24:57 AM
I had some bleeding the first time, then a small amount of bleeding a few times till things settle down, it got better over time as I got used to my boyfriend, but every guy is different as I discovered, my boyfriend became my ex boyfriend and I dated other men.
Then I dated a boyfriend who is now my husband, a very masculine strong guy and well endowed but very gentle and patient with me , I had small amount of bleeding and soreness the first few times till I got used to him, I discovered lube, lots of lube, it's a girl's best friend in these situations. From his side of things I am ''nice and tight'' he likes the tightness of my vagina.
It's was an anxious time for me, getting use to my new equipment and basically getting used to being a woman in a relationship.
Aw thanks so much for responding lol bleeding after sex is something that was worrying me. I'll be sure to use lots of lube and just try to relax and enjoy it lol Yes getting used to using our new equipment is an experience within itself ;D
I'm still a virgin, had surgery in 2015. I am curious, but at the same time, I want to find someone special.
Quote from: bubbles21 on June 10, 2017, 12:01:05 AMhahaha but it was a good experience right? Had you reached your largest dilator by that time? I feel like i am ready but i have been slack with my dilation (which is why i have waited) so have gotten that together now and will be 4 months post op in 9 days. You didn't bleed afterwards or anything? :)
It was a mostly good experience. I mean, I didn't orgasm or anything, and wouldn't during intercourse for many moons afterwards (and then only after oral sex), but it was still pleasable -- no, more than that, it was
right at a primal level.
Yes, I was up to the 1.5" diameter dilator by that time -- the #5 in Meltzer's set, which at the time was a special/additional order. I could dilate vigorously (using it more as a dildo than as a stent) for several days before I ventured out to have sex. There was no bleeding, either.
Well as I have not had grs I hope that this time will be special with someone I love not like the way i did when i was 12
Can a sex change M2F really lose a virginity ? If you stick dilators in ur snatch how can you really be a virgin still ? I always hated that term when it came to post ops. One is not getting a pop the cherry type moment...
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Quote from: TinaVane on June 28, 2017, 04:18:08 PM
Can a sex change M2F really lose a virginity ? If you stick dilators in ur snatch how can you really be a virgin still ? I always hated that term when it came to post ops. One is not getting a pop the cherry type moment...
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I think it goes back to sex ed that for some one to lose there virginity it has to be penis in vingina for the first time
Quote from: TinaVane on June 28, 2017, 04:18:08 PM
Can a sex change M2F really lose a virginity ? If you stick dilators in ur snatch how can you really be a virgin still ? I always hated that term when it came to post ops. One is not getting a pop the cherry type moment...
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If you define virginity as breaking the hymen solely, then yeah we are not virgins. However, I have never had sex and will have SRS on 1st September. So yeah, I will still consider myself a virgin after that. Also, natural born girls also masturbate during puberty before sex, lol.
Quote from: Aurorasky on June 28, 2017, 04:27:34 PM
If you define virginity as breaking the hymen solely, then yeah we are not virgins. However, I have never had sex and will have SRS on 1st September. So yeah, I will still consider myself a virgin after that. Also, natural born girls also masturbate during puberty before sex, lol.
Well that's kinda true. I remember banging myself with those big sausages as like a 13 year old [emoji51][emoji51][emoji51]. I know TMI lol
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If a cis girl can't lose her virginity to a tampon (and that's definitely a myth), then a trans woman can't lose it to a dilator. Plenty of cis women don't have hymens, either; some are born without one, and lots break it long, long before they lose their virginity. Of course, what's defined as "virginity" is up to the person.
(I hadn't contributed here because I count the first time my wife penetrated me, which probably isn't what most people in the thread had in mind. :) My wife, btw, didn't have a hymen or bleed the first time I penetrated her...)
Quote from: TinaVane on June 28, 2017, 04:18:08 PM
Can a sex change M2F really lose a virginity ? If you stick dilators in ur snatch how can you really be a virgin still ? I always hated that term when it came to post ops. One is not getting a pop the cherry type moment...
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Hey Tina ;D
I hope you are well,
I guess when starting this thread I had been more into hearing about how the experience was for women when they first used their new parts with a partner rather than with a dilator. I already know what a dilator feels like but was interested in the experience, specifically the feeling, troubles during or after sex and ultimately whether their first experience was with someone they loved or a hookup. I see what you mean though, however, i don't think it's about popping a cherry but moreso ones sexual experience with a whole other person rather than our hands or a dilator.
hugs x