For those who are or have transitioned what if anything do you miss about the time you presented male.
For me I would miss:
The speed at which I can make it in and out of the bathroom. Not even factoring in the lack of line.
I am not always a fan of doing being asked to do manly things, but it does stroke my ego when a woman ask me to do something manly.
An entire year worth of hair cut/style in 120 minutes or less.
I know an Erika Courtney or my wife dies here in Lewisburg Tn where u from?
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Quote from: bchigdon10 on May 25, 2017, 04:52:08 PM
I know an Erika Courtney or my wife dies here in Lewisburg Tn where u from?
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I'm from the Northeast.
K you spell your name just like the lady here does.
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Nothing.. nothing at all
Still thinking......
Nope, not a thing comes to mind. Hard to fathom.
Not a thing.
I still do all the "guy stuff" at home: I open jar lids for my wife; I built a deck last week. Nothing much has changed except I don't have to pretend to actually be a guy any more.
I miss not being self conscious about my voice. I don't miss the actual voice.
Moni
I don't really remember doing anything male oriented before transition. So absolutely nothing.
Hunting and shooting and fishing and driving like a nut and.......wait, I still do all that!
The only thing I really miss is all the time I could have lived as my true female self, instead of pretending to be male. I feel so good now. I regret not transitioning sooner.
Nothing. I can honestly say I miss nothing. Just gained more. That said, I have not had GRS yet. I plan on another year of HRT before contemplating that. As it stands now, I'm good and miss nothing and have no regrets. Some annoyances, like mood swings, etc., and sometimes they can be unpredictable.
well I was living a forced lie in the first place, but I did have a few guy friends I miss from the old life. They were mostly nerds like me. Has nothing to do with former 'identity', but I do miss them. And some of my gal friends too! At least I got back in contact with some of them.. that is a good thing :)
Hello,
For me being a male meant being very mafioso and very butch. If your family is this way women are second in command. As far as my own marriage, there is nothing I miss, I submit to her my power that she do with it as she wills. Being male to me meant every conflict ended in depression. These days I don't let it bother me if for some reason some male is on a power trip.
I always joke the one thing I kind of miss, is the ease my bothers have when hiking and needing to pee. I have to find something to sit on or lean against.
They do make devices to make that easier so, Sure don't miss that part of my anatomy.
Being able to look "put together" in under 15 minutes. Not even about passing etc. Just much faster to get ready to the point where you would feel comfortable going on a first date, or interviewing for a job.
~Brooke~
No there's nothing i miss about presenting as male.
I mean, anything you could do then you can still do now.
Not a thing, not one single thing!
Very little if anything is missed. There is of course the loss of male privilege and being able to "blend in" within a traditional cultural sort of way but those were known going in.
Oh I finally realized something I DO miss... I suspect it has more to do with my age than anything else though... I miss stamina. Like I can be totally pooped after working out 10 minutes. 30 minutes I'm about to pass out. I wasn't that way younger. That and strength, I used to be a lot stronger.. I'd be ok if I got 'grace' in trade, but nope lol.
Miss absolutely nothing, I hated doing ''guy stuff'' now I never have to do it, hubby does it all.
I find these types of discussions, weird.
I grew up in a household where my 3 brothers (2 older 1 younger) and myself had NO set boundaries of Gender roles/expectations.
We shared all outside/inside duties/work/chores. My mother was not big on what was boy or girl activities. We all shared in - house cleaning - some cooking/baking - craft/hobbies. After my sister came along (I was about 9-10), we also shared in her stuff - feeding - washing - take for strolls/walking. One of the few things we didn't do was change diapers, this was back in the day of cloth diapers and big pins. But we did get involved with the cleanup mess.
I have always wondered what all the "manly" things that most say they do or don't miss.
My partner (MtF Post also) and I shared in all duties around the house. She was very good on mechanical/building things. We shared car work. But she would build cabinets/install tiles/bathroom fixes. I was the electrical/electronics/computer person. But we would share in those activities and yard work. Re-built our outside deck together.
My work (computer maintenance/programming) was not what one might call "manly" but was male dominated. After my transition in place I was able to really come alive as my true self. Did not have to play the male crap games. But I am an Alpha female and always take charge, and within a couple of years I was in charge of those same 20 some guys.
Wish others would share just what "manly" activities they gave up or don't regret, as I am big on gender equality. Men and women can and do most all the same activities. To me the only male/female roles are our sex related things.
QuoteMy work (computer maintenance/programming) was not what one might call "manly" but was male dominated.
Way back in the B.C. (before computers) era, typing class in high school was only for those in the business (read secretarial) stream. Most guys wound up in shop classes and so never saw a typewriter. These days, typing is now called "keyboarding" and everyone needs it, to work with computers.
When I was in HS 1964-68, electrical/electronics was considered a "shop" class. I also took a course in woodworking, thought it might be able to be useful in the future. Never took typing, as you I figured it was for secretaries.
I did become very fast typing with 2 fingers and thumbs later on. Had to type many letters between surgery hospitals and HR for transition, also before widespread on-line and personal Computers.
Hate the phrase (Before Computers), as they have been around since the 40s.
Sleeping in. I moved my alarm 40 minutes earlier to get ready!
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Quote from: Georgette on May 27, 2017, 04:54:16 PM
When I was in HS 1964-68, electrical/electronics was considered a "shop" class. I also took a course in woodworking, thought it might be able to be useful in the future. Never took typing, as you I figured it was for secretaries.
I did become very fast typing with 2 fingers and thumbs later on. Had to type many letters between surgery hospitals and HR for transition, also before widespread on-line and personal Computers.
Hate the phrase (Before Computers), as they have been around since the 40s.
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The 40s ?? For real?? I thought it wasnt until the 80s when they started using computers and the 90s when they made ones that actually were useful. I do remember watching a program about this huge computer that filled a room. It was called brainiac or something. But that was in the 60s wasn't it? Supposedly that brainiac computer was just a huge calculator .
Electric computers were first designed in world war II in order to calculate firing tables for military guns and also the development of the atomic bomb. The first programmable computer was designed in the 1800's by Charles Babbage but it wasn't built because machining wasn't up to the task of making the precision parts it required. There is a modern attempt at duplicating the machine today and it works as advertised.
QuoteHate the phrase (Before Computers), as they have been around since the 40s.
Yes, I know. But I was thinking about before when most people had them. Personal computers didn't appear until the mid '70s. Dena mentioned the ENIAC, which was built at the University of Pennsylvania, for the U.S. Army. There was also the Colossus computer, used by British code breakers in WW2. Even prior to that, there were programmable calculators that worked with common punch card equipment.
Ah, youth. My first computer was an abacus. 2700 BC. :laugh:
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on May 27, 2017, 09:05:40 PM
Ah, youth. My first computer was an abacus. 2700 BC. :laugh:
Oh yeah, my first computer they hadn't invented 'c', 'o', or 'm' yet, so it was a 'puter.' Yes, I'm a 'puter' from way back.
Moni
Let's not forget, prior to electronic computers, computers were people who did calculations all day. There's a book and recent movie, "Hidden Figures", about the female "computers" behind the early U.S. space program.
Quote from: HappyMoni on May 25, 2017, 06:57:10 PM
I miss not being self conscious about my voice. I don't miss the actual voice.
Moni
Same here.
Not having to worry about a tuck coming undone in tight clothing and potentially outing you to friends when you are super stealth and passable.