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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Remedy_Taylor on July 09, 2017, 06:42:28 PM

Title: MTF zero people in my life support my transition friends fam and all
Post by: Remedy_Taylor on July 09, 2017, 06:42:28 PM
Hey guys just seeing if there's anyone who can relate to my situation I'm 26 currently staying at my grandparents house while I save to purchase my own property. I've been on hormones for a year and before you couldn't notice many changes but now the girls are getting bigger and well not as easy to hide. So I try to jus let it be whether in my girl or boy clothes but my grandparents make me feel really uncomfortable like they don't want me to look like a girl when they have my aunts kids over (often) told me to keep it away from them. Given I am staying in their place, I respect there wishes
But it's almost like their ashamed of me or something. They don't even talk to me the same Which doesn't make for an easy transition if those exist lol but moral of the story I don't know why they gotta hate on me n make me feel like I'm a freak generally got a strong back bone with people but I guess since it's family it's different.
Title: Re: MTF zero people in my life support my transition friends fam and all
Post by: JJ_BLOSSOM on July 09, 2017, 07:14:47 PM
Hey girl I hear you I'm in the same boat I'm 27 with a wife and two kids no one supports me and I'm stuck in the abyss of whether to just rip the bandaid off or stay as long as I can for these years with my kids chin up and stay strong even tho I'm a hypocrite

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Title: Re: MTF zero people in my life support my transition friends fam and all
Post by: Cailin on July 09, 2017, 07:31:58 PM
Just hang in there even you are on your own Taylor and then try to find and surround yourself with people who do support you. Mainly stuck rock the androgynous life myself I know how hard this can be but I'm sure you at least feel better on the inside rite? I know it hurts even more for that to come from family but hopefully one day they will come around when they see how much happier you are. Also, if you don't have one already a sports bra really helps for concealing the girls at least somewhat lol.
Title: Re: MTF zero people in my life support my transition friends fam and all
Post by: Dani on July 09, 2017, 08:45:45 PM
Most all of us have dealt with rejection in one form or another all our lives. This happens before, during and after transition. It is the just one of the prices we pay to become our true selves.

Make a new plan to make a new life. You can not change everyone's thoughts about people like us. If your family truly loves you, then the love is unconditional.
Title: Re: MTF zero people in my life support my transition friends fam and all
Post by: Sinclair on July 09, 2017, 11:23:50 PM
Establish yourself here, and become part of our family. We welcome you.  :icon_chick:
Title: Re: MTF zero people in my life support my transition friends fam and all
Post by: Dan on July 10, 2017, 01:53:54 AM
At least your grandparent's seem to feel some kind of love or maybe just a duty to help you out. That's something, even though it doesn't feel like much.

We can't control what family we are born into, but we can select our family members when we grow up.

Consider me your bro :icon_tetter:
Title: Re: MTF zero people in my life support my transition friends fam and all
Post by: Jacqueline on July 18, 2017, 03:53:16 PM
Hi Taylor,

So sorry to hear about your situation. Many of our members experience similar challenges. Sometimes with a spouse, a parent or two or a whole family. Not easy or comfortable. I am glad to see you are keeping a positive outlook.

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Title: Re: MTF zero people in my life support my transition friends fam and all
Post by: Rachel on July 18, 2017, 07:53:41 PM
Welcome to Susan's. e are here to support each other.

Sorry about your Grandparent's lack of support. You may want to find a local trans group and see if they meet after group.