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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: stephaniec on May 30, 2017, 06:54:45 PM

Title: doesnt it drive you nuts when half the time your gendered right
Post by: stephaniec on May 30, 2017, 06:54:45 PM
Its driving me crazy when half the time I get gendered wrongly, mostly without makee up
Title: Re: doesnt it drive you nuts when half the time your gendered right
Post by: Angélique LaCava on May 30, 2017, 07:58:11 PM
It drives me nuts when 1 person calls me sir after the other 100 people have called me ma'am.
Title: Re: doesnt it drive you nuts when half the time your gendered right
Post by: KarynMcD on May 31, 2017, 05:48:18 AM
Well, since I know I don't pass without makeup, I'm surprised when I am gendered correctly.
Title: Re: doesnt it drive you nuts when half the time your gendered right
Post by: nyanhakase on May 31, 2017, 06:06:02 AM
It sure used to, and still comes back. Now I'm gendered right 99.99% of the time.... At least until situations like one particularly mean guy the other day who just called me out and hit all my weak spots at once. Then I just question all of the previous and paranoia overtakes me and it feels like back to day one. Sometimes you just can't please people. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Title: Re: doesnt it drive you nuts when half the time your gendered right
Post by: Iliana.Found on May 31, 2017, 08:07:57 AM
Quote from: nyanhakase on May 31, 2017, 06:06:02 AM
It sure used to, and still comes back. Now I'm gendered right 99.99% of the time.... At least until situations like one particularly mean guy the other day who just called me out and hit all my weak spots at once. Then I just question all of the previous and paranoia overtakes me and it feels like back to day one. Sometimes you just can't please people. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I'me right there with you. I get gendered correctly 99.99% of the time as well, but when the one misgender comes around, everything starts to spiral down and I also start overthinking questioning everything. Like omg maybe everyone was just being nice to me even though they know I'm trans. Omg omg! And then I hide in my room for like a day and then eventually get over it and get back on with life :) It does suck though! It's not that they know I'm trans, it's that all the progress I thought I made away from my male form, different forms like DBZ lol, may just not be true progress and that's what kills me. Like I said, I overthink!!!!  :D
Title: Re: doesnt it drive you nuts when half the time your gendered right
Post by: ainsley on May 31, 2017, 08:52:37 AM
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on May 30, 2017, 07:58:11 PM
It drives me nuts when 1 person calls me sir after the other 100 people have called me ma'am.

Exactly.
Title: Re: doesnt it drive you nuts when half the time your gendered right
Post by: Harley Quinn on May 31, 2017, 11:09:27 AM
I get called "sir" all the time. It's only when I am out with female friends over 5'9 that I get called "ma'am". Maybe they're being nice at that point because they're scared... lol