I hear a lot of horror stories about being outed in public and while I know most people don't want to just blurt out "I'm trans" everywhere they go, I did that today and I actually had a really nice experience!
I got to a Paul Mitchell school to get my hair cut and I love going! I went to get something to make me look more masculine. Even with a masculine haircut and a bound chest, I don't pass for s***!
I told the professional over my future professional that I was transitioning (mostly to make sure they didn't try to feminize the hair cut, as a lot of hair dressers do).
Not only did she and the future professional use my proper pronouns, BUT they changed my sheet to my perfered name and charged me for a men's haircut (....which I honestly think it's stupid that men's haircuts are cheaper, but I guess that's the society we live in). When I left they walked me up to the desk to pay and had the lady change my name in the system to preferred my name. They were so respectful and made me so comfortable about the whole thing, like as far as their establishment cares, I'm a biological man, and that made me feel really nice!
I know that it's not always going to be that easy, but I always hear so many horror stories and I wanted to share a nice uplifting story that may give others some hope....Not everywhere and everyone will judge you, and sometimes (especially if you're like me and know you couldn't pass from a mile away), being open and upfront will be really rewarding!
Thanks for sharing a happy story. We need more of those. It is always nice to be treated with kindness and respect.
So glad that hear about you experience. It is all the little things which in the end make us happy... the place I get my eyebrows done every other month all the sudden started charging me "female" rate (less than male) and I had the biggest smile ever on my face. She did get an extra tip... and the best part besides me asking for a high arched eye brow I did not tell her anything else...
That is amazing, it's great to hear the positive stories. I feel like I "couldn't pass from a mile away" as well so stories like this are a great reminder that there are really great people out there in places :)
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can I say assuming your profile photo is you, you pass fully and totally!
That's awesome TransguyMac! My hairdresser knows about Me as much as My Therapist and Mom! Great to hear everything is going Great for You. I'm looking forward to feminizing My hair. Oops already did highlights in guy mode. Add the piercings and it's a little hard to hid some of that. We have to be who we are!
It great to hear of affirming stories, we hear so much bad stuff. That was great outcome and I am sure there will be many more like it...nice one :D
I'm really glad things went so well for you! It's good to be reminded that there are awesome people in the world. Your story helps give me some courage about outing myself at my hairdresser . . . the lady I see charges women $5 more than men, which seems sort of unfair since I have a pretty much male haircut. (I don't pass from a mile away either.) Maybe I'll work up the guts to tell her next time.
Hi Mac. I'm glad you had a good experience. It helps a lot to tell your stylist you are transitioning. If you just say you want a short or boy cut she still won't make it masculine. Even with the same cut there are differences between how you cut it for a man or a woman.
Julia
Great experience. I had the same experience at Massage Envy.
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Great experience, thanks for sharing.
What a wonderful story!
And yes, they always try to feminize my haircut 😞
That is quite encouraging to read this kind of a happy story!
Thank you so much for sharing and "right on"!
So happy to read this, I love when putting yourself out there is met with acceptance.
I don't get my hair cut terribly often, but the last 3 times I have discussed my trans status with my hairdresser. I look female, but the voice and mannerisms aren't there so I clarify for them. I have yet to have a bad experience about it. They are always very polite and treat me as they would anyone else. I have to discuss with them because I have a horrible widow's peak and receding hairline at the corners that needs worked around. There are significantly less overt bigots out there than it seems and most will be incredibly profession about their job. I am glad you had a positive experience.