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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Larisa on July 29, 2017, 02:51:43 PM

Title: Well thats a lack of a friend
Post by: Larisa on July 29, 2017, 02:51:43 PM
Okay so yesterday I messaged one of the few people who knows a picture of me of what I would look if I started to change. It was ofcourse not passable. She ever since I told her months back I dont plan on transitioning, she has not spoke to me since even though she at first seemed positive about it all. She assumed that I was transitioning and I told her no and she has not said anything to me. That was several months ago since so I thought this picture might help.

I dont get her or her fake support if it was fake or if shes angry because I wont transition or what. My hope was she would get it when I sent her that picture but nope.

It's not like I dont plan on like getting facial hair removal sometime. Ive got almost 500$s saved up for that. I am transitioning in some subtle ways so it's not like Im doing nothing but really what I do is really none of her business.

Im kinda done with her.
Title: Re: Well thats a lack of a friend
Post by: Jan on July 30, 2017, 04:27:07 AM
Larisa

Be careful of burning bridges.  I eventually came out to a very close female friend and after a short period of silence she is now my rock.

Just saying.

Jan
Title: Re: Well thats a lack of a friend
Post by: Katy on July 30, 2017, 05:27:26 AM
I have to agree with Jan.  There could be a whole host of reasons why the support you expected hasn't been forthcoming.  People have their own lives to live, their own issues with which they must contend, and their own dramas they need to try to manage leaving little time for the lives, issues and dramas of others.  Reading people and/or interpreting silence is a dodgy business even under ideal circumstances.  Of course, you may be right about the individual but even if you are there is little (virtually nothing save for the momentary pleasure of getting your own back) to be gained by burning bridges.  If the person has moved on, so must you.  However, slamming the door on the way out doesn't accomplish anything.  It would be better to leave the door of communication open and just concentrate on building relationships with others.  You never know, she may come round some day.