My upper arms look muscular and not very feminine at all, and HRT didn't do a thing about it. >:(
My shoulders are rather wide and not as round as i'd like them to be and even though it's not getting me clocked it's becoming a source of a lot of dysphoria lately.
I don't know how to deal, seriously.
The answer is simple but implementing it is difficult, don't think about it. I am tall and have broad shoulders and I know they aren't going to change. I wear lose fitting tops with sleeves and distract others with my personality. Most of the time, people aren't out to read you so if you engage them they will concentrate on your personality and not how you appear. How well does this work? I went into Home Depot without makeup and purchased a bunch of stuff. I was gendered female and was never sired. The quickest way for somebody to read you is if you show you are uncomfortable. Then they start looking closer to determine why you are uncomfortable.