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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Angélique LaCava on July 29, 2017, 09:04:15 AM

Title: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Angélique LaCava on July 29, 2017, 09:04:15 AM
So this male to female isn't socially transitioned, but everyone at work knows about it and she has been on hormones about 2 years. Yesterday at the register when I was checking out a customer the other mtf was standing close by and the guy said you and "him" resemble eachother, so after the customer left I asked a male coworker about it and he said god no that's like comparing night and day, your beautiful "he"isn't. How could that customer say we resemble eachother if I pass and she doesn't? Because not even 10 mins after the customer left another customer walked up and saw us playing around like we was argueing and the customer said dude (to the other mtf) your not going to win this argument, your the wrong gender. So like I asked How can we resemble eachother if she reads as complete male and I read complete female? Please don't attack me for making this thread, I simply made it because I wanted to vent and not to make fun of the other mtf because honestly me and her are close since we started working together a month ago.
Title: Re: Started working with another msg transgender at my new job.
Post by: jfong on July 29, 2017, 09:09:28 AM
Resemble can also means like the siblings who share the same traits. Hard to know without knowing how both of you looked like. It could be just that one facial feature that for some people seems very prominent?

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Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Wednesday on July 29, 2017, 09:52:22 AM
1. The customer noticed something in you that made him thought you may be MTF so sayed you resembled your coworker in a sense that both of you are MTF (even when you're not physically similar).

2. Again the customer noticed something, and just tried to be mean or catty.

3. The customer took both of you as FTM (rare, but possible) or androgyne.

4. The customer found out any other resemblance.

In any case I think this person view both of you as physically look-alikes.
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Angélique LaCava on July 29, 2017, 09:58:21 AM
Quote from: Wednesday on July 29, 2017, 09:52:22 AM
1. The customer noticed something in you that made him thought you may be MTF so sayed you resembled your coworker in a sense that both of you are MTF (even when you're not physically similar).

2. Again the customer noticed something, and just tried to be mean or catty.

3. The customer took both of you as FTM (rare, but possible) or androgyne.

4. The customer found out any other resemblance.

In any case I think this person view both of you as physically look-alikes.
he called me ma'am when I finished checking him out.
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Wednesday on July 29, 2017, 10:11:44 AM
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on July 29, 2017, 09:58:21 AM
he called me ma'am when I finished checking him out.

So it's pretty probable that he would have seen any other resemblance between both of you, as if you were siblings, or both very slim, or something like that.
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Julia1996 on July 29, 2017, 10:18:48 AM
I wouldn't get too upset over this. I really doubt the guy was outing you. Maybe he noticed some small traits that both of you have. Just like everyone has a idea of beauty that can also work with how others look at resemblance.  If he was trying to out you he would have called you Sir or Dude. I don't think my brother and I look alike but people have said we do. I don't get offended by it. Someone who tells you you resemble a guy aren't necessarily trying to out you. I wouldn't worry about it. People tell me I look like sci-fi characters all the time. The wraith, Stahma Tar, etc. I don't bother getting offended anymore.
Julia
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: AshleyP on July 30, 2017, 01:33:48 AM
Maybe he read you both and wants some. :)
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Dani on July 30, 2017, 08:32:53 AM
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on July 29, 2017, 09:04:15 AM
... the other mtf because honestly me and her are close since we started working together a month ago.

It is just wonderful that you have a close friend where you work. This friendship is a very precious thing. Nurture the friendship carefully.
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: stephaniec on July 30, 2017, 04:30:14 PM
Quote from: Dani on July 30, 2017, 08:32:53 AM
It is just wonderful that you have a close friend where you work. This friendship is a very precious thing. Nurture the friendship carefully.
ditto
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Devlyn on July 30, 2017, 05:13:41 PM
OMG, my nerd dream scenario starts this way! Everyone knows I work on military electronics, right? If they hired another transgender girl, we'd be........transistors!  :laugh: ;D 8) ::) >:-)

Hugs, Devlyn

Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: AnneK on July 30, 2017, 08:24:07 PM
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on July 30, 2017, 05:13:41 PM
we'd be........transistors!

Moving right along...
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: sarah1972 on July 30, 2017, 08:25:00 PM
I just laughed so hard about this one...


