Okay, posting this here, since I have no idea where I am on the gender spectrum as of yet besides not feeling female very much if at all and identifying as non-binary until I figure it out... But after a breakdown from my husband asking my daughter if I am a girl (see my Murder Dysphoria thread that I'm too lazy to link) we had a long chat. He still has no clue how to respond to all this, which I'm trying to understand, but is really difficult because he is the only person in my real life that I came out to, and really could use his support. We realized that our marriage may not last through this, but we're gonna try and make it work still as best as we can.
But that's not what I want to talk about. My next step (besides finding a therapist hahaha.)... I did it! I asked him to try using different pronouns for me. I really wanted to try asking him to use 'he/his' pronouns, but it just felt odd asking that right now when we're still exploring this. But he agreed (despite reservations because of our kids) to try it, at the very least at home. I wasn't able to manage to convince him to try they/their/theirs because his whole speech pathologist in him thinks its too hard to differentiate when people already have language abilities. But he did agree to Ze/zir...
Trying to break the mold... here we come!
Quote from: Rowena_Ellenweorc on May 28, 2017, 03:35:37 AM
Okay, posting this here, since I have no idea where I am on the gender spectrum as of yet besides not feeling female very much if at all and identifying as non-binary until I figure it out... But after a breakdown from my husband asking my daughter if I am a girl (see my Murder Dysphoria thread that I'm too lazy to link) we had a long chat. He still has no clue how to respond to all this, which I'm trying to understand, but is really difficult because he is the only person in my real life that I came out to, and really could use his support. We realized that our marriage may not last through this, but we're gonna try and make it work still as best as we can.
But that's not what I want to talk about. My next step (besides finding a therapist hahaha.)... I did it! I asked him to try using different pronouns for me. I really wanted to try asking him to use 'he/his' pronouns, but it just felt odd asking that right now when we're still exploring this. But he agreed (despite reservations because of our kids) to try it, at the very least at home. I wasn't able to manage to convince him to try they/their/theirs because his whole speech pathologist in him thinks its too hard to differentiate when people already have language abilities. But he did agree to Ze/zir...
Trying to break the mold... here we come!
Lol, good luck. You have deeper knowledge of yourself than you let on I think and a lovely sense of humor. Keep posting please, your journey is a light and I pray that it always shines brightly.
Peace,
JB
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Awwww thank you JB!!!!!!!!! that's really sweet of you to say!
You're welcome. Moving towards living an authentic life is a pilgrimage without a clear ending and every step is a step closer to who you are even if you are unsure about where that might be. I do hope that your relationship survives, that you have a sense of humor and a desire for openness bodes well, but may ships have crashed on smaller reefs than this one. Keep walking your path with gentleness and grace and whatever happens you will have the strength to transcend it.
Peace,
JB