I dont even know where to start. Ive been struggling my while life with this. Sometimes like i said i don't know where to start.....if you see the 2nd pic thats me age 9-10(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20170707/11fc1803f91867765d843024c9e0f6b7.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20170707/acf31004a228cc7256ac9099188dfae9.jpg)
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Well you picked a good place to begin. Have you thought about seeing a therapist that specializes in gender identity? They can help you sort through all of your thoughts amd feelings amd make sense of it. The first step is knowing who you are inside. Who you believe you've always been even if you are just realizing it.
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Quote from: CMD042414 on July 07, 2017, 07:08:38 PM
Well you picked a good place to begin. Have you thought about seeing a therapist that specializes in gender identity? They can help you sort through all of your thoughts amd feelings amd make sense of it. The first step is knowing who you are inside. Who you believe you've always been even if you are just realizing it.
Its made since my whole life who i am. Ive always been a Boy inside of a girls body.....i just dont know my next steps and who to talk to. Ive had friends transition and also my current gf son, i want to show him he doesn't have to be scared and hide. He also has always been "gay" or dressing just like a female almost his whole entire life. He is 13......but with me being 36.....just feel ive lost my whole world to nothing but a lie.....if that makes sense.
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Quote from: BabyBoi on July 08, 2017, 12:42:40 AM
Its made since my whole life who i am. Ive always been a Boy inside of a girls body.....i just dont know my next steps and who to talk to. Ive had friends transition and also my current gf son, i want to show him he doesn't have to be scared and hide. He also has always been "gay" or dressing just like a female almost his whole entire life. He is 13......but with me being 36.....just feel ive lost my whole world to nothing but a lie.....if that makes sense.
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Yes, it does. I was 32 when I transitioned 3 years ago. For me I was determined to make up for lost time. I hit the ground running with checking off boxes from starting T to surgeries. Moving forward is the only thing you can do. Taking action will make you feel more in control of your destiny as opposed to before. You see a lot of young people do it but I believe being in my 30s made it easier honestly. I am not as concerned with how friends and acquaintances will view me. I know who I am and am mature. I have my own life and don't need to rely on anyone. I'm free to be. Now is the time to get out there and do it!
Quote from: CMD042414 on July 08, 2017, 07:22:19 AM
Yes, it does. I was 32 when I transitioned 3 years ago. For me I was determined to make up for lost time. I hit the ground running with checking off boxes from starting T to surgeries. Moving forward is the only thing you can do. Taking action will make you feel more in control of your destiny as opposed to before. You see a lot of young people do it but I believe being in my 30s made it easier honestly. I am not as concerned with how friends and acquaintances will view me. I know who I am and am mature. I have my own life and don't need to rely on anyone. I'm free to be. Now is the time to get out there and do it!
Thank you. Trust and believe its on my mind day in and day out.
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Quote from: CMD042414 on July 07, 2017, 07:08:38 PM
Well you picked a good place to begin. Have you thought about seeing a therapist that specializes in gender identity? They can help you sort through all of your thoughts amd feelings amd make sense of it. The first step is knowing who you are inside. Who you believe you've always been even if you are just realizing it.
All of the above is really helpful advice and I second it wholly. I'm pretty young myself and the dysphoria started when I was about 17, on and off and I wasn't even certain....more so confused about who I was. I went a therapist who does general, gender and poly counseling and seriously after one session I was able to process all of my thoughts and confirm how I wanted to move forward and who I was....
I followed up, I came out to my mom and then I got my HRT letter....It's just so crazy how much therapy can help in such a short time, and obviously everyone's experience is different so I can't promise you that kind of instant closure but it is DEFINITELY something to look into if you're willing to do it. It can be expensive though so if you don't have insurance that covers mental health you can usually find a therapist with scale pay that is based on your yearly income.