Quote from: Devlyn Marie on July 30, 2017, 05:13:41 PM
OMG, my nerd dream scenario starts this way! Everyone knows I work on military electronics, right? If they hired another transgender girl, we'd be........transistors!  :laugh: ;D 8) ::) >:-)

Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Angélique LaCava on August 01, 2017, 05:31:43 PM
Me and her are getting electrolysis together in a couple weeks, it was her idea. I havnt had any treatments done, but she's on her second. I told her I was worried about money and told her the highest I'm comfortable paying is $250 a session and she said that if I don't have enough that she will pay the rest for me. So I'm kinda nervous about that.
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Laurie on August 01, 2017, 08:27:08 PM
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on July 30, 2017, 05:13:41 PM
OMG, my nerd dream scenario starts this way! Everyone knows I work on military electronics, right? If they hired another transgender girl, we'd be........transistors!  :laugh: ;D 8) ::) >:-)

Hugs, Devlyn

GROOOOANNNN

  You better still be running...

Hugs,
    Laurie
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: JulieOnHerWay on August 01, 2017, 09:42:40 PM
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on July 30, 2017, 05:13:41 PM
OMG, my nerd dream scenario starts this way! Everyone knows I work on military electronics, right? If they hired another transgender girl, we'd be........transistors!  :laugh: ;D 8) ::) >:-)

Hugs, Devlyn

No, honey, you are not a transistor.  You are a transformer.  You are on your way.
Me, on the other hand, i am a transistor.  Still trying to figure who I am and trying not to be.
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: sfbarbie on August 24, 2017, 01:03:09 PM
I think one can be pretty or passable and also have masculine characteristics.  Perhaps this is what the customer thought? Or like the other poster said, you could look like brother and sister and still appear different genders.  The customer could have also known you were trans, and thought you were hot - but thought that the other trans girl wasn't attractive so he was mean towards her and not trying to be derogatory towards you.

Where I am from there was only a handful of trans girls.... a prostitute, a girl that worked at a college and did drag, a drag queen and myself.

The one that was a full time drag queen was/is my arch nemesis- every guy I wanted to date she had already been with because she transitioned before me... I from the get go always thought I was lightyears hotter than her, but there was this one guy who constantly told me I was ugly or not as hot as her.  People say stupid stuff sometimes like this dude-- perhaps he was just having a little crazy that day lol. 
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Wild Flower on August 26, 2017, 09:10:51 AM
People say stupid stuff all the time. I wouldn't take it seriously. Maybe that person has really good transgender glasses, and the person just spotted the right signs (unconsciously). He was doing it to be mean or something, but I doubt you look like her. I'm not going to ever look like Katelyn Jenner... nor are you, you look like Paris Hilton third cousin or something.

It was a very Regina George move regardless.

I was told I look like a bunch of people in my life (it changes with month and my style). I take it all lightly.

Madonna can pass as a Gwen Stefani look-alike back 1995. Looks can be change instantly, it's not hard to create a new face/image with a few tricks.

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimg00.deviantart.net%2F777a%2Fi%2F2010%2F086%2F8%2Ff%2Fmadonna_human_nature_cover_by_denjo_reloaded.jpg&hash=d3c1e840e6e278b665171a4836aa5c069a81d142)

Or this

(https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/M/MV5BYjViY2YzMjAtNmMwMC00YjA0LTlmNDktN2FmOTBiMDY1NTIwXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyNTk1NTMyNzM@._V1_.jpg)

or this (this is an accurate picture of her natural beauty when she was 30, she has dark hair and full eyebrows)
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2F3.bp.blogspot.com%2F-2Lfd29oKYMc%2FUFBphEplgQI%2FAAAAAAAAIrk%2FzAoaNghz4KI%2Fs1600%2F1989%2BHerb%2BRitts%2BLike%2BA%2BPrayer%2B%282000%2BX%2B2675%2B%2B3%2BMB%29%2Bpreview%2B300.jpg&hash=838353091c858033e9ec90683c03808e3ce1c393)
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Chaerlie Bjerkenstök on September 05, 2017, 05:39:30 AM
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on July 30, 2017, 05:13:41 PM
OMG, my nerd dream scenario starts this way! Everyone knows I work on military electronics, right? If they hired another transgender girl, we'd be........transistors!  [emoji23] ;D 8) ::) >:-)

Hugs, Devlyn
It made me giggle!

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Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Toni on September 05, 2017, 11:54:21 AM
Thanks, Devlyn, I needed that!  Toni
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Paige on September 05, 2017, 01:42:56 PM
All my life people have said I look a lot like one of my sisters and my mother.  Maybe a little more these days.  I'm on low dose and haven't transitioned.
Title: Re: Started working with another mtf transgender at my new job.
Post by: Artesia on September 05, 2017, 06:40:56 PM
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on July 30, 2017, 05:13:41 PM
OMG, my nerd dream scenario starts this way! Everyone knows I work on military electronics, right? If they hired another transgender girl, we'd be........transistors!  :laugh: ;D 8) ::) >:-)

Hugs, Devlyn

I knew there was a reason I liked you.  I love your sense of humor!