I'm a 15 year old non-binary kid who has been having a lot of chest dysphoria. I know I should just try to ignore it but it's just so.. hard. I know that things will be better in the future and that I'll have the possibility to get a surgery but.. it feels like a such a long time (about 3 years). I'm being really anxious about not having so much patience. And yes, I should get a binder but I don't have enough money yet.
But what I've been thinking and now came to ask is about changing your mind, somehow. Your point of views, opinions. Do you think it's healthy to try to love your body and accept your chest even if it doesn't match your identity? Or is that unhealthy and forcing? How do you even do that as a transperson? Could that take my dysphoria forever? Could that be any help?
(Also sorry if my english seems little off. It's not my mother language + I'm still feeling very dysphoric so I wrote this in a rush)
Hi BlueAlien
Welcome to Susan's. I hope you enjoy your time here.
Changing how you feel about yourself can be a very fluid thing. You may feel after thinking about things for some time that you are OK with your chest and if you do happen to feel that way then that is absolutely OK. But Dysphoria cannot be wished away, you can't just "try a bit harder" and it goes away.
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