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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: davertan88 on June 24, 2017, 04:31:16 AM

Title: how do I tell her.
Post by: davertan88 on June 24, 2017, 04:31:16 AM
I guess I felt in love with ts.


I took a step and finally made a confession with her on my feeling for her. I guess she is aghast by my action.
I feel that she is afraid to come out to me that she is ts or she have no feel the same way like I do for her.
Or she worried that she might not be good enough with relationship. or worried that once I know I will walk away.
There are so many things...


I really want to maintain a the relationship with her, more than friends perhaps.

How do I express myself without pushing her away letting her know my acceptance to her as ts.




Title: Re: how do I tell her.
Post by: Artesia on June 24, 2017, 06:55:18 AM
Treat her as a woman.  Don't worry about her past.  When she is comfortable she may choose to tell you, but she may not want to ever tell anyone.  Or maybe you are reading it wrong.  Just don't pick and pry at what you think you know.
Title: Re: how do I tell her.
Post by: KathyLauren on June 24, 2017, 07:04:39 AM
Don't ask.  Don't even hint.  Just file the thought away and do not act on it.  If you are wrong, you will destroy the relationship.  Even if you are right, you will probably destroy the relationship.

You love her.  That is enough.  If she is trans and wants you to know, she will tell you.  Otherwise, there is no reason for you to know.  Treat her as the woman you love.
Title: Re: how do I tell her.
Post by: LizK on June 24, 2017, 07:59:09 AM
Quote from: davertan88 on June 24, 2017, 04:31:16 AM
I guess I felt in love with ts.

She did not tell me that she is ts nor mention anything of such topic before.

How I know is totally base on senses and feeling through the time we spend together.
I took a step and finally made a confession with her on my feeling for her. I guess she is aghast by my action.
I feel that she is afraid to come out to me that she is ts or she have no feel the same way like I do for her.
Or she worried that she might not be good enough with relationship. or worried that once I know I will walk away.
There are so many things...

She doesn't know that I know she is ts or maybe she knows. I don't know what to do!

I really want to maintain a the relationship with her, more than friends perhaps.

How do I express myself without pushing her away letting her know my acceptance to her as ts.

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Title: Re: how do I tell her.
Post by: davertan88 on June 24, 2017, 01:02:21 PM
Yes I treated her as a girl I really like.
I guess one of the reason is she doesn't want to get involve in a no ending relationship(that what she think)
that is how I felt.

I seriously don't want to destroy the relationship between us.
What should I do now.




Title: Re: how do I tell her.
Post by: DawnOday on June 24, 2017, 04:49:22 PM
Quote from: davertan88 on June 24, 2017, 01:02:21 PM
Yes I treated her as a girl I really like.
I guess one of the reason is she doesn't want to get involve in a no ending relationship(that what she think)
that is how I felt.

I seriously don't want to destroy the relationship between us.
What should I do now.






As with whiskey, it takes time to mature. She will tell you when she is ready. Be prepared she may not be that into you. Sounds kind of harsh I know. But worrying about it can be devastating. I worried for forty years about my ex. and why she dumped me. Time better spent living.
Title: Re: how do I tell her.
Post by: davertan88 on June 25, 2017, 05:56:00 AM
It's sad that nothing I could do.
I am worried that I will explode
I really hope that day will come or eventually where she is ready for me.