Hey there, I'm Emi. I'm 14 years old (recently turned as of June 11) and I'm a trans guy. (Please pardon my bad grammar, literally I just type like the average human would talk.) I came out to my mom two years ago and my dad around 10 months ago. I wrote a 3-page letter, telling my mom everything I had thought for the past 5 years (since I was 12 at the time and I felt uncomfortable at 7). I told her that I still respected her as my mom, that I was still the same person and that I respected her opinion on the situation. I threw it under her laptop one Wednesday morning, when my dad wasn't home, during February vacation before she woke up. She was crying and was really flustered. She didn't understand what to do, but a year later we've worked things out. I'm starting my transition and actually getting my Lupron (I think that's it) puberty blockers in two weeks!! It's small, but it's still a start, and I'm excited.
I have some supportive people so far, my mother and my older sister and brother. Even my chorus teacher is supportive. My brother is especially supportive, since he and his wife are bisexual and only came out in their 20's. He even invited me to go to Toronto, Canada for PRIDE.
My dad on the other hand, isn't as supportive. He goes along with it, but he prefers to act like I'm not even transitioning. Everyone acts like that, really, but my dad is a very close-minded and slightly disgusting person. I've never had a good relationship with him, mainly because I don't want too. I just don't like him for who he is. He constantly insults people without the knowledge to do so, and he never listens to anything against his own opinion. He questions me every day, everything I do that isn't masculine is wrong, apparently.
Anyway, my transition has been a bit rocky. I wasn't put with the right people at first. I was uncomfortable coming out to my doctor and to my old therapist. So. then I was with a new therapist. I was uncomfortable with her as well and she ended up actually kicking me out because she "wasn't educated enough". (Yeah, that would've been helpful to know 6 months ago). Now, I have a doctor, therapist and endocrinologist who I'm comfortable talking to and are very reassuring and helpful.
I've mainly joined this forum because I'm annoyed by, not exaggerating, everything about this transition. I'm a singer as well and want to do theatre for a career. Which is a hard field to pursue in the first place and being trans doesn't help. I have to eventually come out to the music community. I already am an alto who can sing down to a low E, which could allow me to easily become a tenor... It's just so hard. Mainly because I was one of two girls who got into Select Concert Choir as freshmen! So I'm holding off until sophomore year... So I'm pretty nervous about that and romantic relationships in the future. I feel so distant from the LGB's of the community. It's almost as if the trans community is an entire different society on it's own. It doesn't help that a student, who I'll call H, has already passed on the WRONG idea about trans people. Basically, he's been going around saying that he just woke up one morning and god said upon to him: YES YOU NOW SHALL BE TRANS. It's pretty bull->-bleeped-<- and now everyone already has the wrong idea.
Meanwhile, I'm just hiding in my little burrow over here hiding from the world. LiKe PlEASE dOn't PaY AtTenTioN tO mE
Emi, I am also starting my journey. Much older but, still starting like you. I think there is just discomfort and misunderstanding by our society as a whole about trans issues and concerns. So your father or "H" in your school are not the only ones that make it hard. I have not come out my parents and I am sure I will have to answer questions on that too. They are closed minded too. You will find support here and many people that have a wealth of knowledge they share on here. So welcome!!!!! Remember feel free to ask!!!!
Welcome, Emi.
It's definitely a tough road to travel and even worse with not very bright people perpetuating their ignorance among others who are too lazy to bother to find out what it's all about.
I am also much older than you, and have only recently started medical transition to male. If I were your age now, I would have made the same decision and tapped into support groups like this one. It certainly is a lot easier for your generation than it was for mine. But still it is a tough road to get started on. It will get easier, I'm told.
So, welcome!
Hi Emi :icon_wave:
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